Feeling blue, just wish things would work out ....
sorry for the moan girls. I'm just so down today. Sitting at home alone, still not even dressed and feeling exhausted.
Basically, hubby and me have been trying to sell our one bed flat and move to a two bed house since before I fell pregnant. Everything looked like it was going well and after paying for the survey on the house we were buying (£400) and the mortgage broker fee (another £400) the mortgage was rejected due to a blotch on my credit rating (God knows why they didn't look at my credit file frst) Anyway turns out the blotch wasn't my fault and was and error from 7 years ago so I got it removed, but the mortgage broker told us there was no hope of us getting another mortgage WTF? So I went to another mortgage broker who got us a mortgage no problem, but couldn't get the money I'd lost back, but hey ho at least we were moving right? WRONG! Got a call two days ago saying our buyer had pulled out. Worked my but off with the estate agent and managed to get another buyer within 24 hours phew! But then BOOM yesterday morning got a call from the estate agent dealing with the house we were buying saying they'd got a higher offer from some one else I literally cried and begged down the phone to the estate agent to reconsider, but nope! So now I've also lost the £200 I paid on searches for the house, plus I'll have to pay for a third survey when we eventually find a new house. But I'm not holding out much hope for that. Everything out there in our price range is horrible or in a horrible area or tiny. I went on a major house hunting spree yesterday. No joy, except for one house which is beautiful (bit of road noise, but i can live with it) but it's quite out of our price range and I doubt they'll excet our offer. I keep referring to me rather than us, because hubby is in a low paid job and I'm having to finance this whole thing myself. I'm sitting here crying, just do't know what to do and I'm so worried about the effect all this stress is having on our little pumpkin. I've got my 16 week midwife appointment tomorrow and I'm petrified she won't find a heartbeat. I don't think I've grown at all in the last couple of weeks
Sorry for the moan ladies, I just don't know what to do anymore xx
Ahhh chick, i know how you feel, in my last pregnancy we came into money troubles and ended up living in various parts of the country with various members of the family, at times we were sharing a room with our 3 year old son, its a long long story and so much more to it than that, but what im saying is i was sooooo stressed all the way through, but both me and baby were fine and he is now a very content 11 month old. This time around we are settled in a 3 bedroom privately rented house, stil find plenty of other things to stress about, but what im getting at is that stress really wont harm your baby, people go through all sorts and they and their babies are fine and healthy
Im not belittling what you are going through, i can just imagine how frustrated and fed up you must be. Try and think, whats the worst than can happen? I mean, of course undoubtably, it would be so much nicer to be settled in a new, bigger home and all ready when baby comes BUT if your not, and you are stil in your current home, the baby will most likely be in with you in a moses basket or crib for what...6 months? More if you needed to.
Thanks so much for your kind words and it's so reassuring to hear that stress didn't hurt your little one so hopefully ours is just as resilliant. You sound very strong, I hope I can be as strong as you and it's so wonderful that you're all settled now and things worked out. Congratulations on your third little munchkin. Thanks again for your support xx
Ahh hun you are totally welcome! Couldnt just leave you sitting there in your pj's feeling stressed and sad! Have you perked up at all now? If you havent, best advice i think is to go and have a shower and wash your hair, amazing how much better things looks when your all fresh and clean lol i know i sound silly, but its so true! Helps me anyway xx
That is so true! I feel a bit brighter now, a bit more positive I'm off to jump in the shower now and then gonna make some scrambled egg on toast lol Thanks again so much. You're definitely a lovely kind lady and I bet an amazing mummy too xx
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