Thanks for all the stories ladies. Makes me feel better. I have always had a hard time being friends with girls because of that weird competive jealous thing. I'm just lucky to have my family.
*hugs* to you all and hope things get better too.

dont forget you always have us on here and it goes to show that there are women out there who know exactly what you are going through so maby you should try to find some groups in your area (doesnt have to necicarily be baby related) or see if there are any moms on here from arround where you live. youll get more friends soon enough and hopefully they will be good friends for life

I'm just coming to the end of my pregnancy and all of the friends are starting to resurface... It's not that they're jealous, it's that they feel they don't have a place in your life anymore, that youre moving on and will be too busy for them.
Not everyone cares about pregnant women or wants to hear their stories unless they've been through it, really. Once you become a regular person again who happens to have a baby (not a pregnant woman), they'll be back.

I can't go dancing or to the bar like I used too....so I've obviously lost a good deal of my friends....but the ones I hang out with still are known pretty much as my besties now....it still hurts!

I love that advice. DH keeps saying we need to find couples who are pregnant and having babies too, so we can get friends that understand us, and our babies can be friends. I just don't even know where to start lol

That is very interesting insight. I can see that. I'm not the type of pregnant person who talks about it. I mean hell we hid it from most people till I was almost 6 months. I just dont gush about it, and all that. I would way rather go out to dinner with my friend and talk about whats going on in her life, as everyone in my life that knows only wants to talk baby. It gets old. OMG that makes me sound like an awful mom

And btw I am SO thankful to have this site. You girls are amazing. Such great support, and insight and love and its awesome to be able to come here and feel welcomed.

I think it just happens because your interests are completely different. You want to talk baby she might want to talk about going to the bar. I find it's hard to hang out with people who don't have kids who are my age (21) because that's all they ever talk about and it's just we are sooo different. Hopefully you can find some new friends and maybe she will come around eventually.

Yes,
Since the lack of being able to go out every weekend etc, I've lost a few friends.
Then had one who became obsessed with my pregnancy soo much, she became pregnant and added weeks onto her dates to all of a sudden catch up with me.

I guess in a way it's showed me peoples true colours, and over time I've cared less. I'm sure once my lot start having children they will soon crawl out of the rock they've gone under lol

It's really lovely to read everybody else's stories and know that other people are going through similar things. The person I would have considered my best friend for the last 11 years or so, and one of the first people who I told I was pregnant, I expected to be excited and there for me. And although she has said Congratulations, how lovely, I'll have to spoil them with presents etc etc, I'm starting to feel like it's just been lip service. Her actions say a totally different thing as she is replying to my messages less and less, taking longer to reply, and didn't even let me know that she was back in the area for a weekend visit the other week when she knew I was free and in the past we would have made a real effort to see each other. I just don't understand it! I agree with you that I don't need/want to talk about the baby all the time, I want to hear about other people's lives too and just chat to them about general stuff.

I know they say that sometimes things happen to make you realise who your real friends are... I'm just stunned that it has turned out this way and I would have said that this person would be the least likely to let me down.

I trust that I will make new friends though as I mix in with new circles, and am not going to let it bother me. I'm incredibly blessed to have the husband and family that I have and a healthy little girl on the way