In the meantime, he's so attentive to the baby and rubs my belly and very interested to hear what the midwife says etc but I'm feeling a bit underloved myself.
He's very busy and stressed out with his new teaching job and waiting for a decent pay because he's only had half a months so far. But this morning I was talking to him and he just stared blind at the telly and didn't hear me. I said to him 'you're not listening are you?' and he didnt reply so i just walked off. He's done this a few times- so engaged in the TV because he has to go to work he doesnt listen.
I'm so paranoid he's gona leave me
I've told him and he keeps telling me 'dont be stupid I'm going to work' but I just cant help it!
Aww Hun. It's natural to feel a bit vulnerable I think. But try not to worry - he sounds like he is genuinely interested in you and baby. Plus my DH is always forgetting to listen me too - drives me mad!! Think it's a man thing - they learn to zone us out
I feel so terribly fat & unattractive and there is nothing I can do to stop my body shape changing. I'm getting bigger & harder by the day and I'm still eating like a race horse (midwife said thats being preg with a boy that does not stop moving!!).
I lost 3 stone before and I feel so out of control and I cant do anything and its getting me down. It doesnt help that I'm sat on my computer all day doing uni work because I finish in a few weeks time. I wish i could afford to go swimming a few times a week or something but I just cant at the moment.
Popping over from first trimester.. I'm like this too, I wake up most nights after dreaming that he's left me, I then watch him sleep cos I can't drift back of.. I honestly couldn't ask for a better partner, he is just perfect and I know if I carry this on then ill push him away..
Hope your ok x x
I always try and dress nice (the best I can on a budget with maternity clothes). I always have freshly washed and blown dried hair everyday and I always put on make up, even if I'm staying in. Fair play my razor has grown cobwebs lately but its getting harder to shave my legs let alone my twinkle.
It's totally a pregnancy thing which will pass but that doesn't make it any easier.
I woke up the other morning after a dream he had left me to find that he woke up early and was downstairs watching TV and had left me sleeping in bed. I went downstairs in flood of tears giving him a huge row for leaving me (both in my dream and that morning).
Oh dear, this sounds like me
My OH went to a work dinner and stayed out late then the next day I found a business card in his pocket for some woman. I went absolutely hysterical and cried and even phoned her mobile number. When I confronted him with it he said 'oh yeah that's the person who gave me a quote for a pool - do you want a pool?' We had been talking about having a pool put in at our new house, he even had the quote to show me. When I looked at the card again I saw it was for a pool and landscaping place.
The next week I was looking at our computer browsing history (paranoia much?) and saw a couple of email headings like 'miss you so much' and 'love you hugs' I couldn't open them but knew they were not to/from me so I completely flipped out and made myself literally sick with worry all day. That afternoon i suddenly remembered that my 13 year old also has an email account at gmail and sure enough when I checked, they were hers, writing to her friends in the town we've just moved from.
Craziest part is, he has never ever said or done anything to suggest an affair, is loyal and honest and decent and loving and supportive - my fears were completely unfounded and I'm convinced it was just pregnancy hysteria. I was plagued with this feeling from about week 14-20 and now it is completely gone and I trust him 100%. sheesh, hormones!
It is a lot to take in when your bodies changing etc but it's actually good you tell him how you're feeling!
my hubby said yesterday "your belly's so big" and I thought "oh dear, it's going to get a lot bigger before we're through".
My OH sometimes zones me out but he's done this for yrs and it's a boy thing (some friends do it to friends too) they can only concentrate on one thing at a time-so I wouldn't worry about that, as long as you let him know it bugs you!
Maybe you should tell him how you're feeling so that he can let you know how lovely he still thinks you look/are!
also you're not letting yourself go... you;re growing a baby!
you're not alone!
I'm like this! I make it harder on myyself by convincing myself that because we're not married he could waltz off at any time. (technically he could but I don't think he will) plus he lives in london and I'm still in the midlands (looking for a place down there) this makes my paranoia even worse!
I feel so silly sometimes. X
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