I feel very silly writing this.

In November I stopped talking to my best friend of 7 years; her and her fiancé stole my card in the middle of the night whilst staying at my house and stole £300 from a cash point to pay off their debts. Their excuse was that because I just got a tax rebate they didn't think i'd realise.

Now don't go rushing to conclusions, I DON'T want to be friends with them ever again! But....

It just feels so wrong them not knowing about my pregnancy.
We were extremely close and they were both closer then family. She was there for me when I was told by doctors I might not be able to conceive naturally and she too was LTTTC so we were always there for each other.

If we were still friends i'd know that she'd be the one i'd be ringing to tell all the gross details to!

I thought that surely they would have found out by now as i'm still in contact with some of their family and mutual friends but when I went round to collect money the other day (they pay me back in instalments but have so far only managed £100 ) and they started telling me about their cat having kittens so they obviously don't have a clue lol. They hand me the money through the car window so they wouldn't have seen a bump.

I just don't understand why I feel so guilty about not telling them, they have no right to know but it really plays on my mind! I might one day end up collecting my money with a baby in tow and them not knowing it's mine!

Why am I so bothered?!!

You feel weird because you're so used to being able to tell her anything. You probably haven't gotten that close to anyone else since so you don't have anyone else to vent that stuff too. It's understandable.

On the other hand, she obviously didn't value your friendship as much as you did because she was willing to steal from you. If you were that close and she was desperate for money couldn't she have asked you for it? Pretty despicable behaviour in my opinion. Once you've got your money I would forget her.

i was best friends with a girl i went to high school with. Long story short she had me sent to a psychologist, suspended from school, hated by everyone, ruined my relationship by telling my bf i was cheating on him when i wasnt, and serveral other stupid things. Either way i debated telling her. i told her thiings got worse, but now couple months down the road and were not great friends, but she is happy and excited for me altho we dont hang out ever and hardly ever talk. she appreciated that i told her despite us not liking each other because we had been friends for 5 years. either way. i think that what your friend did was very very wrong and her excuse was so wrong buttttt i think you letting her know might put your mind at ease, and she wont feel so upset. But. that doesnt mean you have to be close friends again. Just casually tell her.

Nope, not mental... Theres a girl who I had been best friends with for eight years untill she took the lies one step too far that I told, it didn't feel right her not knowing because we knew eachother inside out. She's happy for me even though we're not friends anymore and she appreciated me wanting to tell her and understood why I did.

I understand what you all are saying but I disagree! I have only officially told people that I'm close to and feel like I want to tell. Anyone that doesn't mean much to me can hear it somewhere else, it's none of their business.

I'm looking forward to the day I'm walking through the shops with a pram and people I went to school with see me and be like You had a baby?!?!

Glad it's not just me :-) she text me this morning saying she can't pay me this week (nothing new) cause her cat needs vet treatment.
I think if I get a chance to mention it I will but it feels weird just sneeking the info in a text lol

Tell her thats its not acceptable, you need the money back because you pregnant & have things to buy. Just slip it in that way & make her feel guilty.

You feel bad because you are a loyal friend who was badly let down by someone.

Tbh I wish I could be that good a friend. I would have taken them to the police and had them charged with theft etc.

If you want to tell them, do it but I doubt they will care that much given they were prepared to steal from you. Sorry if that sounds harsh. I don't mean it to.

I think you need to draw a line under this and move on with your life and involve the people who want to be your friend and who are worthy of being involved in this special time in your life.

I agree with Torz- infact I would also say to them- failure to pay me on time as promised will result in legal action. I would have phoned the police.
They could easily do it to someone else. How did they know your pin number? How did they own up to it?

I am in a similar situation, My brother was with a girl 11 + years ago when I was only 9. They split up and we stayed in contact, we got back into constant contact when I was 17 (she was 23) and became inseperable. I even got a house with her and we were closer than family. I moved out after finding out she had been sleeping with my boyfriend behind my back, it got really messy etc. We have mutual friends and she found out I was pregnant and sent me a Facebook mail, it hurts not being close and sharing it all but I know deep down I will never forgive her or trust her so I simply said thank you, wished her well then moved on to ignore anything else.