I have watched shows and seen births on television of course and they always give the mom the sticky unclean baby. I do NOT want to touch that. I told DH and he was shocked like really you dont want to hold your child until they are clean. I was like hell yea, no offense but I am completely grossed out by the idea of holding a sticky baby with stuff from inside me dripping off them. I want to demand they do NOT put the baby on my chest or give them to me until they are cleaned up. Is that not realistic? Is this like normal procedure? I'd prefer not to have to be a mess right after labor and have my hospital gown all messy because I am a little weird when it comes to messes and I know the MINUTE my gown is messy I will have to be up showering before it dries off on me. I am afraid of my own body fluids and as a rule I do not touch or even RISK touching my own fluids. I use gloves when i pee in a cup...because I dont want it on my hands and it terrifies me to even think about it. I cant imagine being ok with that much fluid.

Does that make me a weirdo? Do you think ill change my mind and want my baby right then and there? I am pretty sure I wont, but how do I express this to my doctor without sounding like a sicko who doesnt want to touch their own baby. I dont want my first memory of my child to be covered in icky sticky inside fluids.

Just put in your birthing plan that you want baby cleaned and checked out before you hold baby. everyone is different, you may change your mind but if you have a problem with messes then probably not. I don't think its weird, its just your preference.

Lol. I don't think you're weird. I also want the baby to get cleaned first, not because I'd be disgusted, just because to me it doesn't really matter whether or not the baby goes straight in my arms or not, I'm gonna have him for the rest of my life so it won't kill me to wait 2 minutes until they've cleaned him up propperly! I do think it's a but yucky but I think that at that moment when your baby is born the yuckyness is the last thing you think of!!

Still, I will be resquesting that they clean the baby first, so no, you're not alone!

It's up to you. Immediate skin-to-skin is generally better to help baby adjust to the world and to help with bonding, and there are also benefits to not cleaning them immediately because the smell of their own amniotic fluid is soothing and helps them to breastfeed better. It's your choice though, so you can just put on your birth plan that you want baby cleaned before you hold them. Personally holding my babies immediately after birth was the most amazing experience of my life and I would have been gutted if that was taken away from me. It wasn't yucky at all and I miss that moment as it can never ever be recreated.

When my son was born, I didn't want to hold him right away....I wanted him checked by the medical team first, and I am glad that I told that to the delivery team because when he came out he didn't breath well on his own, and had to be put in the nicu for 3 days...

I am glad i dont seen that crazy. DH made me feel like a monster like how dare I not want to hold the sticky baby. I was worried the medical professionals will look at me the way DH did and think im crazy. LOL glad to know im not a monster

You're not a monster. i do find it a bit weird I have to say, but it's your decision in the end maybe OH can hold and clean the baby for you if the nurses let him?

My friend said the same but when she had her baby she completely changed her mind.

I understand where your coming from but i'd personally just want to hold him/her
It's just whatever you prefer, everyone is different.

I never really thought about that. It does seem really yucky! Its a personal choice.

Well like it or not your gona be covered in your on blody fluids but tbh you wont give a crap that will be the last of your worries. they put a towel down ontop on you so baby isnt directly on your skin but personally i will want to hold my baby as soon as hes born ive waited 9months to meet him and dont care if hes got a little bit fluids on him as i will to.
he and i will both be washed no biggie