I don't know how it happen, i was fine this morning.. husband went to work and I'm staying up working on illustation, then my mom popped online, i talk to her.. saying I felt the baby move yesturday for the first time.. and you know normal talk..

And then I had to stop drawing, I started feeling sick.. and upset and it's not easy.. I'm across the ocean, I haven't been home for 3 years and I cant afford a plane ticket, the family is saving money to buy us ticket when we're going to move back for next year. while my hsuband is working 45-50 hours a week to save for his visa so we can move to Canada.

it must be my hormones, but I get emotional often, I miss home, I would do anything to be home for 2 minutes, to hug my Dad and mom and my brothers and sister.
I guess it's not easy because I don't have support from them.
And the side of my husband mom, hates me and doesn't want to be in our life anymore just because I got pregnant.

Sorry this is a useless thread but I need to talk to someone or be a bit cheered up. I don't have many friends and I stay at home most of the time. it's very sad. I also don't want to be too upset to stress the baby.

Anyone moved away from home and miss it.. I surely do...

There ain't a day that goes by when I don't miss my family. They're not exactly far away, but it still hurts enough. I probably get to see my mum twice a year and I don't have anyone here. It sucks so much.

It's really hard to give advice - if I had it I'd definitely take it myself, but I just don't know what to say. I can imagine how you feel though, it's so lonely.

My OHs family don't bother with us. I thought they would since knowing I was pregnant, but they never call or visit and they only live 10 minutes away.

I wish I could go home sometimes, but it takes so long and costs so much

Oh, I know exactly how you feel.

I'm in the exact same situation, living overseas and haven't seen my family in nearly two years. Not as long as you, but it stresses me out just the same. I'm thankful for Skype and email...I can't imagine how difficult being away from family would be without it.

My in-laws really have nothing to do with our baby either. MIL is just thinking it's all about her, just like our wedding. I get along with her just fine, but she's so pathetic with wanting all the attention and pity. Last year during the Tohoku earthquake and tsunami, she was looking for people to sympathize for HER because her son and daughter-in-law were 'trapped' in Japan. We don't have the money to be buying plane tickets, especially not during a panic. As for the FIL, I don't want anything to do with him. He's a religious nut and will only ever talk to my husband about how our baby is going to end up in hell because we aren't Christians. Ugh...thanks for the congratulations I guess?

I don't have any advice other than to remember that you aren't going to be away from family forever. It certainly does feel like decades go by when you can't speak and hug though, so I understand. If we were better off financially, I would be going to visit my family every six months if I could!

We're in te same boat sorta eh?
My husband side of his family, mostly his Dad side helped us move to our new house at night time so his mother wouldn't know where we moved. Because she tried to call to harrasm his son by swearing a lot and saying he's pathetic. and that he reminded of "him" (his Dad died from a alcohol poisoning because he was depress and my husband's mom, went there to give him booze.. like vodka, whisky and all sorts, and now that he die, she pretend it's not her. She knew he had a probleme and wasn't suppose to drink but she brought it to him anyways)
So.. she started doing the same to my husband because we "fell out" my husband just pourred the drink in the sink.
but after being chased by them with their car down the street or back alley, after all those threats note and call and knock on window and doors. We had to call the police and I ended up havign 2 aggressif panic attack.

So.. now Only his Dad side, grandma, uncle,aunt and cousin talk to us. We had to deleted his mother side from facebook and not talk to them and even some friends because some gossiped to his mom what we were doing.

So.. we moved to far away from everyone, I got no friends around. and I just try to stay strong. it's not easy.
I know how you feel when no one calls you.. it's lonely.
travelling is so expensive eh?
I just worry about my Dad.. he's 87 years old and he's willing to help us to move back with paying for our flights and I said I will pay him back, maybe make a few payment on his car or house when I get back or give him a thank you gift, but he's been more than wonderful. Same thing with my mom she help us by a lot.

I need to be close to them. I need a sort of portal to just go there for the day, would be nice.

I'm starting to feel bit better now.

I don't blame you for cutting ties. Family is important, but not if it's detrimental to your well-being! Because my husband's dad stresses me out so much, I haven't seen them in over a year and they only live an hour away by train. He's just so overbearing. If you don't enjoy being around someone, I never think you have to suffer just for the sake of making that person feel included.

Sometimes it just helps to vent about missing home too. I do it occasionally with friends on Facebook and whatnot, but really, they don't understand that well. Unless a person has spent time overseas, it's hard to compare experiences!

you may not have any advice, but reading what you have say, does make me feel a bit better to know I'm not the only one who's struggling.
We both know it's not easy mostly when were miles and miles away from home.
your MIL just remind me of mines.. she's really a attention seeker she apparantly have bad back and arthritis and and get funds from the gov because she's disabled... but she go to bingo, dance with the kids, drinks plenty even though she's diabetic and cmplaint she can't work because of her bad back but I seem her bending forward and back and i think she could get a job with a chair and a desk you know. *sighs*
and it's shocking to know about the FIL omg!! that's terrible.
but aslong as your husband you and baby are going to be together, I think it's all that matters. your brickwall is build strong and if it break, you repair it and you all get stronger.

Me and my husband really connected since we moved away. maybe that's why I feel lonely when he's at work.

Yeah, same here. My husband and I are much closer now. I miss him a lot when he's at work too. He works REALLY long hours that I hate, but I know he does love his job. If he hated it, I'm certain he wouldn't stay so long. It's mainly because of the long commute home on the trains too.

I keep thinking about how nice it will be once the baby is here. We've always been crazy about kids and starting a family is very exciting. I hope you and your husband can enjoy the rest of your stay overseas. At this point, it's just a countdown until you're with your new baby and until you're able to travel and see family. All positive things.

Make me wonder if my kid will be half Canadian french (Acadian french) and half british. because the Dad is british hehe..

I feel a bit more relief, I think it's something I had to talk about haha. I can't wait until baby is here then maybe things will be a bit more better.

just wanted to say hugs to all you ladies missing your families,it must be a really tough situation to be in xx
carmelly im so sorry about how his mother and her family have acted and that u secretly had to move i just dont understand how people can act like that against others let alone thier own family.she obviously needs some kind of professional help.
im glad u will be going home next yr,once your baby gets here im sure time will seem to go quicker. xx

Awww its tough being away from family. I live in the US while mines in Canada however its only about a days drive but still not practical to see them all the time. It is hard