DH wants a DNA test - Page 2

LostAndAlone · Mar 28th, 2012, 15:19 PM

^^ posted before i realised someone else had said the same thing oops^^

MrsButterfly · Mar 28th, 2012, 15:23 PM

I can't even begin to thank you all for your supportive words - its a huge help. I'm too ashamed to even mention it to any of my friends or family so it's nice to be able to talk on here.

I'm upset, and annoyed, he can even dare to essentially accuse me of this when I've never ever done anything to even make him think I could cheat. And that he doesn't give a toss that I'm now sat upstairs crying my eyes out. Feel very alone all of a sudden. I can't live a life where I'm not trusted.

letia659 · Mar 28th, 2012, 15:26 PM

I'd be so pissed if my DH ever thought any of his children weren't his and honestly I'd tell him to hit the road if he asked for a DNA test and to get a lawyer if he really wants the test done I sure wouldn't stay with him. That said I had a friend that had this happen but he finally decided to just believe her the baby came out looking just like him so he hasn't ever thought it wasn't his since the birth

sorry your going through this

cassarita · Mar 28th, 2012, 15:28 PM

What a dick. If my husband said that to me I would cut his balls off.

Woowww pregnancy hormones lol.

LostAndAlone · Mar 28th, 2012, 15:30 PM

if you keep saying no though, i know he will be thinking that you are lying about it so just tell him he can do any test he wants, he is the dad and your not putting up with his crap! Tell him you will take him on jeremy kyle lol, that will put the fear in him!!!

leoniebabey · Mar 28th, 2012, 15:38 PM

Oh that is awful

moomin_troll · Mar 28th, 2012, 15:42 PM

Tell him to get his ass to the docs n get tested if he then expects his child to have tests when he's born.

I instantly thought cheating because my dad was always cheating on my mum n then would always accuse her n then denied I was his even tho I look just like the c u n t!

I think if my oh said this to me I'd say fine ile do the test after u give me a divorce and then ud of lost us all, but I am very dramatic and I would of divorced him too

Embo78 · Mar 28th, 2012, 15:59 PM

What a complete douche bag.
Sorry but this is unforgivable

kissesandhugs · Mar 28th, 2012, 16:14 PM

WOW!!!!!! I'd kill my OH if those words even came out of his mouth. What a terrible thing to say!!!!! I agree w/ the fertility test too. I wouldn't "just do it" bc it's easy, that's definitely not the point it's the principal that he's even asking for one! UGH!

leahtaba · Mar 28th, 2012, 16:18 PM

my OH just read this and said maybe he is just driving himself mad with his thoughts? Like its crossed his mind and he ran with the thought and has got himself paranoid... try to have a proper talk about how he's feeling before you get upset. I understand that must of been hurtful and is also extremely insensitive of him but maybe he's finding things hard. all the best hope you work it out!

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LostAndAlone Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1,733	^^ posted before i realised someone else had said the same thing oops^^

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Mar 28th, 2012, 15:23 PM	#12
MrsButterfly Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: UK Posts: 2,205	I can't even begin to thank you all for your supportive words - its a huge help. I'm too ashamed to even mention it to any of my friends or family so it's nice to be able to talk on here. I'm upset, and annoyed, he can even dare to essentially accuse me of this when I've never ever done anything to even make him think I could cheat. And that he doesn't give a toss that I'm now sat upstairs crying my eyes out. Feel very alone all of a sudden. I can't live a life where I'm not trusted.

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Mar 28th, 2012, 15:26 PM	#13
letia659 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Tennessee Posts: 2,988	I'd be so pissed if my DH ever thought any of his children weren't his and honestly I'd tell him to hit the road if he asked for a DNA test and to get a lawyer if he really wants the test done I sure wouldn't stay with him. That said I had a friend that had this happen but he finally decided to just believe her the baby came out looking just like him so he hasn't ever thought it wasn't his since the birth sorry your going through this

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Mar 28th, 2012, 15:28 PM	#14
cassarita Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: AB, Canada Posts: 1,063	What a dick. If my husband said that to me I would cut his balls off. Woowww pregnancy hormones lol.

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Mar 28th, 2012, 15:30 PM	#15
LostAndAlone Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1,733	if you keep saying no though, i know he will be thinking that you are lying about it so just tell him he can do any test he wants, he is the dad and your not putting up with his crap! Tell him you will take him on jeremy kyle lol, that will put the fear in him!!!

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Mar 28th, 2012, 15:38 PM	#16
leoniebabey Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Newcastle Posts: 8,957	Oh that is awful

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moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 15,878	Tell him to get his ass to the docs n get tested if he then expects his child to have tests when he's born. I instantly thought cheating because my dad was always cheating on my mum n then would always accuse her n then denied I was his even tho I look just like the c u n t! I think if my oh said this to me I'd say fine ile do the test after u give me a divorce and then ud of lost us all, but I am very dramatic and I would of divorced him too

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Mar 28th, 2012, 15:59 PM	#18
Embo78 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Manchester Posts: 14,110	What a complete douche bag. Sorry but this is unforgivable

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Mar 28th, 2012, 16:14 PM	#19
kissesandhugs Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Michigan,US Posts: 4,174	WOW!!!!!! I'd kill my OH if those words even came out of his mouth. What a terrible thing to say!!!!! I agree w/ the fertility test too. I wouldn't "just do it" bc it's easy, that's definitely not the point it's the principal that he's even asking for one! UGH!

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Mar 28th, 2012, 16:18 PM	#20
leahtaba Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 1,600	my OH just read this and said maybe he is just driving himself mad with his thoughts? Like its crossed his mind and he ran with the thought and has got himself paranoid... try to have a proper talk about how he's feeling before you get upset. I understand that must of been hurtful and is also extremely insensitive of him but maybe he's finding things hard. all the best hope you work it out!

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