excited pram ordered but frightened to tell my mum
so as i said the pram is ordered and will be ready to collect from the shop in a few days maybe at 19 weeks its a little to early but me and the husband couldn't resist as it was in the sale and saved almost £200!
problem is that my husbands parents paid for it as they had the money to do so straight away but my mum has said for a long while now she would be buying the pram but my mum said she wouldn't buy it till July or probably late august which in my opinion its a bit late as ive been told by the hospital i could go in to labour a month or more early (i'm due early September) so if that happened i would have no pram when i would need one plus the pram could be back to its full price and we would of missed out on saving £200 on it and in the past my mum has said she would do something or buy something and it didn't happen and ive been let down badly by her, thing is i'm really apprehensive to tell my mum because she'll go mental at me! she can be quite bossy and competitive and i really don't think she'll like it that my in-laws have brought the pram and give me a really hard time over it in fact she'll probably do the whole emotional blackmail thing and make me feel like i'm the worst daughter ever and i love my in-laws more than her and make out like she'll never forgive me..
Or explain it was on offer and ask if she wants to buy one of the other big items? When I was pregnant wih my first baby my mum brought the pram and mil bought his nursery furniture. My mums really sensitive about things like that and she was okay when I explained lol x
That sounds like my mum! i no longer talk to my mum because she took the huff over a moses basket and deleted me off facebook and hasnt spoke to me in two months and didnt even wish me happy birthday,i think the less we tell our parents the better, tell her your OH surprised you with it, she cant get annoyed with that x
Deffo sounds like my mum lol, No matter what you tell her shes gonna be upset,i know what you mean about buying everything yourself for a quiet life! it has caused so much arguments between my family and OH family that we eventually had enough and said no one was to buy anything big! they took a nice gesture and turned it in to a horrible mess! .. families eh? lol x
What's done is done so I would just be honest with her and get it over with as soon as possible, focussing on what a bargain it was, she may well huff for a while but if she's anything like my mum within a few days she will have found something else to focus on buying. Maybe put some ideas in her head of things you'd really like or need like the cot for example which is another big important item. It is ridiculous though that these kinds of things cause so much bother!
definitely April92! families are complicated, my mum can be pretty difficult to deal with, shes got this crazy idea that i like and respect my in laws more than her because there "normal" and still married where as my mum and dad are separated (have been for 12 years) and my dad is an alcoholic so i guess she feels like im ashamed of of her and my family which im not, and she doesn't measure up to my in laws.. she even hates the that i have no problem with my dad and she hates his guts and rhinks i should too
i'm going to see a pram this weekend with my MIL! unless i contact my mum i probably would never hear from again to be honest! she doesn't bother getting in touch unless she wants something and i'm fed up of it. the last straw was a few days ago i ended up walking out of her house, she speaks to me like crap and unless it benefits her she's really not interested so i'm just not going to bother anymore. i'm going to see how long it will take for her to get in touch...i've done this before and gave in and called her because it had almost been 3 months of no contact!
i think she will be upset that i am going with my MIL to look at a pram but my mum has said the same that she and my dad would buy us something for the baby but not until August and i'm due early September too! I don't want to be worrying if we don't have anything, and there's heaps of offers on at the moment, my MIL has offered to keep it at her house for now and she has said she has bought us other things like the bottles and the most of the nursery furniture already!
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