Don't think Im getting a baby shower:(

AngelGabriel · Mar 26th, 2012, 21:27 PM

So I am thinking I may not get a baby shower. I have a little girl who is almost 4 and I had one with her...I didnt have one with my last baby boy, who I lost shortly after birth, and I am expecting a little boy this time and could really use some help with getting a baby boy collection started. Well, my mother (step) didn't even go to my first baby shower, and she hasn't shown any interest or said anything about planning one, and my gramma wont do it because she says it would cause to many family issues if she plans it and other reasons. So I am kinda upset

After losing my last baby boy....he had a heart defect and I lost him a few hours after birth for uknown reasons. ...I was really excited that I was blessed with another baby boy, but my dreams of a wonderful baby shower just seemed to have been flushed down the drain.

Am I selfish or I dunno....is there any other ways I can plan something without "planning my own baby shower"? I could really use help getting some baby boy things just to get me started..

rainbowskin · Mar 26th, 2012, 21:34 PM

Didn't want to r&r... I don't have any advice but know you're not alone,

I don't think I am getting a baby shower either. This is my first and I'm strapped for cash but managing to save up to try and buy everything I need. I also buy a few items each week so I'm not overwhelmed later on.

LadybugV4 · Mar 26th, 2012, 22:35 PM

This is my second and in my family we only do a shower for the first one. But you could have a "Come see the baby" shower right after he's born and I'm sure you would get some gift that way. I have a little girl and if baby # 2 is a boy I'll have a lot of shopping to do cause we got A LOT of pink and girly stuff. Just the way it goes sometimes I guess :S.
Good Luck.

DeeDee80 · Mar 26th, 2012, 22:46 PM

AngelGabriel do you have any friends who would throw one for you? I'm sorry that your family would see throwing a baby shower for you as creating family issues. I don't think my family will throw me one but I have two girlfriends who have offered. If your friends don't, I agree with the other lady who posted about having a 'come see the baby' party...every time I visit a friend who just had a baby I come bearing gifts...

CloverMouse · Mar 27th, 2012, 11:49 AM

My family only does baby showers for the first baby. So if I have another I don't expect one. That being said if you were to have a "welcome baby" party after the birth you would probably recieve some of the things you need.

Is there a reason your little boy can't use some of the things you had for your daughter? I know that you wouldnt want to dress him up in girly things, but I doubt he'll notice if you use a pink bathtub

mom and ttc · Mar 27th, 2012, 11:52 AM

you could ask a friend to do it with you
i will be having one, my daughter is only 2, however i am now having a boy, and live 6 hrs away from anyone who came to my first

jd83 · Mar 27th, 2012, 12:00 PM

I feel for ya, as I am not expecting a shower either. Kinda frustrating really; my sister is pregnant with her third baby, and my family is throwing her a shower again because they think she "needs" it more than I do. They think I am loaded or something, just because I went to college. I am already resigned to this, so we've just been getting what we need ourselves, a little at a time.

I like the idea a previous poster said about a "come see the baby" party. Most people bring a gift when they come see the new baby, so that sounds like a good idea if you can't get a friend or family member to throw a shower.

mrsp14 · Mar 27th, 2012, 12:05 PM

I never had a baby shower with dd and I doubt I'll get one this one. My family do t do showers ( to be fair it's an American thing more than British and my family are pretty British!!) and as we 're forces an move so often my close friends aren't really near me to throw one!!!

Would be nice to... My find got her Moses basket and everything for her flower.. I had to do it all myself!!

Dk1234 · Mar 27th, 2012, 12:43 PM

I'm one of those people who wouldn't have a big baby shower for my second child. ButI would get together with soem really close friends and my immediate family to celebrate the baby if I ever have a girl. Not for gifts really, but to have a party all in pink. That was one thing I was sad about when having a boy was the shower wouldn't be pink ah ha! Maybe just tell your close girlfriends and immediate family you want to have a dinner party before the baby comes so that your daughter can be a part of it. I'm sure some people would bring gifts,. However, I really wouldn't EXPECT anything because a lot of people have the mindset after your first you should be able to provide for yourself. Also, I def wouldn't do a registry. iThe meet the baby party soudns fun but you will be so out of sorts the first few weeks and not looking your best so I personally wouldn't want one of those. I reccomend using all your stuff from your daughter. Who cares if its pink as long as it isn't clothes. Also, go second hand shopping.

Amarna · Mar 27th, 2012, 17:19 PM

I won't be having one either. This is my second, my daughter was born nearly five years ago and our house burnt to the ground 2 years ago so we lost most all baby stuff we had. It would be nice but I live four hours from family, don't really have any close friends and people tend to forget what happened...or don't like to talk/think about it or whatever so it's not happening.

When my aunt had her second son she did a meet the baby party about a week after he was born. I thought that was a great idea. Most people brought small gifts for the baby as well and everyone had a good time.

Mar 26th, 2012, 21:27 PM	#1
AngelGabriel Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 221	Don't think Im getting a baby shower:( So I am thinking I may not get a baby shower. I have a little girl who is almost 4 and I had one with her...I didnt have one with my last baby boy, who I lost shortly after birth, and I am expecting a little boy this time and could really use some help with getting a baby boy collection started. Well, my mother (step) didn't even go to my first baby shower, and she hasn't shown any interest or said anything about planning one, and my gramma wont do it because she says it would cause to many family issues if she plans it and other reasons. So I am kinda upset After losing my last baby boy....he had a heart defect and I lost him a few hours after birth for uknown reasons. ...I was really excited that I was blessed with another baby boy, but my dreams of a wonderful baby shower just seemed to have been flushed down the drain. Am I selfish or I dunno....is there any other ways I can plan something without "planning my own baby shower"? I could really use help getting some baby boy things just to get me started..

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Mar 26th, 2012, 21:34 PM	#2
rainbowskin Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: California Posts: 949	Didn't want to r&r... I don't have any advice but know you're not alone, I don't think I am getting a baby shower either. This is my first and I'm strapped for cash but managing to save up to try and buy everything I need. I also buy a few items each week so I'm not overwhelmed later on.

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Mar 26th, 2012, 22:35 PM	#3
LadybugV4 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 166	This is my second and in my family we only do a shower for the first one. But you could have a "Come see the baby" shower right after he's born and I'm sure you would get some gift that way. I have a little girl and if baby # 2 is a boy I'll have a lot of shopping to do cause we got A LOT of pink and girly stuff. Just the way it goes sometimes I guess :S. Good Luck.

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Mar 26th, 2012, 22:46 PM	#4
DeeDee80 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: San Diego/Chula Vista Posts: 1,072	AngelGabriel do you have any friends who would throw one for you? I'm sorry that your family would see throwing a baby shower for you as creating family issues. I don't think my family will throw me one but I have two girlfriends who have offered. If your friends don't, I agree with the other lady who posted about having a 'come see the baby' party...every time I visit a friend who just had a baby I come bearing gifts...

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Mar 27th, 2012, 11:49 AM	#5
CloverMouse Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 916	My family only does baby showers for the first baby. So if I have another I don't expect one. That being said if you were to have a "welcome baby" party after the birth you would probably recieve some of the things you need. Is there a reason your little boy can't use some of the things you had for your daughter? I know that you wouldnt want to dress him up in girly things, but I doubt he'll notice if you use a pink bathtub

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Mar 27th, 2012, 11:52 AM	#6
mom and ttc Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: florida Posts: 2,709	you could ask a friend to do it with you i will be having one, my daughter is only 2, however i am now having a boy, and live 6 hrs away from anyone who came to my first

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Mar 27th, 2012, 12:00 PM	#7
jd83 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,365	I feel for ya, as I am not expecting a shower either. Kinda frustrating really; my sister is pregnant with her third baby, and my family is throwing her a shower again because they think she "needs" it more than I do. They think I am loaded or something, just because I went to college. I am already resigned to this, so we've just been getting what we need ourselves, a little at a time. I like the idea a previous poster said about a "come see the baby" party. Most people bring a gift when they come see the new baby, so that sounds like a good idea if you can't get a friend or family member to throw a shower.

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Mar 27th, 2012, 12:05 PM	#8
mrsp14 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Carterton, Oxfordshire Posts: 1,766	I never had a baby shower with dd and I doubt I'll get one this one. My family do t do showers ( to be fair it's an American thing more than British and my family are pretty British!!) and as we 're forces an move so often my close friends aren't really near me to throw one!!! Would be nice to... My find got her Moses basket and everything for her flower.. I had to do it all myself!!

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Mar 27th, 2012, 12:43 PM	#9
Dk1234 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Kentucky Posts: 5,008	I'm one of those people who wouldn't have a big baby shower for my second child. ButI would get together with soem really close friends and my immediate family to celebrate the baby if I ever have a girl. Not for gifts really, but to have a party all in pink. That was one thing I was sad about when having a boy was the shower wouldn't be pink ah ha! Maybe just tell your close girlfriends and immediate family you want to have a dinner party before the baby comes so that your daughter can be a part of it. I'm sure some people would bring gifts,. However, I really wouldn't EXPECT anything because a lot of people have the mindset after your first you should be able to provide for yourself. Also, I def wouldn't do a registry. iThe meet the baby party soudns fun but you will be so out of sorts the first few weeks and not looking your best so I personally wouldn't want one of those. I reccomend using all your stuff from your daughter. Who cares if its pink as long as it isn't clothes. Also, go second hand shopping.

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Mar 27th, 2012, 17:19 PM	#10
Amarna Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: New York State Posts: 1,628	I won't be having one either. This is my second, my daughter was born nearly five years ago and our house burnt to the ground 2 years ago so we lost most all baby stuff we had. It would be nice but I live four hours from family, don't really have any close friends and people tend to forget what happened...or don't like to talk/think about it or whatever so it's not happening. When my aunt had her second son she did a meet the baby party about a week after he was born. I thought that was a great idea. Most people brought small gifts for the baby as well and everyone had a good time.

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