We were at my in-laws last night for a big family dinner and about 5 people smoke. They have to go in the garage, which is through a very thick door and in the basement, so no smoke gets in the house. But, I think my bf's grandmother was allowed to smoke in the dining room a couple of times - I semi get it, she is quite old and not very mobile...
When we first walked into the house, I thought I smelled cigarette smoke, but after about 30 seconds I couldn't smell it anymore so I figured I was wrong or it was just someone's clothing. But later on in the evening, after dinner when the smokers went in the garage, my MIL closed the doors to the kitchen (they have like these bar doors - full length) while we were on the other side in the living room and I think it's because his grandmother was smoking in the dining room. I couldn't smell anything when we walked in there for desert a while later, but when we got home my clothing smelled like smoke and so did my hair and I just had to take a shower.
Now I'm worried about how this affected the baby..!! I'm hopeful it couldn't have done much harm since it was like 2 cigarettes, not directly around me and we were there for all of a couple of hours??
But I'm kind of pissed that this was allowed near me! I'm torn because I get the grandmother has limited mobility, but at the same time we're talking about a baby! My MIL quit smoking last summer and has since kicked any smokers to get garage, which I was really happy about because before that I felt like we were going to be in for a long talk once we had a baby.....not my house, but my child, and I wouldn't want him/her to be in that house and I could just see a major fight happening there. But now I'm worried if people are sometimes allowed to smoke in there....mind you, his grandmother lives quite far and is there maybe a total of 2-3 times a year. Opinions??

TBh i doubt the second hand smoke of 2 cigs from a differant room will have even gotten to your baby so dont worry
my sons dad allways used to let his mates smoke around our som when i wasnt there and hes totally fine hun liek you say its 2-3 times a year ots not like its a daily thing youll be fine when baby comes along just get them to open the dining room window :-)

It wont have harmed baby. x

i think u are over reacting a bit,people spend all day eating chemicals cleaning with chemicals being exposed to polution from industry and cars and if u look at the sky when was the last time u didnt see a plane fly over head and a trail of vapor that spreads rather than disperses that trail which means most of us havent seen a completely blue sky in decades has heavy metals like aluminum and barium in it and most of the general public have no clue about it..and what goes up must come down.
second hand smoke is the least of the average persons worries when it comes to toxins.

Second hand smoke in another room will not cause any harm to the baby.

It shows that you're going to be a good mum that you were worried, but it's not worth stressing over this kind of thing. Unless you live with a smoker who smokes in the house day in day out you should not have any ill effects.

i dont think youre over reaxcting. i dont think it will have done any harm but obviously on a regular basis would so i see yr concerns that it may happen more than u are aware of.
i HATE smoking, and my parents smoke in their home but not when we are there but we still stink when we leave and i know my chest feels tight as what they dont get is it sticks to eveything. i totally get why youd be pissed, i would too infact i do, whenever anyone lights up near me. but rest assured you should be fine. ask yr mil if this is a regular thing with other people or not.

Firstly, smoke in another room WILL reach you - the majority of the toxic gasses from cigarettes are invisible and being gasses, will travel through any and all gaps

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Secondly, 2 cigarettes are not likely to do any lasting damage - so I wouldn't worry too much...but if it were me I would get assurances on who exactly will be there if I visit again and what the smoking arrangements are

thanks for the replies.
I didn't really think I was over-reacting to being concerned about people smoking there at other times either. My concern is when I leave the baby with my MIL, what happens then. I guess I will have to talk to her and let her know that I don't want anyone smoking in the house when the baby is around.
My parents smoked in the house until I was about 6 or 7. Then I lived with a smoker for a few years (still do, my bf, but he does not smoke in the house) and I know for a fact how the smell can reach EVERYTHING! We lived in a 1 bedroom apartment at the time, and he would only smoke in the living room once a week when I wasn't there. We installed a thing in the gap to the door in our bedroom to try and minimize what go through there, and yet my clothing, freshly washed, that was beyond yet another set of doors in a closet, reeked of smoke as soon as I walked out of that apartment. It's a terribly sneaky smell!!
I might have had some misplaced concern with regards to last night, but I don't think concern about an environment where there is smoke is over-reacting.

I don't think you were over-reacting - I hope my comment didn't come across like that.

I agree that the smell gets everywhere. It's horrible! And you would definitely be right to make sure that no smoking goes on in the house when your MIL is babysitting.

Its a tough one with baby's and smoking but 2 cigarettes will have done no harm. I have this issue with my grandparents, my grandad isn't very mobile and literally sits in the living room smoking when I am there, so I never stay for long. I worry about taking the baby to visit though as I don't want my child in that environment but I want them to see my baby! Don't you wish you could click your fingers and suddenly no one smoked!!