OMG where to start...
I'm actually getting a few days away before bubs comes along, and have left the OH as he claims he is going to finish the decorating and bits and bobs..

He failed to mention the party he is intending to have on the Friday, until today.

The thing is my neigbour above and to the right love a good complaint to the council/police over parties, music and general social gatherings anyone has on the block, other than themselves. I
know OH will be blaring his stupid drum and bass, and will have his stoner friends over, which music wise before bubs, and if I was there was fine as could monitor the levels of music etc, but I have the biggest gut feeling he is going to take the piss, and I don't want people smoking weed in my flat.
I pay the rent, my name is on the property he is only over to paint, look after the dog and keep the place safe.
Plus I'm back on the saturday with my Dad and don't want the tag alongs still here drunk etc.

Ive tried to explain to him, but this guy has been boob fed by his mum until I met him, and tends to listen to himself, thinking he knows all. I don't mind people over, just no pot smoking inside or out and all music to be off by 11pm.
It's the same when I used to have people by 10, the music would be off, as my neighbours look for an excuse, so I try my best not to give them one.

I know he wants one last night of all his lot together etc, but in the time I've been with him I havent met/seen half of these peole his invited.

Hormones or am I actually being reasonable? I just think with a baby on the way, it's time for him to grow up on that sense, and if he wants a gathering he has a massive studio at his Mum's who doesn't care less what goes on, and she is local to all his friends.

Rant over

100% REASONABLE! no one should eb smoking in your house!!! does he actually live there as if not I would tell him it simply isnt hapenning! also, your going away to enjoy yourself and relax... does he not realsie this will not allow you do so?

100% reasonable! My husbands friends are little twats like that too.

I think you're being completely reasonable. If he can throw the party somewhere else why wouldn't he?! I wouldn't want a bunch of people I didn't really know over my place, smoking pot and annoying the neighbors either.

Why does the party have to be in your place?
He wants one 'last' party with the boys before he has to grow up and be there for you and the LO- fine. Just tell him to do it elsewhere for everybody's sake.

VERY reasonable indeed...if it was me, I would have kicked right off and put both feet down on the matter! You should lay down the law and tell him to do it at the studio. Pitch it to him in the way that would he prefer to piss off the neighbours then have the police catch them all getting stoned and possibly be in prison when his baby is born. That should make him see sense.

He did live here full time, until his 3rd porn incident (wasn't even over the porn, jsut the lies) and I told him he could stay a few days a week, but I'm not ready to have him back here all the time, just yet.
I think he wants it here, as at his Mum's she is very in your face and there isn't room for people to move about like here, and the dog is here.

Sounds like something my OH would have done before he stopped drinking drives me nuts! We actually got evicted from our apt bc our neighbors were the same exact way, we actually NEVER had parties but even if we had a couple friends over they were calling the landlord grr! To answer your question, you are being totally reasonable. There's NO reason that pot should be smoked in your house with your babies clothes/accessories etc are in there, I'd be pissed!!!

I think I will have to try again. Though judging my this event thing he has set up on Facebook no one is going, so hopefully it will stay that way lol

Exactly, I don't need to give these neighbours a reason to complain. That's the worse thing, the stuff stinks out everywhere.

I wish men could get pregnant, I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot, he'd want me to behave in an certain manner.