I wouldn't expect anyone to give up a seat for me. It's nice if it happens but I wouldn't accept it. But, I think a lot of people wouldn't offer because
You never really know if someone is pregnant. I have a friend who seriously looks
Pregnant and she isn't. How embarrassed would you be if you offered a seat to someone who isn't actually pregnant.
That can be embarrassing if someone isn't pregnant. I tend to wear clothing that doesn't show it off, just as it's a little cold lately.
I have to say thanks to everyone, as I've just come in tearful from a double dose of baby brain and absolute t*!t alert...
I was at the self checkout in Asda about an hour ago now, and I selected £10 cashback. I was a little slower than usual perhaps picking up my shopping bag and right behind me was a woman who virtually pushed me out of the way to get on the checkout! I wobbled a bit and turned to her, bump very clear, and she quickly averted her gaze, but smarmily hissed 'congratulations' (I also had my baby on board badge still on from the commute last night).
I waddled off, and then realized I'd left my £10 at the checkout, so I went back and the same woman was there but my £10 was not! I asked the checkout person if he could help and he said it hadn't been handed in, and then I promptly burst into tears (I think I scared the life out of him).
I went to leave but the checkout guy insisted that a manager come and see me, and was the left, sobbing like a PLONKER, in the middle of Easter madness in Asda. After a while I felt wobbly so went over to a row of chairs...only for noone to let me sit.
I hope your man in Ikea got a good rollocking from his wife that day, and I hope the woman in Asda enjoys my £10
OMG! hun, poor you! What a bitch for taking your money! I know how you feel, for some reason raw emotion stops us from kicking people like her in the but! Hope u have a better evening. Put your feet up and relax.
Obviously there are people that also deserve a seat due to being unwell whilst not necessarily looking it... I hardly think though that every single person in a tram or train that is sitting there avoiding making eye contact with a tottering tired pregnant women standing in the aisle has a disability that excuses them from not helping.
Also, as much as you could say that pregnancy is not a disability and that therefore it isn't necessary to automatically offer a seat to a pregnant woman... Chances are that that pregnant woman is in worse shape than at least half of the people in that tram. Be it physical or emotional. Considering those chances I do not think it's acceptable for nobody to bother offering a seat on the off-chance that that pregnant women might just be one of those super lucky energetic pregnant women. IF you're pregnant and you so happen to be feeling really well that day you can obviously decline a seat if offered.. But it should NOT be the norm that it is unnecessary to offer a seat because you (as a fellow passenger) think there is a chance that the pregnant woman doesn't need it - how could you possibly know for sure?
There just are some people that take precedence in public situations as they GENERALLY are considered to need it (besides that it is a normal part of civilized conduct) because if we didn't grant these people precedence they would 9/10 times get run-over by the more able-bodied and so we can also relieve them of the (embarrassing) burden of having to bother someone to ask for help. These people are pregnant women, women with babies, handicapped people and the elderly. Considering that one day we all will certainly be on the receiving end and dependent on other people's help wouldn't it seem to be better for everyone to stick to these "old fashioned" rules? Even if only from a "better safe than sorry" standpoint?
I've had a hard time in pregnancy and tried very hard to keep going as normal, for a while I was fine and didn't need a seat or to jump a queue in the loo. I used to wonder when I would feel the need for courtesy from others as for ages I seemed to feel quite strong and painfree... my family used to tell me I was doing too much and that I shouldn't even be carrying shopping bags, but it was for me to judge. By the end of the second trimester I have really felt the need for a seat or to use the loo before others, it only happens when I have been on my feet all day and I feel like I can't stand due to the pain in my back or feet... I am very big compared to most bumps at 26weeks lol! The rudeness at the IKEA trip was just uncalled for by that man, I was low on blood sugar and very weak but I was still OK to walk about and look for a table just like everyone else, but when he upset me it really took it out of me and I suddenly felt faint. Now my hubby and I always go to local cafes where we can sit and eat peacefully before we shop. I don't expect people to treat me differently as I'm certainly more abled than an elderly person or handicapped individual, but I do expect courtesy and sesitivity when I'm feeling wacked, just like when an abled bodied person feels very ill suddenly. It's the rudeness from others that bothers me most I think. Like I'm an inconvinience and in the way.
I don't want to sounds too rude.. and I apologize in advance.. but when it comes to pregnancy and being in England.. I wonder why people are so rude over here.. when I was at home, I always gave my sit to elderly or pregnant woman.. and I see people doing it loads of times.. maybe things change now.. I dunno but surely things are not the same.
I've also noticed the larger I get the ruder people seem to act towards me. At 23 weeks now I have a very noticeable bump going on- just today when I was doing my weekly grocery shopping a woman rammed her shopping cart into my side in a crowded isle. I just looked at her, down at my stomach then back at her... she glanced at my bump then glared at me and continued on her way. What a bitch. A man also shoved me out of the way to get one space ahead in the check out counter... apparently he was in a huge hurry. I don't expect to be treated like I'll break if I'm touched or like I need super special treatment, but don't treat me like I'm somehow inconveniencing you with my pregnancy or I'm bothering you... there's no reason to treat pregnant women like crap.
with my 1st i was tiny for ages so noone could tell so wouldn't give up there seats ect. i'd try and stik my belly out more to make it obvious lol! one time i was on a bus and it was like full no seats anywhere yet a lady had her bag on a seat wtf is that alll about she swiftly got told to move it so i could sit i was fuming!
Good lord.. I hope I never come across some of the people you ladies have.
Seriously? People ramming in to your with their carts or bumping in to you?
When is that EVER ok to do?
Geezus... what the hell happened to common frickin courtesy and acting like a decent human being.
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