I am sorry but wow, he really have a trust issue (usually, people like that makes me wonder if they are the one who is cheating). I wonder what made him think he can't have kids?

Sorry, but aren't you suppose to trust each other when in a relationship or marriage? Unless he have a good reason not to trust her, she should never have through this
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My OH pulled the same crap! Ive never ever cheated on him and never would. I told him if he really wants me to dna test because of his insecurities and lack of trust then i would. I also told him when the test comes back hes the dad then we are DONE! That shut him up. I know how you feel hun, it really did hurt ...but i would definetly leave him for putting me through that.

its a hard one, i dont think there is any need to. or she should she proof anything. but he kind of has the right to ask for one.
i would just do it and shut him up, but in their case maybe wonder if he is cheating?

Sorry hun but that makes no sense. If a man trusts you and believes in the relationship he wouldnt need proof of whether a child is his or not. If he wants a test its because he doesnt 100% believe that his partner hasnt been shagging someone else. Why should she do anything to make him happy and her uncomfortable just because he has trust issues and insecurities?? Its not the 1950's!! I dont understand how you would even have that conversation with your partner? Surely you dont just tell someone you are pregnant then say but if you want a DNA test I wont be mad?? I dont get it

I think he has the right to ask for one IF he has a legitimate reason for asking. Just because he thinks he can't have kids but has never been tested and has no scientific basis for this conclusion he's come to, doesn't mean that he gets to accuse her of cheating and of their child not being his. When he comes back with proof that he can't have kids, (a feeling doesn't count) then I would say take the test.

Honestly I wouldn't take the test. If my husband thought he couldn't have kids I would make him get a sperm count done before trying to conceive to see if what he 'thought' was true.

he mentioned that a guy he worked with (navy at his old duty station) got a DNA test, behind his wifes back because he just wanted to be sure. i thought he was hinting on something (which he wasnt, just had a conversation) and i thought about it, and a few hours later i told him if he wants one done i am okay with it.

he never wanted one.

Okay so aside from all the Yes-you-should-do-the-test and no-you-shouldn't answers, I think the deeper issue here rather than a yes/no on a test is TRUST. You wrote in your original post that you asked him why he didn't trust you and he refused to acknowledge that he didn't. That, right there, is a huge red flag to me. If he can't even ADMIT the trust problem then how are you supposed to work things through?

I think a big fat dose of marital counseling is in order, stat. You can't afford to wait for the baby to be born- you need to get him to talk, in a safe environment, about his feelings. Assuming he's not cheating (and if he's really not, then he should be willing to go to some counseling) then there is a deeper issue at the bottom of this and I believe you would be a stronger couple and better parents if you resolved it before the new little one arrives. Plus, therapy might give you the space to explain to him WHY and HOW he's hurt you- because it sounds like he isn't listening right now.

HUGS, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Good luck!

I would personally be hurt by it but I would also take the test. He should trust you, as trust is a huge part of a relationship but I would do it to prove a point. You have nothing to hide and obviously he doesn't get that. I would tell him that I was doing the test and IT will come back that the baby IS his! I would tell him that after the test comes back and that the baby is in fact his that he has alot of making up to do. Its truly up to you, you need to do whats best for you and your baby. And stop the stress. I hope everything works out for you!!!

well I know how you feel and you have every right to be upset, my DH has told me that when the baby is born he wants a dna test, and I asked him why he said just to make sure, well I let his mommy know her being on my side knowing I wold never do anything like that said that there was no way he could do that to me or treat me like that. so I finaly told cause this was me at the point not taking it seriously anymore cause i know i had nothing to worrie about I told him fine I'll do it but when he comes back yours, you will have to appologyes and give me a full body massage every day until I felt like he was sorry for ever doubting me in the first place, he hasnt said a word about it since then, but dont be so hard on your self I know it hurts cause you have been together for some time but since you know you have nothing to worrie about make him pay for hurting you like that, I know if DH really gose through with it I wont let him slip by