Is it mean not to have your mom in the delivery room??
I'm starting to wonder if I'm a horrible or mean person or something for not wanting my mom in the room for the birth. It seems like everyone I know has their mom there and every baby story the mom is in the room. Is it bad not to want her in there? Don't get me wrong I love my mom and we have
never had a bad relationship or anything but I just don't really want her, or my sister, or anyone for that matter that close to me while I'm spread wide open pushing a baby out. It just seems like it's going to be such a hugely intimate intense moment for the OH and I that it would be kind of weird or awkward having her there..
Is that bad? I just don't want to hurt her feelings..
Not at all. I didn't have my mom with me, only my DH. That's the way I wanted it and to be honest it was such an intimate moment for us that I wouldn't necessarily want my mother there during that time. It's up to you!
With my first, I did not want my mom in the room and I told her she wasn't going to be. When it actually happened, I wanted her there. She wound up being really supportive, and also taking really great photographs of the whole thing and I cherish them. I'm so glad she was in there. She wasn't there the rest of the times (was watching the older kids) and I do not have any pictures!
I only want my DH there, my mom is convinced I'll change my mind, but I'm pretty sure I won't. I just want that moment with my husband and I. We've told everyone we'll call when we're ready to see them.
I dont think its mean no but then Im almost 40 and whilst I have a very close relationship with her I would find it weird to have here there or even feel like I would need her there. If I were 16 or very young Im sure Id rather she were.
p.s Agree with Missy, she would do my head in anyway!! x
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