I am soooo exited for my baby and so grateful and blessed to be pregnant, so this doesn't mean to offend anybody who has had trouble conceiving but I am really having a hard time being pregnant.

I feel like time is going backwards, its been ten weeks since i found out and it honestly feels like ten years! all my friends are big drinkers and my OH works long hours and I feel like I've got no one to relate too and I feel very alone.

I just want my baby here and to have control back over my body, to be able to enjoy a wine with my meal, to be able to go mad at the gym and to go out all day without collapsing from exhaustion!

and that's without mentioning the constant anxiety that something might be wrong (I hate this waiting period in between the 12 week scan and feeling movement, torture!) I just want my baby safely in my arms!

my OH doesnt understand so I cant talk to him and I tried to talk to my friend who is 35 weeks and she was just sort of like 'how do you think i feel, wait until your 35 weeks, you've got it all to come' blah blah blah

anyway sorry about the rant but can anyone sympathize or maybe some advice on how to chill out and enjoy it a bit more

(sorry if I sound ridiculous or selfish)

I'm not enjoying it this time, I hated it first time and ds1 almost was an only child but I really enjoyed it second time. Everyone seems to be different. I don't think you sound ungrateful at all, preg can be so tough on your body and it's sometimes hard to accept the change and sacrifices you make. When you look back though it really does go so fast, although I know it feels like a lifetime now x

I know exactly how you feel....I am 24 weeks today so I have known for a little over 20 weeks and I really have had enough already. I don't want him to come early or anything like that....but these last few weeks really have been dragging and it just seems to be one complication after another.....I do feel bad feeling like that as this is my last baby and I so wanted to enjoy this pregnancy and I have quite a few friends who are ttc and its not happening so I don't feel like I can say anything to them.

aww your not alone and your certainly not selfish for feeling like this!! Ive had a really bad couple of days, crying, grumpy , feeling little total poo but today I feel better I forced myself out yesterday and doing the same today! Ive started really trying to concentrate on eating healthy and I feel more in control and a lot better about myself just try introducing little changes like throw in a little walk every day or a swim .... arrange to see a good friend ect.... or do what I do and use the ladies on this site who are so willing to help and be supportive I hope you feel better soon xxxxxxxx

i know exactly how you feel! Im stuck in the house all week with the kids and it seems like my friends have forgotten about me cos im pregnant and not fun anymore lol. I always looked forward to having a drink at the weekend and although ive had a couple now and again (not got drunk tho) its just not the same. My man works all week then wants to go to his mates sometimes at the weekend for a drink so again im left sitting here alone. I feel so lonely and spend nearly all my time online just to basically pass the time. I think the only way to get by is to try and find a hobby of some kind, whether it be swimming (which is good for your body too) or reading or something that your allowed to do. just try to find something you are interested in or even take up learning something new and get stuck into it and watch the time fly by x

I have been feeling kinda the same, like time is passing by sooo slowly. I used to have a bottle of wine at the weekends as a way of unwinding and relaxing after a busy week, but obviously now that's gone out the window too (not that I'm complaining as of course I would much rather be pregnant!), it just takes a bit of getting used to as it's a complete change of lifestyle.

The last week I have started to feel a little better, I have been arranging little shopping trips, coffee meets, lunch dates etc which has really helped to keep my mind off things and finally enjoy myself again. The only downside is that this is by no means cheap, so if I plan to keep this up for the next goodness knows how many weeks then it's going to cost me

Do you have family nearby? I am very lucky that my mum lives just round the corner, so we meet quite often and go out together. Could you maybe do the same?

my mum passed away and my dad works away so hes away five days a week. My best friend lives two doors down which is quite lucky but I only see her properly about once a week and a few other times for a quick coffee. I feel I would be bugging people if i asked to meet up a lot because all my friends have jobs and boyfriends and then go out of a weekend, I just don't fit in anymore

I just wish time would pass a bit faster, I quit my job just before I fell pregnant to focus on uni work and now the term has ended I regret that so much as I have nothing to do with my days!

some days I just get on with it but I felt like a bit of a whinge today

thanks for all the empathy ladies xxxx

Sorry to hear about your mum

Where do you live? Have you thought about looking for a pregnancy buddy on here who lives locally to you? Or perhaps look into antenatal yoga classes or similar in your area, as this could be a great way to meet other ladies in the same position as you?

antenatal yoga is a good idea I will have to have a look for a local class. thank you

What you said doesn't sound ungrateful at all, you just sound normal! I can identify with everything you said in your post as I have been feeling exactly the same.

I just want this all (successfully) over and my body back, being able to enjoy a glass of wine and stop feeling like crap!

I have got loads of social occasions coming up and last week I had to sit and spectate a wine tasting session for a friends birthday. as much as I am grateful to be 21 weeks pregnant (especially after 2 losses) and wouldn't swap fact I have a healthy pregnancy for the world, it was torture.

Pregnancy comes with a lot of aches and pains, worry, and frustrations so don't feel bad for feeling like you do, it is perfectly natural!

xxxx