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M&S+Bump · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:36 PM

I miss it! Desperately! Having one glass of wine or a teeny bottle of cider just doesn't cut it

I don't miss the hangovers one bit, but I would kill to be able to drink the whole bottle of wine (and then open another)

I know it isn't even going to get better after the baby comes, there's no way I'm going to be able to have a hangover with two under 2 running around.

My DH thankfully has also decided to knock it on the head completely, he has high blood pressure so it's not doing him any good. I used to get my revenge eating junk food in front of him though as he's been on a permanent diet for the last year or so

HorseCrazy91 · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:49 PM

I'm so glad I'm not the only one feeling like this. It wouldn't matter to me but, with being at Uni, going out was my social life so I feel like I never see any of my friends anymore. I would just go out & not drink but I'm ready to collapse into bed at about 10pm & we didn't used to go out until 11pm. It will be all worth it in the end though. I suppose I am lucky, in that my boyfriend has agreed to give up drinking (except for a friend's 30th & his birthday) and he used to be in the pub most evenings after work so it has been a big thing for him. He is being very sweet about it as well

Sunshine12 · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:51 PM

I dont think its selfish. I crave alcohol and cigarettes on a regular basis and I miss it like crazy. I dont miss hangovers but I miss getting shitfaced once in a while and chilling out with a few drinks on a regular basis.

tinytabby · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:55 PM

I miss my social life! Not really getting drunk, but social drinking.

I've been too tired and grumpy to go out much, and when I do I can't be bothered with people being noisy and drunken.

There have been a couple of difficult weeks which would have been well finished off with a bottle of wine - but pizzas and ice cream have done all right instead.

I can't believe how much my life changed with the bfp - I was prepared for it to change with the baby, but didn't think it would be so immediate.

I don't think it's selfish to miss your social life! Luckily there will be a new social life with other mums and your friends once the baby comes.

oh_socold · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:58 PM

I was thinking this today, not that I used to go out and drink even before I was pregnant. Now that I am pregnant though with my first I am almost having anxiety about my life being over and all other kinds of insanity. It doesnt make much sense realistically, but like "oh no I have to be responsible blah blah blah, I cant go out and get drunk and stupid because I have to make sure baby is ok" and all kinds of really daunting thoughts that come and go.

I think it might just be fear of the unknown, and how now what would make me feel better is one last awesome fun time, but being pregnant I cant do that. DH can, even though he wont, its just very unfair.

I just wanted you to know your not alone in this, and it might just be fear or anxiety about the new baby. At least taht is what I am attributing it to

SusieQ30 · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Sunshine12

I dont think its selfish. I crave alcohol and cigarettes on a regular basis and I miss it like crazy. I dont miss hangovers but I miss getting shitfaced once in a while and chilling out with a few drinks on a regular basis.

Hahaha, Yep thats exactly what I meant - getting shitfaced! Lack of hangivers is nice though and I must admit I feel better about it now than I did at around 10 weeks..I was getting pretty depressed!

I definately need to speak to OH...Its his drinking that annoys me!

xx

bitethebullet · Apr 12th, 2012, 15:18 PM

I have 2 hen weekends this weekend and the next so this should be interesting!!! I'm having becks blue when I crave a beer- it's not bad for alcohol free.

CloverMouse · Apr 12th, 2012, 15:31 PM

I miss it, I miss sitting down with hubby and having a bottle (or 2) of wine. I miss having the energy to be up to all hours playing cards with friends, and I'm so sick of being DD it's unreal! DH has cut back, but I don't expect him to quit completely. St. Patrick's Day was a real bummer, walking around with my water while everyone else was having beer and whiskey! One guy offered to make me a drink and told me he couldnt believe I was still standing with how many refills I'd already had... um its water not straight vodka... lol!

Smile88 · Apr 12th, 2012, 15:34 PM

I could murder a glass of Asti!!!!!!!! Xx

uadreamybabe · Apr 12th, 2012, 17:32 PM

I know what you going through! Before I got married and pregnant all my best friends where single and we always went out. Few of my friends didn't want to go out because they "didn't have anyone". But now that I am pregnant they "have someone" and go out all the time and it kills me to say no I can't since they always hang out in bars and clubs and I don't want to expose my baby to smoke and loud music plus I got tired around 10pm lol Its hard to convince my "non-pregnant" friends to hang out during the day, its like a crime or something for them. So I do feel left out, and my husband works during the day and goes to law school at night which leaves only weekends left for us, during which he has to catch up with his law school homework and I have to catch up with my work and grad school papers. Fun times lol Sometimes I want to give up but I know in the end its all worth it. Wow I just wrote an essay. =)

Apr 12th, 2012, 14:36 PM	#11
M&S+Bump Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 2,041	I miss it! Desperately! Having one glass of wine or a teeny bottle of cider just doesn't cut it I don't miss the hangovers one bit, but I would kill to be able to drink the whole bottle of wine (and then open another) I know it isn't even going to get better after the baby comes, there's no way I'm going to be able to have a hangover with two under 2 running around. My DH thankfully has also decided to knock it on the head completely, he has high blood pressure so it's not doing him any good. I used to get my revenge eating junk food in front of him though as he's been on a permanent diet for the last year or so

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:49 PM	#12
HorseCrazy91 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Lancashire, England, UK Posts: 160	I'm so glad I'm not the only one feeling like this. It wouldn't matter to me but, with being at Uni, going out was my social life so I feel like I never see any of my friends anymore. I would just go out & not drink but I'm ready to collapse into bed at about 10pm & we didn't used to go out until 11pm. It will be all worth it in the end though. I suppose I am lucky, in that my boyfriend has agreed to give up drinking (except for a friend's 30th & his birthday) and he used to be in the pub most evenings after work so it has been a big thing for him. He is being very sweet about it as well

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:51 PM	#13
Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,610	I dont think its selfish. I crave alcohol and cigarettes on a regular basis and I miss it like crazy. I dont miss hangovers but I miss getting shitfaced once in a while and chilling out with a few drinks on a regular basis.

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:55 PM	#14
tinytabby Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,119	I miss my social life! Not really getting drunk, but social drinking. I've been too tired and grumpy to go out much, and when I do I can't be bothered with people being noisy and drunken. There have been a couple of difficult weeks which would have been well finished off with a bottle of wine - but pizzas and ice cream have done all right instead. I can't believe how much my life changed with the bfp - I was prepared for it to change with the baby, but didn't think it would be so immediate. I don't think it's selfish to miss your social life! Luckily there will be a new social life with other mums and your friends once the baby comes.

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:58 PM	#15
oh_socold Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oregon Posts: 612	I was thinking this today, not that I used to go out and drink even before I was pregnant. Now that I am pregnant though with my first I am almost having anxiety about my life being over and all other kinds of insanity. It doesnt make much sense realistically, but like "oh no I have to be responsible blah blah blah, I cant go out and get drunk and stupid because I have to make sure baby is ok" and all kinds of really daunting thoughts that come and go. I think it might just be fear of the unknown, and how now what would make me feel better is one last awesome fun time, but being pregnant I cant do that. DH can, even though he wont, its just very unfair. I just wanted you to know your not alone in this, and it might just be fear or anxiety about the new baby. At least taht is what I am attributing it to

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Apr 12th, 2012, 15:18 PM	#17
bitethebullet Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,336	I have 2 hen weekends this weekend and the next so this should be interesting!!! I'm having becks blue when I crave a beer- it's not bad for alcohol free.

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Apr 12th, 2012, 15:31 PM	#18
CloverMouse Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 916	I miss it, I miss sitting down with hubby and having a bottle (or 2) of wine. I miss having the energy to be up to all hours playing cards with friends, and I'm so sick of being DD it's unreal! DH has cut back, but I don't expect him to quit completely. St. Patrick's Day was a real bummer, walking around with my water while everyone else was having beer and whiskey! One guy offered to make me a drink and told me he couldnt believe I was still standing with how many refills I'd already had... um its water not straight vodka... lol!

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Apr 12th, 2012, 15:34 PM	#19
Smile88 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 698	I could murder a glass of Asti!!!!!!!! Xx

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Apr 12th, 2012, 17:32 PM	#20
uadreamybabe Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: New York Posts: 348	I know what you going through! Before I got married and pregnant all my best friends where single and we always went out. Few of my friends didn't want to go out because they "didn't have anyone". But now that I am pregnant they "have someone" and go out all the time and it kills me to say no I can't since they always hang out in bars and clubs and I don't want to expose my baby to smoke and loud music plus I got tired around 10pm lol Its hard to convince my "non-pregnant" friends to hang out during the day, its like a crime or something for them. So I do feel left out, and my husband works during the day and goes to law school at night which leaves only weekends left for us, during which he has to catch up with his law school homework and I have to catch up with my work and grad school papers. Fun times lol Sometimes I want to give up but I know in the end its all worth it. Wow I just wrote an essay. =)

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