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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 06:13 AM   #41
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In a way I feel a bit bad for my OH as he gets up at 6am every morning for work, but I'm still adamant he'll do at least a few of the night feeds! If he's off at work, I'll need to have had at least some sleep through the night to cope when he's out.

Plus, it takes 2 to make baby, so why shouldn't it take 2 to care for baby? lol x


 
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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 06:26 AM   #42
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I will be doing the majority of the feedings Sunday- Thursday (as dh has to get up about 5 am and works anywhere from 12-14 hrs a day outside) and then DH will take over so I can get a night or two of good rest. If i get TOO tired however, he is more then willing to do a feeding here or there to keep me sane! But we will all be in the same room. I found it very lonely last time doing it on my own and I think just having him asleep next to me will make me feel better.


 
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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 07:06 AM   #43
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My DH doesn't take off work when we go home from the hospital so I will be doing all the night feeds changing like I did with my son but I am a SAHM and he will get up and help on the weekends or any days off it works for us but with that said I'd be pissed if he ever told me to go sleep in another room!! I have removed myself and my son when he had colic etc for DH to get his sleep but that was MY decision he never not once told me to leave the room and if your thinking it's not right that I do all the night stuff my DH is very good to make sure I get a good nap in the evening when he gets home from work just about every day especially in the first few weeks


 
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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 07:12 AM   #44
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Ivy is still in my room she is 26 weeks and will be moving into her own room when we move in 2 weeks. I think i would bop jonny on the nose if he had suggested me sleeping in a different room with her. Fair enough he has to work all day but what does he think you'll be doing all day being a mummy is hard work too. The first few months you will both have sleepless nights/disturbed sleep its just the way it is. Its not like your asking him to get up with bubs. Big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxx


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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 07:17 AM   #45
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When I read that baby should be in with us for 6 months, rather than in their own room, he said he thinks I should sleep on the pull out bed in the nursery for 6 months.

Am I right to be upset, or does he have a point as I'll be off work and he won't?

I just always pictured we'd do this together and separate bedrooms sounds so negative.

Anyone else considering it?
you have that baby in the room with you and mine were out of my room by 3 months


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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 07:31 AM   #46
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My OH wouldn't dare suggest this! Having said that I have said to him that on occasions when baby is being a pickle and he has work the next day I'm happy to go in the spare room - but never as a permanent arrangement!


 
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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 07:59 AM   #47
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He said it's 'his bed' although we've lived together for over two years he bought it when he was single. The pull out bed apparently is 'mine' as my parents gave it to us.
if he was my OH id be telling him he was welcome to the whole house let alone his bed..id be moving out with an attitude like that........sorry he sounds like a total dick.


 
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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 08:30 AM   #48
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HIS bed?! HIS bed?!!!! I've already said to my other half that if things are bad during the nights I will end up in the spare bed, we may fall asleep breastfeeding (if I'm lucky enough to be able to breastfeed) I'm 100% sure he'd offer to help out, but I would be conscious he has to work all day - even though us Mums will have to 'work' all day too.

What an ass! His bed indeed, grrrr! x


 
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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 08:36 AM   #49
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i find the suggestion shocking! no way would i even consider it, you may be on maternity leave but does not mean that you will be able to sleep all day when he is a t work, it should be a 50-50 split thats how i see it.


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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 08:55 AM   #50
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By far the most selfish thing Ive ever heard in my life and I think I would have kicked him out completley. OH gets up at 5am monday-friday and I dont work. LO was in with us till 8 months. I did night feeds 6 nights a week and he did one night at weekend and I would have a lay in. On the odd bad nights when I would get too tired and worked up he would help. Think this worked really well and maybe your OH needs to realise you need sleep too and he 50% made your baby so he's going to need to help or your relationship will not last well.


 
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