Baby Shower Appropriate???

couturecuts · Apr 14th, 2012, 13:04 PM

I had a nice shower for my first (girl)...Is it appropriate to have another shower for the second child. (4 years later) Or is that considered rude in some way? I sort of feel it would be UNLESS it was a boy, cause obviously we'll need very different items. But some people tell me its perfectly fine to have another shower if its a girl again. I am just not sure.

April92 · Apr 14th, 2012, 13:06 PM

Get someone to throw you one, its not really rude if your not the one thats planing it

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jenniferttc1 · Apr 14th, 2012, 13:19 PM

Where I live many women have showers for different genders. I wouldn't say its "rude" at all, but some people just see it as only for the first baby.
I will only have one shower that was for my first, but I picked out alot of gender neutral things. His play yard, bouncer, swing,play mat are jungle theme that is green yellow and orange. So I wouldnt need any new ones for if I one day had a girl. But only reason I wouldn't have another is cause my family doesnt believe in it, and wouldn't throw me one lol. But if I did I have everything anyways for boy or girl so I would just have on to have a good time and celebrate with no presents

BUT I dont think its rude, cause I believe every child should be celebrated. People don't have to bring presents if they don't want too.

leoniebabey · Apr 14th, 2012, 14:37 PM

i Don't think it's rude they don't have to buy big gifts if you feel rude maybe put a side note that big gifts aren't needed maybe an outfit or such and say it's more of a celebration of the baby?

Indi84 · Apr 14th, 2012, 14:44 PM

I think it's a bit rude if you expected a present, or they thought at had to bring one, but there is nothing wrong with celebrating your new baby with friends and family!

DragonTamer · Apr 14th, 2012, 15:06 PM

My mother threw me a baby shower for my first but when I was pregnant with my son she refused (she said my MIL could but my MIL was a B***h). So didn't have one for my second but when I had my third I had another one but no one showed up

some of the people who didn't show up were sick but some (like her grandma on her fathers) side said they would be there but never showed. I was thinking of not bothering this time since this is my 4th but this is OHs first baby and its a boy and my youngest is 6 (and a girl) and my first son is 12 so I have nothing for this LO. I hope people don't think I'm rude since he's obviously not my first but understand that there is a large gap and we don't have a bunch of stuff left over from my other kids.

oh_socold · Apr 14th, 2012, 15:09 PM

In my family any excuse to get together and eat food is a good excuse lol. I would have the second shower and inform people that this is just a get together and to not go over the top with presents since you have stuff from your little girl. How awesome is it that your little girl gets to go to a party and celebrate this time too?

rubysoho120 · Apr 14th, 2012, 16:41 PM

I would def have one...its not just about presents, its about celebrating the new baby is coming.

campost006 · Apr 14th, 2012, 19:12 PM

I had a nice shower for my 1st as well and plan on having a 2nd with this one. There will be a 6 yr. gap so I don't think it is rude plus I am not planning it.

nightwings · Apr 14th, 2012, 19:30 PM

I dont quite see it as rude

perhaps just not ask for a gift, maybe ask that instead of a gift, everyone bring their favorite dish for a potluck celebration get together sort of deal or something.

We actually did that for our wedding, because we knew lots of family were on tight budgets, and though it's not the same as a baby shower, it worked amazingly, people didn't feel pressured or offended, and many still brough gifts.

might not be as awesome as I am thinking it is lol but ah well...I tried

Apr 14th, 2012, 13:04 PM	#1
couturecuts Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Portland/Vancouver USA! Posts: 634	Baby Shower Appropriate??? I had a nice shower for my first (girl)...Is it appropriate to have another shower for the second child. (4 years later) Or is that considered rude in some way? I sort of feel it would be UNLESS it was a boy, cause obviously we'll need very different items. But some people tell me its perfectly fine to have another shower if its a girl again. I am just not sure.

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Apr 14th, 2012, 13:06 PM	#2
April92 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Scotland Posts: 398	Get someone to throw you one, its not really rude if your not the one thats planing it x

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Apr 14th, 2012, 13:19 PM	#3
jenniferttc1 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: US Posts: 10,858	Where I live many women have showers for different genders. I wouldn't say its "rude" at all, but some people just see it as only for the first baby. I will only have one shower that was for my first, but I picked out alot of gender neutral things. His play yard, bouncer, swing,play mat are jungle theme that is green yellow and orange. So I wouldnt need any new ones for if I one day had a girl. But only reason I wouldn't have another is cause my family doesnt believe in it, and wouldn't throw me one lol. But if I did I have everything anyways for boy or girl so I would just have on to have a good time and celebrate with no presents BUT I dont think its rude, cause I believe every child should be celebrated. People don't have to bring presents if they don't want too.

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Apr 14th, 2012, 14:37 PM	#4
leoniebabey Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Newcastle Posts: 8,957	i Don't think it's rude they don't have to buy big gifts if you feel rude maybe put a side note that big gifts aren't needed maybe an outfit or such and say it's more of a celebration of the baby?

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Indi84 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: UK Posts: 1,678	I think it's a bit rude if you expected a present, or they thought at had to bring one, but there is nothing wrong with celebrating your new baby with friends and family!

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Apr 14th, 2012, 15:06 PM	#6
DragonTamer Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Florida Posts: 1,553	My mother threw me a baby shower for my first but when I was pregnant with my son she refused (she said my MIL could but my MIL was a B***h). So didn't have one for my second but when I had my third I had another one but no one showed up some of the people who didn't show up were sick but some (like her grandma on her fathers) side said they would be there but never showed. I was thinking of not bothering this time since this is my 4th but this is OHs first baby and its a boy and my youngest is 6 (and a girl) and my first son is 12 so I have nothing for this LO. I hope people don't think I'm rude since he's obviously not my first but understand that there is a large gap and we don't have a bunch of stuff left over from my other kids.

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Apr 14th, 2012, 15:09 PM	#7
oh_socold Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oregon Posts: 612	In my family any excuse to get together and eat food is a good excuse lol. I would have the second shower and inform people that this is just a get together and to not go over the top with presents since you have stuff from your little girl. How awesome is it that your little girl gets to go to a party and celebrate this time too?

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Apr 14th, 2012, 16:41 PM	#8
rubysoho120 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Northern California Posts: 1,360	I would def have one...its not just about presents, its about celebrating the new baby is coming.

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Apr 14th, 2012, 19:12 PM	#9
campost006 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Houston, Tx. Posts: 290	I had a nice shower for my 1st as well and plan on having a 2nd with this one. There will be a 6 yr. gap so I don't think it is rude plus I am not planning it.

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Apr 14th, 2012, 19:30 PM	#10
nightwings Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Maine :D! Posts: 375	I dont quite see it as rude perhaps just not ask for a gift, maybe ask that instead of a gift, everyone bring their favorite dish for a potluck celebration get together sort of deal or something. We actually did that for our wedding, because we knew lots of family were on tight budgets, and though it's not the same as a baby shower, it worked amazingly, people didn't feel pressured or offended, and many still brough gifts. might not be as awesome as I am thinking it is lol but ah well...I tried

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