To those that wanted one gender but having another - Page 3

Missy86 · Mar 28th, 2012, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by porkypig

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Originally Posted by Missy86

I know what you mean, on Friday if they tell me little one is a boy I will be a bit sad but it will be great for Rhys to have a little brother

missy, looking at your babys nub, its looks like a girl. im no expert but have seen lots of nub pics. let us know! xx

Bless you for saying that but I put the pic on ingender and they said you couldnt see the nub
I guess we will find out Friday

Sunshine12 · Mar 28th, 2012, 10:29 AM

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I had a little gender disappointment with my first son. I had wanted a girl so badly and then with this one I was really hoping for a girl again but the tech said boy and I wanted to cry. That feeling seriously only lasted for about an hour this time tho because my boys are going to be so close in age and its going to be great for my son to have a little brother! Currently I am very very excited that its a boy!

Small side rant: when I told people I really wanted this baby to be a girl, I felt so judged because they all said things like "you shouldnt worry about the gender at all, you should just be happy if its healthy, especially you!" see, my first son has down syndrome. I think that the gender and the health are so unrelated! Why is it that I cant be concerned about both?! And I especially cant be disappointed with one gender or the other because my first child has special needs?? Anyone else have people like this in your life?

Thankfully not but I can totally understand why you would be upset by that. I dont see how the 2 are directly related either. x

kat132 · Mar 28th, 2012, 10:30 AM

i found out today that i am having another boy and i cried when i got home and i am still trying not to cry. not excited about this pregnancy now which i feel terrible about but i am sure when he is here i will feel different. i am not having any more kids so i will just have to be happy with 2 boys.
hope you get what you want.
xxxxxx

kissesandhugs · Mar 28th, 2012, 10:46 AM

Thanks for this thread, sunshine. I'm having a really hard time. Our scan is Friday and I just keep thinking...what if it's a boy? I think I'll be heartbroken, I think I'll cry and I hope to enjoy the scan still. I'm SO scared. I keep thinking of the tech saying "It's a BOY!" And me just bawling my eyes out, my stomach dropping to my feet. It's stressing me the eff out

It's good to hear that once you have that baby in your arms not a thing matters. I'm just so nervous. And I know my OH will rub it in my face, he won't mean to but he will. We talk about it daily. I think I'm going to talk to him and tell him how strongly that will hurt me and I won't do the same to him, bc I think he'll be equally upset if it's a girl. Either way one of us will be hurt, it won't be our faults but I just want BOTH of us to be happy.

mumzie2b · Mar 28th, 2012, 10:57 AM

i feel really guilty about not wanting a boy, everyone thinks im having a boy, even i feel im having a boy, but since i can remember, iv always wanted a little girl first, OH is also wanting a little girl 1st. ill find out for definate in a few days when i get my final results from my CVS.. then its all set in stone, theres not a chance they may have got it wrong.. i thought i was the only one that would be disappointed.. i feel a bit better about it now xx

Sunshine12 · Mar 28th, 2012, 11:20 AM

Ladies that are finding out soon, please keep us posted on what you are having. Fingers crossed its what you are hoping for.

x x

AngelofTroy · Mar 28th, 2012, 11:44 AM

We are team yellow and keep saying that it doesn't matter. This is our first and we plan on 2 or 3 so it really shouldn't matter...

However, we've both been calling baby 'he' since we found out, and OH has a niece but there are no young boys in the family either side, so I found myself really disappointed when I posted our 12 week scan and literally everyone guessed girl!

I didn't know I minded til then!

I know I'll love a girl just as much when they're here but I understand gender disappointment now and I never did before!

I've got it in my head that baby's a girl now though, started looking at dresses etc and getting excited!

MrsButterfly · Mar 28th, 2012, 12:22 PM

I always thought i'd be a mum to a little girl. But was convinced since bfp that I was carrying a boy and lo and behold at scan found out we are. I was initially a little sad (mostly because we think we'll be one and done) that I'd never get my little girl. But DH was so excited which was lovely. Aside from having to accept that boys clothes are not, in my opinion, anywhere near as cute as little girls, over the past few weeks I've really come round to the idea of having a baby boy. Actually to the point where I can't now imagine having a girl.

Ive liked having the time before birth to get my head round it but still I genuinely believe that if you don't find out before birth, you'll fall immediately in love with your little one as soon as they're in your arms. It's tough when the image you have always had in your head isn't what becomes reality and I don't think other people always understand unless they've been there xx

Mummy2Be__x · Mar 28th, 2012, 12:31 PM

I think once your baby is here that feeling will go away, can't really comment on that though as this is my first and don't mind if it's a boy or a girl x

Sunshine12 · Mar 28th, 2012, 13:39 PM

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Originally Posted by AngelofTroy

We are team yellow and keep saying that it doesn't matter. This is our first and we plan on 2 or 3 so it really shouldn't matter...

However, we've both been calling baby 'he' since we found out, and OH has a niece but there are no young boys in the family either side, so I found myself really disappointed when I posted our 12 week scan and literally everyone guessed girl!

I didn't know I minded til then!

I know I'll love a girl just as much when they're here but I understand gender disappointment now and I never did before!

I've got it in my head that baby's a girl now though, started looking at dresses etc and getting excited!

I wouldnt worry about that hun. Everyone said girl for my 12 week scan but everyone said boy for my 20 week! Both were unanimous so Im still clueless!

Mar 28th, 2012, 10:30 AM	#23
kat132 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Isle of Bute Posts: 226	i found out today that i am having another boy and i cried when i got home and i am still trying not to cry. not excited about this pregnancy now which i feel terrible about but i am sure when he is here i will feel different. i am not having any more kids so i will just have to be happy with 2 boys. hope you get what you want. xxxxxx

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Mar 28th, 2012, 10:46 AM	#24
kissesandhugs Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Michigan,US Posts: 4,043	Thanks for this thread, sunshine. I'm having a really hard time. Our scan is Friday and I just keep thinking...what if it's a boy? I think I'll be heartbroken, I think I'll cry and I hope to enjoy the scan still. I'm SO scared. I keep thinking of the tech saying "It's a BOY!" And me just bawling my eyes out, my stomach dropping to my feet. It's stressing me the eff out It's good to hear that once you have that baby in your arms not a thing matters. I'm just so nervous. And I know my OH will rub it in my face, he won't mean to but he will. We talk about it daily. I think I'm going to talk to him and tell him how strongly that will hurt me and I won't do the same to him, bc I think he'll be equally upset if it's a girl. Either way one of us will be hurt, it won't be our faults but I just want BOTH of us to be happy.

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Mar 28th, 2012, 10:57 AM	#25
mumzie2b Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 210	i feel really guilty about not wanting a boy, everyone thinks im having a boy, even i feel im having a boy, but since i can remember, iv always wanted a little girl first, OH is also wanting a little girl 1st. ill find out for definate in a few days when i get my final results from my CVS.. then its all set in stone, theres not a chance they may have got it wrong.. i thought i was the only one that would be disappointed.. i feel a bit better about it now xx

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Mar 28th, 2012, 11:20 AM	#26
Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,610	Ladies that are finding out soon, please keep us posted on what you are having. Fingers crossed its what you are hoping for. x x

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Mar 28th, 2012, 11:44 AM	#27
AngelofTroy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 3,027	We are team yellow and keep saying that it doesn't matter. This is our first and we plan on 2 or 3 so it really shouldn't matter... However, we've both been calling baby 'he' since we found out, and OH has a niece but there are no young boys in the family either side, so I found myself really disappointed when I posted our 12 week scan and literally everyone guessed girl! I didn't know I minded til then! I know I'll love a girl just as much when they're here but I understand gender disappointment now and I never did before! I've got it in my head that baby's a girl now though, started looking at dresses etc and getting excited!

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Mar 28th, 2012, 12:22 PM	#28
MrsButterfly Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: UK Posts: 2,100	I always thought i'd be a mum to a little girl. But was convinced since bfp that I was carrying a boy and lo and behold at scan found out we are. I was initially a little sad (mostly because we think we'll be one and done) that I'd never get my little girl. But DH was so excited which was lovely. Aside from having to accept that boys clothes are not, in my opinion, anywhere near as cute as little girls, over the past few weeks I've really come round to the idea of having a baby boy. Actually to the point where I can't now imagine having a girl. Ive liked having the time before birth to get my head round it but still I genuinely believe that if you don't find out before birth, you'll fall immediately in love with your little one as soon as they're in your arms. It's tough when the image you have always had in your head isn't what becomes reality and I don't think other people always understand unless they've been there xx

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Mar 28th, 2012, 12:31 PM	#29
Mummy2Be__x Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Coventry Posts: 1,852	I think once your baby is here that feeling will go away, can't really comment on that though as this is my first and don't mind if it's a boy or a girl x

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