OH thinks I should sleep in baby's room for 6 months.

AngelofTroy · Apr 4th, 2012, 01:17 AM

When I read that baby should be in with us for 6 months, rather than in their own room, he said he thinks I should sleep on the pull out bed in the nursery for 6 months.

Am I right to be upset, or does he have a point as I'll be off work and he won't?

I just always pictured we'd do this together and separate bedrooms sounds so negative.

Anyone else considering it?

mommybear1977 · Apr 4th, 2012, 01:22 AM

We have a bassinet that hooks to our bed, there is no way I am not sleeping in my own bed.

kim'sbump · Apr 4th, 2012, 01:52 AM

I would refuse to sleep in the nursery! I never really disturbed my OH he just got use to us being there then we moved our daughter into her room anyway at 10 weeks old. How does he suggest you keep your relationship going if your in seperate rooms?

fidget · Apr 4th, 2012, 02:00 AM

Lucas slept in with us for the first few months, and at first if he was unsettled I used to take him in the other room. I soon realised that oh was perfectly capable of sleeping on the sofa himself. Although your not 'working' I don't think they realise how hard it is to look after a baby and try and get the housework done and cook dinner on no sleep.

tinytabby · Apr 4th, 2012, 02:00 AM

Oh dear! We're keeping the spare room a spare room until Baby is old enough, so that when it all gets too much in our room, OH can go in there and get some kip!

Scaredy cat · Apr 4th, 2012, 02:02 AM

I think start as you mean to go on! At some stage, maternity leave or not, you are going to need a full nites sleep! He should WANT to help out!

camerashy · Apr 4th, 2012, 02:27 AM

Lol yeh he wud suggest that wudnt he, we have baby in our room( she's 1 in few wks) she'll be moving into her own room in couple of mths b4 new baby bro arrives.

He sounds very selfish that he wants to get a good nite sleep every nite whilst u just see to baby! If I were u I'd say no way! U made the baby too you share the minding !

I don't work dh does , I always did the nite feeds in fairness ( that's just me thou) but he would be next to me in the bed if I needed help etc

bounceyboo · Apr 4th, 2012, 02:39 AM

i agree with the other ladies, its a bit selfish of him to expect you to leave your bedroom n sleep on a pull out bed so he can get a rest, u need one too n after all u wont get much of a sleep in or much sleep at all if you r doing it all yourself,he should he happy to help,ill be on ml, n ive said to oh that ill do the night feeds but only coz he has to get up for work at 6.30am everyday, n i dont think its fair but the 3 of us will be in our room, for i dunno how long lol!have a talk with him n explain that u feel put-out that he wants u to do it all by urself at night, it takes 2 to make a baby so he should help out regardless of work or nit, when my oh comes home after the baby is here ill be handing the baby to him n say time for some bonding time lol n get out for a walk, have a shower etc

arj · Apr 4th, 2012, 02:54 AM

My DH is the same! No way in heck any babies will be in our room, as he gets up at 4am and needs sleep. Plus I wouldnt want him waking me/them at 4am when his alarm goes off and he is not the type to ever get up in the night to babies/kids.

I will sleep in our bed most of the time and have a sound and movement monitor on each baby, so when they wake up Ill hear them. We also have a spare room right opposite the babies room so if need be Ill sleep in there.

LostAndAlone · Apr 4th, 2012, 03:01 AM

tell him how about you sleep in your rrom with baby and he sleeps on pull out bed in other room!! After all youre the one that will be up during the night and will have just given birth! If im right in the fact that men can sleep through anything(or at least pretend to) then he wont get up when baby wakes up anyway. It hopefully shouldnt take long for baby to start sleeping for a good few hours (mine both were sleeping for at least 6/7 hours by 5 weeks old!) so its not like it going to go on for months. Sounds like someone likes his sleep too much lol x

Apr 4th, 2012, 01:17 AM	#1
AngelofTroy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 3,027	OH thinks I should sleep in baby's room for 6 months. When I read that baby should be in with us for 6 months, rather than in their own room, he said he thinks I should sleep on the pull out bed in the nursery for 6 months. Am I right to be upset, or does he have a point as I'll be off work and he won't? I just always pictured we'd do this together and separate bedrooms sounds so negative. Anyone else considering it?

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Apr 4th, 2012, 01:22 AM	#2
mommybear1977 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 326	We have a bassinet that hooks to our bed, there is no way I am not sleeping in my own bed.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 01:52 AM	#3
kim'sbump Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Wakefield West Yorkshire, England Posts: 313	I would refuse to sleep in the nursery! I never really disturbed my OH he just got use to us being there then we moved our daughter into her room anyway at 10 weeks old. How does he suggest you keep your relationship going if your in seperate rooms?

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fidget Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Portsmouth Posts: 1,536	Lucas slept in with us for the first few months, and at first if he was unsettled I used to take him in the other room. I soon realised that oh was perfectly capable of sleeping on the sofa himself. Although your not 'working' I don't think they realise how hard it is to look after a baby and try and get the housework done and cook dinner on no sleep.

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tinytabby Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,122	Oh dear! We're keeping the spare room a spare room until Baby is old enough, so that when it all gets too much in our room, OH can go in there and get some kip!

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Scaredy cat Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 248	I think start as you mean to go on! At some stage, maternity leave or not, you are going to need a full nites sleep! He should WANT to help out!

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Apr 4th, 2012, 02:27 AM	#7
camerashy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 5,725	Lol yeh he wud suggest that wudnt he, we have baby in our room( she's 1 in few wks) she'll be moving into her own room in couple of mths b4 new baby bro arrives. He sounds very selfish that he wants to get a good nite sleep every nite whilst u just see to baby! If I were u I'd say no way! U made the baby too you share the minding ! I don't work dh does , I always did the nite feeds in fairness ( that's just me thou) but he would be next to me in the bed if I needed help etc

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Apr 4th, 2012, 02:39 AM	#8
bounceyboo Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: ireland Posts: 856	i agree with the other ladies, its a bit selfish of him to expect you to leave your bedroom n sleep on a pull out bed so he can get a rest, u need one too n after all u wont get much of a sleep in or much sleep at all if you r doing it all yourself,he should he happy to help,ill be on ml, n ive said to oh that ill do the night feeds but only coz he has to get up for work at 6.30am everyday, n i dont think its fair but the 3 of us will be in our room, for i dunno how long lol!have a talk with him n explain that u feel put-out that he wants u to do it all by urself at night, it takes 2 to make a baby so he should help out regardless of work or nit, when my oh comes home after the baby is here ill be handing the baby to him n say time for some bonding time lol n get out for a walk, have a shower etc

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Apr 4th, 2012, 02:54 AM	#9
arj Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Down Under Posts: 4,446	My DH is the same! No way in heck any babies will be in our room, as he gets up at 4am and needs sleep. Plus I wouldnt want him waking me/them at 4am when his alarm goes off and he is not the type to ever get up in the night to babies/kids. I will sleep in our bed most of the time and have a sound and movement monitor on each baby, so when they wake up Ill hear them. We also have a spare room right opposite the babies room so if need be Ill sleep in there.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 03:01 AM	#10
LostAndAlone Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1,733	tell him how about you sleep in your rrom with baby and he sleeps on pull out bed in other room!! After all youre the one that will be up during the night and will have just given birth! If im right in the fact that men can sleep through anything(or at least pretend to) then he wont get up when baby wakes up anyway. It hopefully shouldnt take long for baby to start sleeping for a good few hours (mine both were sleeping for at least 6/7 hours by 5 weeks old!) so its not like it going to go on for months. Sounds like someone likes his sleep too much lol x

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