Anxiety. Normal or Do I Seriously Need Therapy?

BlueEyes24 · Apr 4th, 2012, 19:06 PM

I've always been an anxious person. Mainly anxious about an illness or accident harming me or my family. With that being said I had a miscarriage in November at 5 weeks. Two weeks later I got pregnant again, thankfully. Now I'm almost 20 weeks and I am terrified something is going to happen. I'd say my main concern is infection. After ruling out bv earlier today I've switched back to worrying about my gums. A few of my friends know I'm pregnant and most of my family but I'm reluctant to tell anyone else (mainly posting it on facebook) because I feel like I'll jinx myself. I'm driving my husband crazy by stressing so much but he doesn't understand. I'm not worried for me. I know if something happens I'll be totally devastated. I'm worried about how much it will hurt him and my family.

Sorry for what felt like a rant.

lala222 · Apr 4th, 2012, 19:38 PM

What happened to you before must have been very awful and hard and I am sorry you had to go through it.
You have been blessed with another baby and I know it is hard not to be anxious and worry all the time.
I have horrible anxiety as well and drive myself crazy worrying about everything all the time.
If you feel you need therapy you should definitely go. There is no harm in seeking help to make you enjoy your pregnancy more and help with the anxiety.
I wish you all the best x

MissyR · Apr 4th, 2012, 19:44 PM

I can certianly understand your feelings hun! I don't think its an irrational fear that would require therapy, however, therapy is never a bad thing! If it would make you feel better then schedule an appointment.

I used to suffer from depression and anxiety. If you ever get to the point where you experience anxiety attacks, then I would suggest you bring it up to your doctor ASAP.

keela · Apr 4th, 2012, 19:48 PM

I love therapy! LOL I have a therapist just so I can talk about all of my crazy thoughts without repeating them over and over to dh... I drive him crazy too haha

If the anxiety starts interfering with your daily life I would say go ahead and find a therapist. However, if it is just random thoughts that pop into your head but don't really interfere then you are just fine.

Hopefull mum · Apr 4th, 2012, 19:54 PM

I'm so glad somebody finally said something! Believe me you are completely normal ! (either that or we are all crazy

)
From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep all I think about is bad things happening/issues/everything! I literally sit in the couch and google my fears and that's probably the worst thing anyone can do !
I feel like noone listens to me or my fears or I feel silly Telling anyone! So I agree with you! I thinking about seeking help but not to sure where to go! If you feel like a chat or anything feel free to message me

BlueEyes24 · Apr 4th, 2012, 20:03 PM

I used to have anxiety attacks pretty frequently. It always seems to start with hyperventilating but that is sneaky and takes a while to control. I've been doing so good at not having attacks. I sure don't want to go back to that.

As far as Google goes, I wish I didn't have internet on my phone. I am OBSESSED! And it does ALWAYS make me feel worse. I had a doctor a few years ago that said to only go on WebMD. I did that today and felt slightly better.

It's nice that I'm not alone. I'm truly driving myself crazy when this should just be the happiest time ever for me.

Thanks everybody!

MissyR · Apr 4th, 2012, 20:39 PM

As I said before.. therapy is never a bad thing. Consult your GP, ask them to refer you to someone. (i found its easier that way for insurance purposes).. Otherwise just look up a therapist in your area.

I still go to therapy, I tend to hold some things in until I blow up, usually on OH. So I'm trying to avoid that from happening any more. It's always better once you get whats on your mind out of you, whether its at a therapists office or even on here. It won't dwell on your mind so much once you get it out there.

I think anxiety is pretty normal in pregnancy. We all worry about our little ones, and want them to be happy and healthy babies! And the anxiety is just triggered more once you've already had a stressful experience in this area.

If its consuming you, eating at you, and it's effecting your daily life... definatly seek out some help.

Wishing you the best, and A very happy and healthy little one xoxox

BlueEyes24 · Apr 4th, 2012, 20:43 PM

Thanks so much! I think I will seek out a therapist or support group. At least that way maybe I won't drive my husband so crazy. He's so patient and tolerant but I'm sure he'd be much happier if I was happier. I am certainly not the type of person to hold any worries in. I think I would explode. Of course, being a man, his response is always, "You'll be fine."

Apr 4th, 2012, 19:06 PM	#1
BlueEyes24 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: North Carolina Posts: 199	Anxiety. Normal or Do I Seriously Need Therapy? I've always been an anxious person. Mainly anxious about an illness or accident harming me or my family. With that being said I had a miscarriage in November at 5 weeks. Two weeks later I got pregnant again, thankfully. Now I'm almost 20 weeks and I am terrified something is going to happen. I'd say my main concern is infection. After ruling out bv earlier today I've switched back to worrying about my gums. A few of my friends know I'm pregnant and most of my family but I'm reluctant to tell anyone else (mainly posting it on facebook) because I feel like I'll jinx myself. I'm driving my husband crazy by stressing so much but he doesn't understand. I'm not worried for me. I know if something happens I'll be totally devastated. I'm worried about how much it will hurt him and my family. Sorry for what felt like a rant.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 19:38 PM	#2
lala222 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 1,198	What happened to you before must have been very awful and hard and I am sorry you had to go through it. You have been blessed with another baby and I know it is hard not to be anxious and worry all the time. I have horrible anxiety as well and drive myself crazy worrying about everything all the time. If you feel you need therapy you should definitely go. There is no harm in seeking help to make you enjoy your pregnancy more and help with the anxiety. I wish you all the best x

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Apr 4th, 2012, 19:44 PM	#3
MissyR Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: South Dakota Posts: 152	I can certianly understand your feelings hun! I don't think its an irrational fear that would require therapy, however, therapy is never a bad thing! If it would make you feel better then schedule an appointment. I used to suffer from depression and anxiety. If you ever get to the point where you experience anxiety attacks, then I would suggest you bring it up to your doctor ASAP.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 19:48 PM	#4
keela Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Mississippi, US Posts: 577	I love therapy! LOL I have a therapist just so I can talk about all of my crazy thoughts without repeating them over and over to dh... I drive him crazy too haha If the anxiety starts interfering with your daily life I would say go ahead and find a therapist. However, if it is just random thoughts that pop into your head but don't really interfere then you are just fine.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 19:54 PM	#5
Hopefull mum Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 599	I'm so glad somebody finally said something! Believe me you are completely normal ! (either that or we are all crazy ) From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep all I think about is bad things happening/issues/everything! I literally sit in the couch and google my fears and that's probably the worst thing anyone can do ! I feel like noone listens to me or my fears or I feel silly Telling anyone! So I agree with you! I thinking about seeking help but not to sure where to go! If you feel like a chat or anything feel free to message me

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Apr 4th, 2012, 20:03 PM	#6
BlueEyes24 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: North Carolina Posts: 199	I used to have anxiety attacks pretty frequently. It always seems to start with hyperventilating but that is sneaky and takes a while to control. I've been doing so good at not having attacks. I sure don't want to go back to that. As far as Google goes, I wish I didn't have internet on my phone. I am OBSESSED! And it does ALWAYS make me feel worse. I had a doctor a few years ago that said to only go on WebMD. I did that today and felt slightly better. It's nice that I'm not alone. I'm truly driving myself crazy when this should just be the happiest time ever for me. Thanks everybody!

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Apr 4th, 2012, 20:39 PM	#7
MissyR Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: South Dakota Posts: 152	As I said before.. therapy is never a bad thing. Consult your GP, ask them to refer you to someone. (i found its easier that way for insurance purposes).. Otherwise just look up a therapist in your area. I still go to therapy, I tend to hold some things in until I blow up, usually on OH. So I'm trying to avoid that from happening any more. It's always better once you get whats on your mind out of you, whether its at a therapists office or even on here. It won't dwell on your mind so much once you get it out there. I think anxiety is pretty normal in pregnancy. We all worry about our little ones, and want them to be happy and healthy babies! And the anxiety is just triggered more once you've already had a stressful experience in this area. If its consuming you, eating at you, and it's effecting your daily life... definatly seek out some help. Wishing you the best, and A very happy and healthy little one xoxox

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Apr 4th, 2012, 20:43 PM	#8
BlueEyes24 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: North Carolina Posts: 199	Thanks so much! I think I will seek out a therapist or support group. At least that way maybe I won't drive my husband so crazy. He's so patient and tolerant but I'm sure he'd be much happier if I was happier. I am certainly not the type of person to hold any worries in. I think I would explode. Of course, being a man, his response is always, "You'll be fine."

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