Those that know gender, are you telling family and friends? - Page 2

bubbles777 · Mar 20th, 2012, 05:02 AM

I will hopefully be finding out next week. I'm torn about telling people as my husbands sister is expecting a girl and is very disappointed. She keeps saying to me 'I know you're having a boy' Almost like she's mentally preparing herself against the jealousy if i am having a boy. Me and DH don't care what we're hqving but she is seriously spoiling it for me. xx

vintagecat · Mar 20th, 2012, 06:12 AM

We'll be finding out the gender around 30 weeks. I don't plan on sharing the gender or names. I might tell my mom the gender, but otherwise don't see any reason why people need to know. Nobody is going to be contributing much to the baby and I'm SO picky with baby clothes that I would prefer to pick things myself.

rachelkt · Mar 20th, 2012, 06:17 AM

We were going to find out the sex but have now decided to stay team yellow! I thought briefly about finding out but not telling anyone but even if I could keep it quiet DH might spill when he's had a few beers lol!

I think the best way to keep it secret if you're finding out is to tell people that you're not finding out then no one will ask you

vintagecat · Mar 20th, 2012, 06:19 AM

Yep, simply saying that the baby wasn't in a good enough position to determine the gender every time they ask maybe...

notmommyyet · Mar 20th, 2012, 06:21 AM

we told everybody. Never even thought about keeping it a secret. i dont know why anybody would. however we had a gender party set for the day after my gender scan (cause I couldnt hold out too long) and everybody was msging me telling me to tell them. family that lived on the other side of the country were saying since they couldnt make it they should get told. so I feel you on how everybody will be bugging you

LostAndAlone · Mar 20th, 2012, 06:43 AM

Im just going to tell everyone lol, they will find out soon enough anyway and this way they can buy a decent present rather than us ending up with loads of white and yellow lol. They wouldnt tell me when i was expecting my first as they werent allowed to as someone sued the hospital for getting it wrong!! Thus ruining it for everyone else lol so she was dressed in white and yellow until she outgrew the clothes we had lol and was mistaken for a boy loads of times which annoyed me lol so i will defo be letting everyone know!! I will also be sharing the name as soon as i know we have decided on one cos i know about 7 others who are all pregnant and im not wanting them to steal my name lol!

Mrsctobe · Mar 20th, 2012, 06:45 AM

I don't think finding out spoils the surprise at all!
but yes we have told peeps what we are having. the annoying thing is peeps like strangers would ask when you were like 10weeks pregnant if we knew the sex :s but dont really ask now or if they do they seem so surprised we know lol x

Mindy_mini · Mar 20th, 2012, 06:53 AM

We found out with both dd and this pregnancy and only told my dad because he was given 48hrs to live when I was pregnant with dd. This time, he sadly passed away 6weeks ago. We told him the sex and the names we've picked.

People can get really naffed off when you don't tell them and I've had a lot of "well why bother finding out" or people trying to trick me which really pisses me off tbh. Respect our decision!

We both found it helped us bond with dd loads before she was even born knowing what she was going to be and it was special for us. I can understand people who don't want to know but for us finding out was really important for bonding. Tbh I was sure dd was a boy and I was shocked when they said girl and had quite a bit of gender disappointment which I was able to get over knowing what she was from 20wks.

arj · Mar 20th, 2012, 13:49 PM

I personally, when I know someone is having a 'baby girl called Emma" or a "baby boy called John" Im not as excited to find out if theyve had thier baby etc.
When I dont know what they are having or what name I cant wait to know!

StephBord · Mar 20th, 2012, 13:50 PM

We told everyone the name and sex as soon as we found out. I am just too excited not to share!

Mar 20th, 2012, 05:02 AM	#11
bubbles777 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Glasgow Posts: 531	I will hopefully be finding out next week. I'm torn about telling people as my husbands sister is expecting a girl and is very disappointed. She keeps saying to me 'I know you're having a boy' Almost like she's mentally preparing herself against the jealousy if i am having a boy. Me and DH don't care what we're hqving but she is seriously spoiling it for me. xx

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Mar 20th, 2012, 06:12 AM	#12
vintagecat Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Japan (from U.S.) Posts: 2,042	We'll be finding out the gender around 30 weeks. I don't plan on sharing the gender or names. I might tell my mom the gender, but otherwise don't see any reason why people need to know. Nobody is going to be contributing much to the baby and I'm SO picky with baby clothes that I would prefer to pick things myself.

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Mar 20th, 2012, 06:17 AM	#13
rachelkt Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: UK Posts: 846	We were going to find out the sex but have now decided to stay team yellow! I thought briefly about finding out but not telling anyone but even if I could keep it quiet DH might spill when he's had a few beers lol! I think the best way to keep it secret if you're finding out is to tell people that you're not finding out then no one will ask you

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Mar 20th, 2012, 06:19 AM	#14
vintagecat Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Japan (from U.S.) Posts: 2,042	Yep, simply saying that the baby wasn't in a good enough position to determine the gender every time they ask maybe...

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Mar 20th, 2012, 06:21 AM	#15
notmommyyet Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 2,396	we told everybody. Never even thought about keeping it a secret. i dont know why anybody would. however we had a gender party set for the day after my gender scan (cause I couldnt hold out too long) and everybody was msging me telling me to tell them. family that lived on the other side of the country were saying since they couldnt make it they should get told. so I feel you on how everybody will be bugging you

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Mar 20th, 2012, 06:43 AM	#16
LostAndAlone Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1,733	Im just going to tell everyone lol, they will find out soon enough anyway and this way they can buy a decent present rather than us ending up with loads of white and yellow lol. They wouldnt tell me when i was expecting my first as they werent allowed to as someone sued the hospital for getting it wrong!! Thus ruining it for everyone else lol so she was dressed in white and yellow until she outgrew the clothes we had lol and was mistaken for a boy loads of times which annoyed me lol so i will defo be letting everyone know!! I will also be sharing the name as soon as i know we have decided on one cos i know about 7 others who are all pregnant and im not wanting them to steal my name lol!

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Mar 20th, 2012, 06:45 AM	#17
Mrsctobe Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Uk Posts: 6,554	I don't think finding out spoils the surprise at all! but yes we have told peeps what we are having. the annoying thing is peeps like strangers would ask when you were like 10weeks pregnant if we knew the sex :s but dont really ask now or if they do they seem so surprised we know lol x

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Mar 20th, 2012, 06:53 AM	#18
Mindy_mini Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 2,080	We found out with both dd and this pregnancy and only told my dad because he was given 48hrs to live when I was pregnant with dd. This time, he sadly passed away 6weeks ago. We told him the sex and the names we've picked. People can get really naffed off when you don't tell them and I've had a lot of "well why bother finding out" or people trying to trick me which really pisses me off tbh. Respect our decision! We both found it helped us bond with dd loads before she was even born knowing what she was going to be and it was special for us. I can understand people who don't want to know but for us finding out was really important for bonding. Tbh I was sure dd was a boy and I was shocked when they said girl and had quite a bit of gender disappointment which I was able to get over knowing what she was from 20wks.

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Mar 20th, 2012, 13:49 PM	#19
arj Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Down Under Posts: 4,446	I personally, when I know someone is having a 'baby girl called Emma" or a "baby boy called John" Im not as excited to find out if theyve had thier baby etc. When I dont know what they are having or what name I cant wait to know!

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Mar 20th, 2012, 13:50 PM	#20
StephBord Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 363	We told everyone the name and sex as soon as we found out. I am just too excited not to share!

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