Will you give away your baby stuff?

ChesMik4eva · Mar 18th, 2012, 19:31 PM

A friend of mine was shopping for some baby stuff with me the other day and said, "I'm glad you're having a baby first so I can just have all your stuff and not have to spend all this money."

I didn't really say anything back but I know that wants to start TTC sometime towards the end of this year and I don't know if I'll be ready to get rid of my baby stuff that soon. I don't know when I want to have second baby but I don't want them too far apart and sort of thought I would hang on to most of my stuff for the second.

Question - do you think I should keep it and not give anything away even if I'm not sure when I'll have another? Or am I being selfish and should give it to my friend?

What will you do with your baby stuff?

ace28 · Mar 18th, 2012, 19:38 PM

We're planning on hanging on to ours... I think most people do if they're planning on having another one. Your friend should understand that... just slip it into the conversation sometime, maybe?

Angelbabymama · Mar 18th, 2012, 19:39 PM

I'm keeping mine as I'm hoping to have #2 not too long after this one (start ttc when lo's about 18 months) it's not selfish, it's your stuff. It was cheeky of her to assume you'd give it to her imho.

ellinme1 · Mar 18th, 2012, 19:40 PM

I will keep mine until I am sure I am finished having kids.. once I am finished, I will give it all away

ChesMik4eva · Mar 18th, 2012, 19:59 PM

I kind of thought it was a bit cheeky too but thought maybe it was just my hormones. I'm having a boy so if I have a girl next and she has a boy then I'm happy to give her my newborn clothes I guess. But my pram, cot, car seat and things like that are expensive so I don't think I'll be able to part with it.

Plus we both earn around the same so it's not like I'm much better off and can afford to buy brand new things all the time. I think maybe I'll just mention that I want another baby soon if it comes up again..

GoodLuckForAL · Mar 18th, 2012, 20:03 PM

...I would say, if this is your first, dont give it away. Just in case you have another one;0))

PipSqueaker · Mar 18th, 2012, 20:09 PM

If you're the one paying all of that money for it, don't let her make you feel guilty for a second. Get your use out of it before being generous in giving it to her.

Though at the same time, I can see myself saying something like that as a stupid joke and not thinking it all the way through first. So she may not have even meant it.

lyricsop03 · Mar 18th, 2012, 20:10 PM

It was silly of her to assume. Just say you're not quite ready to give it up. If she's smart, she'll understand.

ChesMik4eva · Mar 18th, 2012, 20:13 PM

You're right she probably said it without thinking. If she gets pissed off at me for not wanting to part with certain stuff that's a bit silly.

okmomma · Mar 18th, 2012, 21:00 PM

We kept everything from #1. There will be 9 years between #1 and #2. I am so glad we kept it all. I did let my SIL borrow a few things for her baby, but she was ok with me not giving her stuff. We were not going to get rid of anything until we were sure we were done. We are done after this one. Then I will get rid of things. Do not feel like you have to let others have or borrow your stuff if you are not comfortable with it.

Mar 18th, 2012, 19:31 PM	#1
ChesMik4eva Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Darwin, Australia Posts: 1,107	Will you give away your baby stuff? A friend of mine was shopping for some baby stuff with me the other day and said, "I'm glad you're having a baby first so I can just have all your stuff and not have to spend all this money." I didn't really say anything back but I know that wants to start TTC sometime towards the end of this year and I don't know if I'll be ready to get rid of my baby stuff that soon. I don't know when I want to have second baby but I don't want them too far apart and sort of thought I would hang on to most of my stuff for the second. Question - do you think I should keep it and not give anything away even if I'm not sure when I'll have another? Or am I being selfish and should give it to my friend? What will you do with your baby stuff?

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Mar 18th, 2012, 19:39 PM	#3
Angelbabymama Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: London, UK. Posts: 1,076	I'm keeping mine as I'm hoping to have #2 not too long after this one (start ttc when lo's about 18 months) it's not selfish, it's your stuff. It was cheeky of her to assume you'd give it to her imho.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 19:40 PM	#4
ellinme1 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 349	I will keep mine until I am sure I am finished having kids.. once I am finished, I will give it all away

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Mar 18th, 2012, 19:59 PM	#5
ChesMik4eva Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Darwin, Australia Posts: 1,107	I kind of thought it was a bit cheeky too but thought maybe it was just my hormones. I'm having a boy so if I have a girl next and she has a boy then I'm happy to give her my newborn clothes I guess. But my pram, cot, car seat and things like that are expensive so I don't think I'll be able to part with it. Plus we both earn around the same so it's not like I'm much better off and can afford to buy brand new things all the time. I think maybe I'll just mention that I want another baby soon if it comes up again..

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Mar 18th, 2012, 20:03 PM	#6
GoodLuckForAL Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: New York Posts: 103	...I would say, if this is your first, dont give it away. Just in case you have another one;0))

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Mar 18th, 2012, 19:38 PM	#2
ace28 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Indiana, USA Posts: 1,130	We're planning on hanging on to ours... I think most people do if they're planning on having another one. Your friend should understand that... just slip it into the conversation sometime, maybe?

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Mar 18th, 2012, 20:09 PM	#7
PipSqueaker Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Utah Posts: 146	If you're the one paying all of that money for it, don't let her make you feel guilty for a second. Get your use out of it before being generous in giving it to her. Though at the same time, I can see myself saying something like that as a stupid joke and not thinking it all the way through first. So she may not have even meant it.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 20:10 PM	#8
lyricsop03 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 674	It was silly of her to assume. Just say you're not quite ready to give it up. If she's smart, she'll understand.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 20:13 PM	#9
ChesMik4eva Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Darwin, Australia Posts: 1,107	You're right she probably said it without thinking. If she gets pissed off at me for not wanting to part with certain stuff that's a bit silly.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 21:00 PM	#10
okmomma Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: USA Posts: 285	We kept everything from #1. There will be 9 years between #1 and #2. I am so glad we kept it all. I did let my SIL borrow a few things for her baby, but she was ok with me not giving her stuff. We were not going to get rid of anything until we were sure we were done. We are done after this one. Then I will get rid of things. Do not feel like you have to let others have or borrow your stuff if you are not comfortable with it.

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