Dont feel like I'm allowed to say this!

SusieQ30 · Apr 12th, 2012, 13:45 PM

But....I miss going out with my friends and getting drunk..in fact getting drunk full stop.

I Know, I know totally selfish and I want my babies more than anything, theres no way I'd risk their health by actually doing it. I just feel in such a lonely place. My other half works evenings and is carrying on at the weekend like nothing has changed. All of my friends social lives revolve around drinking (as mine used to!) and I feel so out of place ALL the time, like I just want to stay in and curl up until babies are born, at which point OH will HAVE to make some changes!!

Please tell me I'm not the only one

feeling like a very lonely, very bad person!

ClaudiasMummy · Apr 12th, 2012, 13:48 PM

It's normal! The further along you get though, the more this changes.

Mummy2Be__x · Apr 12th, 2012, 13:54 PM

I miss drinking and going out socializing with my friends, specially when they're out every weekend then upload the new photos onto facebook !!! But I know very soon I'll have something so precious so not drinking is worth it x

izzy29 · Apr 12th, 2012, 13:55 PM

First time round I didn't think I was missing out on a wee drink at all, this time I have had a few cravings for a glass of wine but I never would, high risk as it is so don't want to do anything at all to detriment things

mumto5 · Apr 12th, 2012, 13:59 PM

i miss drinking too hun, i think its quite normal. I still occasionally go out with our friends but i am now thier driver which im hating grrrr i think i would rather stay in and do nothing for the next 6 months xxx

MrsKB 82 · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:03 PM

I felt exactly like that for the first 12 weeks! We didn't tell anyone until then either, so I not only had to stop the drinking but didn't go out full stop so as not to arouse suspicions. I still do miss a few glasses of wine, but have spent some more quality evenings with my friends and hope they will continue to humour me until the baby is born. Then Hubby and I will have to take it in turns to have one too many!
xxx

SusieQ30 · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:05 PM

Thanks Ladies

To be honest I think its more OH than my friends, I feel like I'm an inconvenience to his social life. have tried to talk to him about it, that I could do with a bit more support..time for another try I think!

xxx

MrsKB 82 · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:19 PM

Susie, they fellas don't really get it - we found out we were expecting on Christmas eve, so Christmas was a dry affair for me, while everyone else (Hubby included) guzzled down the festive spirit and then wondered why I wasn't the life and soul of the party.
For us, it changes the moment we get a bfp. For them, it changes once the baby is in their arms.
My husband did try to cut down his drinking but has gone back to his usual habits already. I plan to get my revenge in some way...
xxx

susan_1981 · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:20 PM

I do kind of feel like this but then I so don't miss the hangovers and then when I do go out and they are all getting drunk and I'm drinking my soda and lime, I feel all smug when I leave as I know I'm not going to be hungover the next day. I miss the standing outside a pub on a lovely sunny day, glass of wine in one hand, fag in the other. But it's not forever and I can soon get back to being outside the pub with a glass of wine (no fags though - don't want to go back to that). Just have to realise that it will be a lot less often that I will be doing that.

Think it's natural but it's all worth it! x

rockabillymom · Apr 12th, 2012, 14:25 PM

I agree. All my friends are out partying while im either the DD or at home. It sucks sometimes

plus all the good theme parks are opening and I cant even go

Apr 12th, 2012, 13:45 PM	#1
SusieQ30 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Derby UK Posts: 141	Dont feel like I'm allowed to say this! But....I miss going out with my friends and getting drunk..in fact getting drunk full stop. I Know, I know totally selfish and I want my babies more than anything, theres no way I'd risk their health by actually doing it. I just feel in such a lonely place. My other half works evenings and is carrying on at the weekend like nothing has changed. All of my friends social lives revolve around drinking (as mine used to!) and I feel so out of place ALL the time, like I just want to stay in and curl up until babies are born, at which point OH will HAVE to make some changes!! Please tell me I'm not the only one feeling like a very lonely, very bad person!

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Apr 12th, 2012, 13:48 PM	#2
ClaudiasMummy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 1,067	It's normal! The further along you get though, the more this changes.

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Mummy2Be__x Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Coventry Posts: 1,852	I miss drinking and going out socializing with my friends, specially when they're out every weekend then upload the new photos onto facebook !!! But I know very soon I'll have something so precious so not drinking is worth it x

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izzy29 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: N.Ireland Posts: 874	First time round I didn't think I was missing out on a wee drink at all, this time I have had a few cravings for a glass of wine but I never would, high risk as it is so don't want to do anything at all to detriment things

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mumto5 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Suffolk Posts: 813	i miss drinking too hun, i think its quite normal. I still occasionally go out with our friends but i am now thier driver which im hating grrrr i think i would rather stay in and do nothing for the next 6 months xxx

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MrsKB 82 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Essex, England Posts: 502	I felt exactly like that for the first 12 weeks! We didn't tell anyone until then either, so I not only had to stop the drinking but didn't go out full stop so as not to arouse suspicions. I still do miss a few glasses of wine, but have spent some more quality evenings with my friends and hope they will continue to humour me until the baby is born. Then Hubby and I will have to take it in turns to have one too many! xxx

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SusieQ30 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Derby UK Posts: 141	Thanks Ladies To be honest I think its more OH than my friends, I feel like I'm an inconvenience to his social life. have tried to talk to him about it, that I could do with a bit more support..time for another try I think! xxx

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:19 PM	#8
MrsKB 82 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Essex, England Posts: 502	Susie, they fellas don't really get it - we found out we were expecting on Christmas eve, so Christmas was a dry affair for me, while everyone else (Hubby included) guzzled down the festive spirit and then wondered why I wasn't the life and soul of the party. For us, it changes the moment we get a bfp. For them, it changes once the baby is in their arms. My husband did try to cut down his drinking but has gone back to his usual habits already. I plan to get my revenge in some way... xxx

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:20 PM	#9
susan_1981 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: UK Posts: 4,764	I do kind of feel like this but then I so don't miss the hangovers and then when I do go out and they are all getting drunk and I'm drinking my soda and lime, I feel all smug when I leave as I know I'm not going to be hungover the next day. I miss the standing outside a pub on a lovely sunny day, glass of wine in one hand, fag in the other. But it's not forever and I can soon get back to being outside the pub with a glass of wine (no fags though - don't want to go back to that). Just have to realise that it will be a lot less often that I will be doing that. Think it's natural but it's all worth it! x

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Apr 12th, 2012, 14:25 PM	#10
rockabillymom Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Arizona Posts: 1,639	I agree. All my friends are out partying while im either the DD or at home. It sucks sometimes plus all the good theme parks are opening and I cant even go

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