Sorry if this offends any guilty culprits - Page 5

leahtaba · Apr 10th, 2012, 13:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Jodiebump2012

I guess it's each to their own really. I personally don't see it as a problem, many of my friends and myself have our baby's scan photos as our profile pics

It's just my way of showing how proud I am of my baby as others do in different ways.

I think despise is quite a strong word as it's everyone's personal choice

That's just my opinion though, don't mean to offend

yeh i said in a previous post i shouldn't of said despise, i didn't really give it much thought as i was writing it! makes it sound like i am more peeved about the situation that i really am

susan_1981 · Apr 10th, 2012, 13:39 PM

I haven't done it but was tempted! My husband doesn't like it when people put pictures of just their children as their profile picture.

beth30 · Apr 10th, 2012, 14:00 PM

I notice this alot on FB, but I don't do it. Just because I went through m/c after m/c and I'd log on to see someone else pregnant, gender scans with huge print,or newborn pictures. Soooo, since I know some ladies on my fb that is ttc, and aren't having any good luck, I don't post anything about my pregnancy unless it is a private message to someone. I remember how I hurt and was filled with jealousy and every other emotion..I just don't want to upset them.

Someting that does get under my skin is ladies posting their BFP pregnancy tests that they have just taken on FB. I know that is a personal choice, just the same as posting pregnancy pics, but again, since I've m/c before, I just feel like they should wait a bit... BUT to each their own.

leahtaba · Apr 10th, 2012, 14:04 PM

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Originally Posted by beth30

I notice this alot on FB, but I don't do it. Just because I went through m/c after m/c and I'd log on to see someone else pregnant, gender scans with huge print,or newborn pictures. Soooo, since I know some ladies on my fb that is ttc, and aren't having any good luck, I don't post anything about my pregnancy unless it is a private message to someone. I remember how I hurt and was filled with jealousy and every other emotion..I just don't want to upset them.

Someting that does get under my skin is ladies posting their BFP pregnancy tests that they have just taken on FB. I know that is a personal choice, just the same as posting pregnancy pics, but again, since I've m/c before, I just feel like they should wait a bit... BUT to each their own.

you hit the nail on the head there really! My friend had a miscarriage last year, and we share the same facebook friends, when I would log on and see pregnancy pics and updates everywere I would think about how it must be hurting her, maybe that has a part to play in it. I said this in another post the other day actually, a girl I know mentions her pregnancy in almost every status she posts, and I would always be wary that you never know who is suffering a loss, or trying to conceive. That being said I don't think you should completely refrain from sharing your happy news, but it personally makes me not want to over do the pregnancy updates.

MeAndMyShadow · Apr 10th, 2012, 14:10 PM

Don't bother me a bit...like seeing others scan pics on my feed...gets me more excited as I'm going through it too

Can see how it would hurt those ttc though xx

kissesandhugs · Apr 10th, 2012, 14:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Faythe

Well, we all have our own opinions so let's just mind our own business who has what as a profile pic

Ehh that's a bit harsh

She said 1000 times she doesn't mean to offend. You said yourself we all have our own opinions, certainly she is entitled to her own just like you are to yours.

CloverMouse · Apr 10th, 2012, 14:12 PM

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Originally Posted by leahtaba

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Originally Posted by beth30

I notice this alot on FB, but I don't do it. Just because I went through m/c after m/c and I'd log on to see someone else pregnant, gender scans with huge print,or newborn pictures. Soooo, since I know some ladies on my fb that is ttc, and aren't having any good luck, I don't post anything about my pregnancy unless it is a private message to someone. I remember how I hurt and was filled with jealousy and every other emotion..I just don't want to upset them.

Someting that does get under my skin is ladies posting their BFP pregnancy tests that they have just taken on FB. I know that is a personal choice, just the same as posting pregnancy pics, but again, since I've m/c before, I just feel like they should wait a bit... BUT to each their own.

you hit the nail on the head there really! My friend had a miscarriage last year, and we share the same facebook friends, when I would log on and see pregnancy pics and updates everywere I would think about how it must be hurting her, maybe that has a part to play in it. I said this in another post the other day actually, a girl I know mentions her pregnancy in almost every status she posts, and I would always be wary that you never know who is suffering a loss, or trying to conceive. That being said I don't think you should completely refrain from sharing your happy news, but it personally makes me not want to over do the pregnancy updates.

I agree with you both, and this is probably part of my reasoning. I have a friend who suffered a devestating loss of her newborn (dr mistake) and several who have had miscarriages, some who have been ttc for a long time, and I want to be sensitive to them, I do post occasionally about being pregnant, but I never bitch about it there, I just will occasionally update if something funny happened (really funny) or I have an U/S and let everyone know baby is ok.

I don't let this ruin my fun, I text or talk to people regularly about baby, just dont want to rub it in the faces of those who are struggling.

Shadowy Lady · Apr 10th, 2012, 14:16 PM

I have mine here as my profile pic but not on FB....generally I don't like to share too much on FB anyway so I would never put my scan pic up there...If I did ever decide to have any scan pics there, it'd be on my wall and private to only my sisters and closest friends

kissesandhugs · Apr 10th, 2012, 14:17 PM

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Originally Posted by CloverMouse

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Originally Posted by leahtaba

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Originally Posted by beth30

I notice this alot on FB, but I don't do it. Just because I went through m/c after m/c and I'd log on to see someone else pregnant, gender scans with huge print,or newborn pictures. Soooo, since I know some ladies on my fb that is ttc, and aren't having any good luck, I don't post anything about my pregnancy unless it is a private message to someone. I remember how I hurt and was filled with jealousy and every other emotion..I just don't want to upset them.

Someting that does get under my skin is ladies posting their BFP pregnancy tests that they have just taken on FB. I know that is a personal choice, just the same as posting pregnancy pics, but again, since I've m/c before, I just feel like they should wait a bit... BUT to each their own.

you hit the nail on the head there really! My friend had a miscarriage last year, and we share the same facebook friends, when I would log on and see pregnancy pics and updates everywere I would think about how it must be hurting her, maybe that has a part to play in it. I said this in another post the other day actually, a girl I know mentions her pregnancy in almost every status she posts, and I would always be wary that you never know who is suffering a loss, or trying to conceive. That being said I don't think you should completely refrain from sharing your happy news, but it personally makes me not want to over do the pregnancy updates.

I agree with you both, and this is probably part of my reasoning. I have a friend who suffered a devestating loss of her newborn (dr mistake) and several who have had miscarriages, some who have been ttc for a long time, and I want to be sensitive to them, I do post occasionally about being pregnant, but I never bitch about it there, I just will occasionally update if something funny happened (really funny) or I have an U/S and let everyone know baby is ok.

I don't let this ruin my fun, I text or talk to people regularly about baby, just dont want to rub it in the faces of those who are struggling.

I had a friend on FB who was about a week ahead of me in her pregnancy that had a miscarriage at 12 weeks

I felt so bad, and every time I post ANYTHING she's the first person that pops in my head. I hate to think I'm putting her through hurt...

breakingdawn · Apr 10th, 2012, 14:24 PM

I don't have an u/s picture as my FB picture. But I also don't have a picture of myself as my FB picture either. It's a photo of my music idol holding up a sign/drawing he made for me that a friend took a photo of. Sometimes I like being very private and don't feel like my main photo being myself. Personally I don't pay attention to people's default photos half the time and I am not on FB enough to really care one way or the other, lol! But, everyone has their own pet peeves.

Apr 10th, 2012, 13:39 PM	#42
susan_1981 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: UK Posts: 4,906	I haven't done it but was tempted! My husband doesn't like it when people put pictures of just their children as their profile picture.

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Apr 10th, 2012, 14:00 PM	#43
beth30 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: West Virginia, USA Posts: 2,658	I notice this alot on FB, but I don't do it. Just because I went through m/c after m/c and I'd log on to see someone else pregnant, gender scans with huge print,or newborn pictures. Soooo, since I know some ladies on my fb that is ttc, and aren't having any good luck, I don't post anything about my pregnancy unless it is a private message to someone. I remember how I hurt and was filled with jealousy and every other emotion..I just don't want to upset them. Someting that does get under my skin is ladies posting their BFP pregnancy tests that they have just taken on FB. I know that is a personal choice, just the same as posting pregnancy pics, but again, since I've m/c before, I just feel like they should wait a bit... BUT to each their own.

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Apr 10th, 2012, 14:10 PM	#45
MeAndMyShadow Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,059	Don't bother me a bit...like seeing others scan pics on my feed...gets me more excited as I'm going through it too Can see how it would hurt those ttc though xx

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Apr 10th, 2012, 14:16 PM	#48
Shadowy Lady Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1,928	I have mine here as my profile pic but not on FB....generally I don't like to share too much on FB anyway so I would never put my scan pic up there...If I did ever decide to have any scan pics there, it'd be on my wall and private to only my sisters and closest friends

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Apr 10th, 2012, 14:24 PM	#50
breakingdawn Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 2,364	I don't have an u/s picture as my FB picture. But I also don't have a picture of myself as my FB picture either. It's a photo of my music idol holding up a sign/drawing he made for me that a friend took a photo of. Sometimes I like being very private and don't feel like my main photo being myself. Personally I don't pay attention to people's default photos half the time and I am not on FB enough to really care one way or the other, lol! But, everyone has their own pet peeves.

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