Is it mean not to have your mom in the delivery room??

ashleyann · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:15 PM

I'm starting to wonder if I'm a horrible or mean person or something for not wanting my mom in the room for the birth. It seems like everyone I know has their mom there and every baby story the mom is in the room. Is it bad not to want her in there? Don't get me wrong I love my mom and we have
never had a bad relationship or anything but I just don't really want her, or my sister, or anyone for that matter that close to me while I'm spread wide open pushing a baby out. It just seems like it's going to be such a hugely intimate intense moment for the OH and I that it would be kind of weird or awkward having her there..
Is that bad? I just don't want to hurt her feelings..

Missy86 · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:17 PM

I only had my oh with me which is what I wanted
My mum would have got right on my tits

Its your birth you can do what you want

wantingno.2 · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:19 PM

Noooo I don't think so, personally I would never have anyone other than dh in the room with me. X

Maccysmum · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:20 PM

Never had my mum at any of mine hun its not mean its great that you are sharing this with the person who made it with you

helen_beee · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:20 PM

I don't have a clue who is going to be my birth partner but it probably won't be my mum as we have only just reconnected after a long time of not speaking.

It's up to you who you want there and everyone else should respect your wishes. Noone has a right to be in room with you xx

maisie78 · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:20 PM

I don't think it's mean at all. I love my mum dearly but only want OH with me when we bring our first baby in to the world. It's a special time just for us

Amarna · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:22 PM

Not at all. I didn't have my mom with me, only my DH. That's the way I wanted it and to be honest it was such an intimate moment for us that I wouldn't necessarily want my mother there during that time. It's up to you!

Jinnah · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:24 PM

With my first, I did not want my mom in the room and I told her she wasn't going to be. When it actually happened, I wanted her there. She wound up being really supportive, and also taking really great photographs of the whole thing and I cherish them. I'm so glad she was in there. She wasn't there the rest of the times (was watching the older kids) and I do not have any pictures!

CloverMouse · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:24 PM

I only want my DH there, my mom is convinced I'll change my mind, but I'm pretty sure I won't. I just want that moment with my husband and I. We've told everyone we'll call when we're ready to see them.

Sunshine12 · Mar 29th, 2012, 15:28 PM

I dont think its mean no but then Im almost 40 and whilst I have a very close relationship with her I would find it weird to have here there or even feel like I would need her there. If I were 16 or very young Im sure Id rather she were.

p.s Agree with Missy, she would do my head in anyway!! x

Mar 29th, 2012, 15:15 PM	#1
ashleyann Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 879	Is it mean not to have your mom in the delivery room?? I'm starting to wonder if I'm a horrible or mean person or something for not wanting my mom in the room for the birth. It seems like everyone I know has their mom there and every baby story the mom is in the room. Is it bad not to want her in there? Don't get me wrong I love my mom and we have never had a bad relationship or anything but I just don't really want her, or my sister, or anyone for that matter that close to me while I'm spread wide open pushing a baby out. It just seems like it's going to be such a hugely intimate intense moment for the OH and I that it would be kind of weird or awkward having her there.. Is that bad? I just don't want to hurt her feelings..

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Mar 29th, 2012, 15:17 PM	#2
Missy86 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: A welshie living in Essex Posts: 10,243	I only had my oh with me which is what I wanted My mum would have got right on my tits Its your birth you can do what you want

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Mar 29th, 2012, 15:19 PM	#3
wantingno.2 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Yorkshire, UK Posts: 3,367	Noooo I don't think so, personally I would never have anyone other than dh in the room with me. X

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Maccysmum Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 247	Never had my mum at any of mine hun its not mean its great that you are sharing this with the person who made it with you

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helen_beee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 1,141	I don't have a clue who is going to be my birth partner but it probably won't be my mum as we have only just reconnected after a long time of not speaking. It's up to you who you want there and everyone else should respect your wishes. Noone has a right to be in room with you xx

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maisie78 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: UK Posts: 1,895	I don't think it's mean at all. I love my mum dearly but only want OH with me when we bring our first baby in to the world. It's a special time just for us

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Amarna Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: New York State Posts: 1,628	Not at all. I didn't have my mom with me, only my DH. That's the way I wanted it and to be honest it was such an intimate moment for us that I wouldn't necessarily want my mother there during that time. It's up to you!

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Mar 29th, 2012, 15:24 PM	#8
Jinnah Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: USA Posts: 602	With my first, I did not want my mom in the room and I told her she wasn't going to be. When it actually happened, I wanted her there. She wound up being really supportive, and also taking really great photographs of the whole thing and I cherish them. I'm so glad she was in there. She wasn't there the rest of the times (was watching the older kids) and I do not have any pictures!

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CloverMouse Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 928	I only want my DH there, my mom is convinced I'll change my mind, but I'm pretty sure I won't. I just want that moment with my husband and I. We've told everyone we'll call when we're ready to see them.

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Mar 29th, 2012, 15:28 PM	#10
Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,680	I dont think its mean no but then Im almost 40 and whilst I have a very close relationship with her I would find it weird to have here there or even feel like I would need her there. If I were 16 or very young Im sure Id rather she were. p.s Agree with Missy, she would do my head in anyway!! x

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