Custody questions.

TTCb1 · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:03 PM

Can i get full custody of my son?
The father is VERY unstable, we are not married.
I am planning on moving before the baby comes so i can get away from him...
I wouldn't feel safe if he was alone with the baby...
He has threatened to kill himself and i had to call the cops on him.
He is on a rollercoaster and has made me hate him with a passion..
He wants me as stressed as i can get and as unhappy as i can get, VERY emotionally abusive....

Im not planning on having his name on the birth certificate...I want my baby to have a good life and i know that would he without a father like him...

TTCb1 · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:12 PM

Bump..

evoluv · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:16 PM

I think only way is if gives up his custodial right. But I also know that if he is not placed on a birth certificate at birth a paternity test is to be given in order to give the child a "legal" father and give him rights. Best of luck!

oneteddybear · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:19 PM

You should be able to get custody forsure. If you have had to call the police, they should have a report of the problem, which you can use in court. I think that you should have his name on the birth certifcate as I think you need that so you can get child support from him. If he isnt stable enough to be in your babys life emotionally and physicallly, you should still get money from him to help with the costs of baby. As it did take to two of you to make the baby.

TTCb1 · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:19 PM

This is so hard, he drinks too!!!

cassarita · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:20 PM

Dont put him on the birth certificate and don't give the baby his last name!!!!!

If he wants custody then he will have to go to court to prove it.
I also means that you won't be able to get child support unless you go to court but who cares if he is a unstable!

greats · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:22 PM

Oh hun, I'm sorry you're going through this. First thing first I would move out ASAP and get a restraining order against him. This way when you do try getting complete custody of your son, it will be on file that you feared for you and your unborn son's safety while being around him. Def get in talks with a lawyer about this as it could get ugly. Praying for you!

cassarita · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:24 PM

Also call the police if he starts to threaten you or suicide again. The more police records you have on him the more it will go in your favor in the event you have to go to course.

TTCb1 · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:26 PM

Thank you ladies,
@cass: his name will NOT be on the birth certificate, nor will the baby have his name. And i could care less for child support...I want myself and my child safe...
@Greats: i will be talking to a lawyer and moving next month out of state..

Do you know if i move out of state, can i move AGAIN to a different state after he is born?

TTCb1 · Apr 13th, 2012, 15:36 PM

Bump.

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TTCb1 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 285	Custody questions. Can i get full custody of my son? The father is VERY unstable, we are not married. I am planning on moving before the baby comes so i can get away from him... I wouldn't feel safe if he was alone with the baby... He has threatened to kill himself and i had to call the cops on him. He is on a rollercoaster and has made me hate him with a passion.. He wants me as stressed as i can get and as unhappy as i can get, VERY emotionally abusive.... Im not planning on having his name on the birth certificate...I want my baby to have a good life and i know that would he without a father like him...

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evoluv Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: AUSTIN,TX Posts: 351	I think only way is if gives up his custodial right. But I also know that if he is not placed on a birth certificate at birth a paternity test is to be given in order to give the child a "legal" father and give him rights. Best of luck!

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oneteddybear Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Saskatchewan, Canada Posts: 614	You should be able to get custody forsure. If you have had to call the police, they should have a report of the problem, which you can use in court. I think that you should have his name on the birth certifcate as I think you need that so you can get child support from him. If he isnt stable enough to be in your babys life emotionally and physicallly, you should still get money from him to help with the costs of baby. As it did take to two of you to make the baby.

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TTCb1 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 285	This is so hard, he drinks too!!!

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cassarita Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: AB, Canada Posts: 1,063	Dont put him on the birth certificate and don't give the baby his last name!!!!! If he wants custody then he will have to go to court to prove it. I also means that you won't be able to get child support unless you go to court but who cares if he is a unstable!

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Apr 13th, 2012, 15:22 PM	#7
greats Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Chicago suburbs, IL Posts: 2,004	Oh hun, I'm sorry you're going through this. First thing first I would move out ASAP and get a restraining order against him. This way when you do try getting complete custody of your son, it will be on file that you feared for you and your unborn son's safety while being around him. Def get in talks with a lawyer about this as it could get ugly. Praying for you!

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cassarita Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: AB, Canada Posts: 1,063	Also call the police if he starts to threaten you or suicide again. The more police records you have on him the more it will go in your favor in the event you have to go to course.

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Apr 13th, 2012, 15:26 PM	#9
TTCb1 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 285	Thank you ladies, @cass: his name will NOT be on the birth certificate, nor will the baby have his name. And i could care less for child support...I want myself and my child safe... @Greats: i will be talking to a lawyer and moving next month out of state.. Do you know if i move out of state, can i move AGAIN to a different state after he is born?

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