Hi there! I'm around a size 16/18, and I first felt movement around 15 weeks, but felt real kicks at 18 weeks. DH just felt kicks from the outside a few days ago.
We found out the gender no problem at almost 19 weeks. The tech was 99% sure we're having a girl!
I think it's mostly if the baby is not cooperating during your gender scan that would prevent you from finding out the gender. Our little girl flashed us no problem, but squirmed away when they tried to get a good shot of her heart.
I know a lot of other ladies on here have told horror stories about getting ultrasounds, but I've had nothing but positive experiences. Especially if you're going to a private place (make sure it's reputable and has good reviews), you should get an excellent scan no matter what your size is. Good luck!
My doctor makes everyone wait until 20 weeks to find gender out. But I was worried that abdominal ultrasounds would not be clear, but they were clear enough to get video and everything! They had no problem with it. And I started feeling movement at about 19 weeks. It is off and on, not very consistent. I am 330lbs, size 22.
I feel what I think are flutters sometimes but this is my second. When I have dopplers and ultrasounds I just pull my stomach up (i have that flappy apron skin) so they can get to my uterus easier. I'm sure the tech thinks it is odd at first but it is a lot easier for them to not have to go through that extra padding. I plan on drinking some Mountain Dew before the gender scan on this one to get it moving, my daughter was being lazy at 20 weeks and would not show.
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