I'm so upset right now and seriously need some words of advice. First off, I have absolutely never ever cheated on my other half in the 10 yrs we've been together. Since I met him he's always believed for some reason he wouldn't be able to have kids. No reason why, he was just sure of it. We were v fortunate and got pregnant second month of trying - was over the moon.

Tonight he decides to tell me that he wants a DNA test when the baby arrives as he cannot believe he is able to have kids and needs something on paper. I've asked him why he doesn't trust me and he has said he does - well he clearly doesn't as how on earth could it not be his unless I slept with someone else.

He's been going on about it and I finally got really upset and cried as I'm so hurt he thinks I could lie to him about something like that. He now thinks me getting upset is even more suspicious. I don't know what to do. I am not putting my son through a test when I know 110% who the father is but don't want my other half constantly doubting whether our baby is his.

I'm so confused, upset and hurt

I'm sorry to hear he's being like this.

Tell him to go docs n get a firtility test n then if it comes back he can't have kids then u will get a DNA once baby is born.
What a arsehole for doing this to u for no reason.

I don't want to upset u more but do u think he's cheating or cheated so now hes guilty n putting it on u

sorry I wish I knew what to say.

its easy to do. Just do it. Maybe deep down he's freaking out about being a dad. Men are complex delicate creatures! LOL

I can understand the hurt but it is a very simple non invasive test and it will put his mind at ease. i would be pissed to if I were in your shoes but what can you do. MEn are weird.

Good idea!

I've been thinking this myself as one of the only explanations I could come up with. Guilty conscience and all that. I'm really not sure that he is tho. He's generally either at home or work and we have mostly mutual friends so not sure when he's had a chance! But it's definitely crossed my mind...

I'm pretty sure with children they literally just swab the inside of their mouth, no needles involved.

That being said I think that whatever hang ups your OH has, he's an idiot and a selfish one at that. Sorry!

what a dick" sorry but he is! My oh has accused me of sleeping with everyone of his mates at one point or another over the 9 years we have been together and ive never even kissed another guy since we met and what does he go and do, yes HE is the one that cheats on me, just 2 weeks ago!!! Tell him you'll give him the test if he really wants it and when it comes back the baby IS his then he can shove the bit of paper up his arse!! Do you think he could be the guilty one? They do say that the guilty one feels so insecure knowing what they have done that they blame the OH out of guilt. Im not saying your man is a cheat but is it something you have ever thought about or think he would do? They couldnt pick a worse time to start with all their shit could they? hope youre ok babe xx

WOW I can't even imagine the hurt you're going through right now!!
So sorry to hear that he's being like this! I'd be LIVID if it were me in your shoes and I'd be driving him straight to the doctor's office myself to make HIM get tested... its HIM believing that he can't have kids, it's HIM saying he "believes" you but then insisting on this crap, its HIM that needs to have a fertility test first before he tries to fling this crap your way!!!