Pissed off !!!

diva2010 · Apr 6th, 2012, 17:35 PM

It took us 2.5 years to conceive and the only person I shared and have since shared this info with is my Mum. Now a few family members and just tonight one of her friends made a comment about us waiting years for this pregnancy.
I'm just so pissed off, I didn't even want to share this with my own friends! I felt this was a private struggle between me & my husband. I'm so annoyed that's she's telling others this- even know I've told her not to.
Am I over reacting?? Just can't shake this totally annoyed feeling tonight! Prob going to speak to her Tomo.

km157x · Apr 6th, 2012, 17:48 PM

I can understand your annoyance! My mum has been fine, but my MIL decided that it was HER place to inform my OH's gran about our news - something that we would really have liked to have shared with her ourselves

That doesn't sound so bad in a way, but she also feels it's her place to inform people that we had to keep this quiet until the scan due to the miscarriage I had last year (which no-one knew about) !!! Things like that and ttc are very personal business, I don't understand why some people feel that they can share that private information

It's definately worth talking to your mum about it, I'm going to try and talk to MIL next time it comes up x

Faythe · Apr 6th, 2012, 17:50 PM

Definately talk to her about it.

She has no right to divulge such personal information like that.

ChimChims · Apr 6th, 2012, 17:55 PM

Was she sharing it for certain, or did they figure it out on their own? (I've had both scenarios happen to me - which is why I ask.) Sometimes people just figure it out. If it was her, by all means have a chat about what is and is not appropriate behavior.

akblaze · Apr 7th, 2012, 00:05 AM

I don't blame you for being upset. We struggled to get pregnant due to me having an elevated testosterone lehttp://www.babyandbump.com/images/editor/smilie.gifvel so I don't ovulate on my own.. when we found out we told our parents and immediate family but we kept it at that.. However, my mom felt the need to tell EVERYONE! I was sooo mad! I had a ton of spotting in first tri too so I didn't want to tell anyone else. and then my mom felt the need to say after my 12 week ultrasound "so, are you finally excited??" UGH!!! I've been ecstatic from the beginning, we wanted this baby sooooo bad! I was just scared!!! I really wish I had said something to her to tell her that her comments hurt but oh well.. I really think you should have a talk with your mom to let her know how you feel. That way she knows not to do it again if it was her that told.

Apr 6th, 2012, 17:35 PM	#1
diva2010 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Scotland Posts: 302	Pissed off !!! It took us 2.5 years to conceive and the only person I shared and have since shared this info with is my Mum. Now a few family members and just tonight one of her friends made a comment about us waiting years for this pregnancy. I'm just so pissed off, I didn't even want to share this with my own friends! I felt this was a private struggle between me & my husband. I'm so annoyed that's she's telling others this- even know I've told her not to. Am I over reacting?? Just can't shake this totally annoyed feeling tonight! Prob going to speak to her Tomo.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 17:48 PM	#2
km157x Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 65	I can understand your annoyance! My mum has been fine, but my MIL decided that it was HER place to inform my OH's gran about our news - something that we would really have liked to have shared with her ourselves That doesn't sound so bad in a way, but she also feels it's her place to inform people that we had to keep this quiet until the scan due to the miscarriage I had last year (which no-one knew about) !!! Things like that and ttc are very personal business, I don't understand why some people feel that they can share that private information It's definately worth talking to your mum about it, I'm going to try and talk to MIL next time it comes up x

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Apr 6th, 2012, 17:50 PM	#3
Faythe Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,463	Definately talk to her about it. She has no right to divulge such personal information like that.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 17:55 PM	#4
ChimChims Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: USA Posts: 850	Was she sharing it for certain, or did they figure it out on their own? (I've had both scenarios happen to me - which is why I ask.) Sometimes people just figure it out. If it was her, by all means have a chat about what is and is not appropriate behavior.

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Apr 7th, 2012, 00:05 AM	#5
akblaze Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: North Pole, Alaska Posts: 721	I don't blame you for being upset. We struggled to get pregnant due to me having an elevated testosterone lehttp://www.babyandbump.com/images/editor/smilie.gifvel so I don't ovulate on my own.. when we found out we told our parents and immediate family but we kept it at that.. However, my mom felt the need to tell EVERYONE! I was sooo mad! I had a ton of spotting in first tri too so I didn't want to tell anyone else. and then my mom felt the need to say after my 12 week ultrasound "so, are you finally excited??" UGH!!! I've been ecstatic from the beginning, we wanted this baby sooooo bad! I was just scared!!! I really wish I had said something to her to tell her that her comments hurt but oh well.. I really think you should have a talk with your mom to let her know how you feel. That way she knows not to do it again if it was her that told.

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