Tough decision OH no longer wants to find out gender - what to do? - Page 5

lusterleaf · Apr 9th, 2012, 09:36 AM

honestly its your baby and not your mothers so you should do what you want! For me, the suspense was killing me so I had to find out. If your OH doesn't want to know then just find out yourself and tell him you're finding out and you'll keep it a secret from him if thats what he wants

UkCath · Apr 9th, 2012, 09:45 AM

You are the one carrying the baby 24 hours a day, feeling him/her move and kick, bonding with them before they are even born and if you feel you would like to know, then to me I really think it's your choice.

I'd tell him you have thought about it, you have taken his and his family's ideas in to account but at the end of the day you want to know more about the baby you are carrying.

If he wants to leave the room when the sonographer goes in to see the sex, then leave it in his court to do so and promise not to tell him if he really doesn't want to know...

Redbear21 · Apr 9th, 2012, 09:53 AM

It has to be your and your OH decision, but personally I don't see any concrete reasons why you need to know in advance. Totally personal - I never have and won't this time and have no problem with neutral colours for clothes, nursery etc. I don't believe that knowing the sex helps you bond with the baby, that seems pretty crazy to me!!

PS my sister had a 4d scan with her 4th and still didn't find out the sex, so you could still have one if you wish. Hope you reach an agreement soon

x

xxxjessxxx · Apr 10th, 2012, 01:56 AM

Thanks for your opinions ladies I appreciate them

_Natalie_ · Apr 15th, 2012, 04:48 AM

Just to update you, my OH didnt want to find out either, but I'd went and booked a 3D scan.... well we went yesterday and OH caved in the moment we were in the scanning rom and the sonographer asked if we wanted to know! I'm so happy we know, I've had the surprise for 28 weeks, and was ready to find out babys gender....my mothers intuition was right anyways, and we're TEAM BLUE!

xpatchx · Apr 15th, 2012, 04:57 AM

I don't want to know and my husband does, so he's going to find out and I wont. He wont be allowed to tell anyone though xxx

xxxjessxxx · Apr 16th, 2012, 09:33 AM

Thanks Natalie for updating me - your pic looks so cute!!
So glad mothers intuition was right, I'll definitely be finding out now if my intuition was right on the 28th May

Good to know he caved in! Congratulations on team blue!!! xx

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lusterleaf Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 459	honestly its your baby and not your mothers so you should do what you want! For me, the suspense was killing me so I had to find out. If your OH doesn't want to know then just find out yourself and tell him you're finding out and you'll keep it a secret from him if thats what he wants

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Apr 9th, 2012, 09:45 AM	#42
UkCath Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Leeds, UK Posts: 924	You are the one carrying the baby 24 hours a day, feeling him/her move and kick, bonding with them before they are even born and if you feel you would like to know, then to me I really think it's your choice. I'd tell him you have thought about it, you have taken his and his family's ideas in to account but at the end of the day you want to know more about the baby you are carrying. If he wants to leave the room when the sonographer goes in to see the sex, then leave it in his court to do so and promise not to tell him if he really doesn't want to know...

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Apr 9th, 2012, 09:53 AM	#43
Redbear21 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: UK Posts: 47	It has to be your and your OH decision, but personally I don't see any concrete reasons why you need to know in advance. Totally personal - I never have and won't this time and have no problem with neutral colours for clothes, nursery etc. I don't believe that knowing the sex helps you bond with the baby, that seems pretty crazy to me!! PS my sister had a 4d scan with her 4th and still didn't find out the sex, so you could still have one if you wish. Hope you reach an agreement soon x

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Apr 10th, 2012, 01:56 AM	#44
xxxjessxxx Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Essex Posts: 4,258	Thanks for your opinions ladies I appreciate them

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Apr 15th, 2012, 04:48 AM	#45
_Natalie_ Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Aberdeen Posts: 1,046	Just to update you, my OH didnt want to find out either, but I'd went and booked a 3D scan.... well we went yesterday and OH caved in the moment we were in the scanning rom and the sonographer asked if we wanted to know! I'm so happy we know, I've had the surprise for 28 weeks, and was ready to find out babys gender....my mothers intuition was right anyways, and we're TEAM BLUE!

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Apr 15th, 2012, 04:57 AM	#46
xpatchx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Chatham, Kent Posts: 2,652	I don't want to know and my husband does, so he's going to find out and I wont. He wont be allowed to tell anyone though xxx

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Apr 16th, 2012, 09:33 AM	#47
xxxjessxxx Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Essex Posts: 4,258	Thanks Natalie for updating me - your pic looks so cute!! So glad mothers intuition was right, I'll definitely be finding out now if my intuition was right on the 28th May Good to know he caved in! Congratulations on team blue!!! xx

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