First of I get nominated to watch a kid so her mother can go for a job interview. Its not that I dont like the kid its we hardly even know each other. I just moved up with my love near his family. We only met a handful of times before. Second for some reason it annoys me that her mother is 26 years old and had to have my boyfriend drive her when she has a license. This is his sister but it still makes me feel annoyed. Another thing is his sister told me I would never get a job because Im pregnant so it okay that I watch her kid. I get nothing out it. Shes not paying me crap. Its okay for her to have a job and go to school but I'm obligated to watch her child and do neither. I plan on taking summer classes at a local college. When I brought this up I was told Im pregnant and it might be to much for me. Am I wrong for being upset? Everyone seems to think I might as well stay home and be a babysitter because Im pregnant and incapable of a job or school.

I forgot to mention that I feel like crying over this. Just because Im pregnant doesnt me I'm incapable. I feel like they dont care what I think.

I'm so sorry. You honestly can say that you can't watch the kid without some money. Kids are hard work. There's just a lot wrong with this. But for anyone saying to pregnant women that they need to rest their bodies, I call bull on that. I'm in school full time and I am in theater. I will have been in four shows during this pregnancy. So, you can definitely do things! People who are jerks should just be put in their place, really. I hope you put them in their place.

I wouldn't take this nonsense. If you want to take classes, take them. if you want to go get a job, go get one. If you want something, just go do it. No where does it say that pregnancy is a handicap. I am a lifeguard and I just now put in my notice that I will be leaving in 4 weeks. My boss has known I was pregnant from the beginning and has been very understanding. I only am leaving because of the potential hazards of the job. Not because I couldn't physically save someone or get them out. I was worried about being kicked or hit during the process. I know the baby is supposed to be well protected but I wasn't willing to risk it. But you can certainly do anything you want to do while your pregnant. The only things to watch out for are hazards for falls or being hit. You can lift normal amounts of weight (whatever is normal for you) just watch posture. And beware of anything that might cause a fall. Taking up biking or continuing biking later in the pregnancy when balance is off. That sort of thing. I would definitely be asking for compensation for watching the kid. Either in cash or help around the house or on errands if you need/want it.

You are not wrong for being upset whatsoever. I wouldn't do it, people get paid for what she wants you to do. Go ahead and enrol on your college course!!! zxxxx

i would tell you her you feel too unwell to watch her kid and then just do your own thing! Youre not a chilminder and you have yours and your kids future to think about and if doing courses is going to help out then you should be doing that rather than being used by some woman who needs a babysitter ! have you told your oh how you feel? Whats he got to say about it all? x

I would imagine babysitting is a bit harder on a pregnant body than sitting in class and doing homework. You can do both, but I would definately ask for money for watching the child if you are going to be doing it regularly for her. If you have just met them, you have to stand your ground now to not be pushed aside later. Especially after your child is born.

People will walk all over you if you let them. Say pay me or say no. End of.

I'm doing a part time degree at the moment and I will continue to do it until this child is 2/3, I might have another one in that time, who knows. You can do your college course so go and do it, I think its more stressful to look after someone elses kids to be honest.

Hope you work everything out

when i used to be a chef at college a middle aged woman did work and full time college, and she was 9 months pregnant, never say cant