I don't want to buy baby items. :(

huggiez · Apr 17th, 2012, 22:00 PM

I don't know what's wrong with me.

I am afraid if I buy something for the baby something is going to happen to him. I don't want to look at baby stuff or anything. I have suffered a loss, and have had a hard time with this pregnancy. I just don't know how to get over this illogical fear. This will be my 3rd baby (4th pregnancy). I know this sounds absolutely crazy.

I just needed to lay this out there, if I told anybody besides my husband, they would put me away! My other worry is that my babies are usually born 3-4 weeks early, so I might only have 10 weeks left!

hoping4girl · Apr 17th, 2012, 22:15 PM

Honestly if you have made it this far you probably have nothing to worry about! I know how you feel, but now that we know we are having a baby girl I have to restrain myself at the store!! It's understandable that you want to wait tho....are you going to have a baby shower? maybe you will get most things from that!

BlueEyes24 · Apr 17th, 2012, 22:24 PM

I feel the exact same way! I haven't bought anything and haven't announced on facebook. Terrified of jinxing myself. I had a miscarriage too. In November. And got pregnant 2 weeks later. I think it's normal for us to be worried. I hope we both overcome our fear very soon! You're not alone! And you're not crazy!

CarliCareBear · Apr 17th, 2012, 22:25 PM

i have a similar fear and haven't bought a single thing yet. some people have given me some things and i tend to look at them and hope i will have the blessing of using them... even as i am registering for things i wonder about the outcome of this incomplete pregnancy. i know i am being illogical and of course this is nuts but know you aren't totally alone in your fears.

huggiez · Apr 17th, 2012, 22:31 PM

It's terrifying! I am afraid people will think that I am crazy! My friends are having a huge baby shower for me, but going to that even makes me anxious. It's not for another 8 weeks. I keep telling myself that the next milestone will get me over it: seeing he's healthy, feeling his kicks, making it to the 24 week mark, etc....but I am still nowhere with that!

Thanks for letting me know that I'm not alone!!

BlueEyes24 · Apr 17th, 2012, 22:44 PM

I remember telling myself, "At 12 weeks I'll tell people". Then it was "At my gender scan at 19 weeks I'll tell people". I still haven't. I think we're going to have to just do things that we feel uncomfortable doing and when nothing bad happens we'll slowly get over the jinxing thing. It's just hard to start. I blame this on OCD.

ms.hope · Apr 18th, 2012, 01:16 AM

I understand how you feel---I have had a 2nd trimester loss and it was the most painful thing to deal with. I am in constant fear and like u. I have not bought anything-my partner got a pack n play on his own. I just feel like I dont have that care free, excited happy feeling like most pregnant women because of this fear I have that things may not work out. I keep praying and to be honest I wont be happy and content until my baby is here healthy and in my arms.

huggiez · Apr 18th, 2012, 16:10 PM

It's so stressful, I just feel awkward. It doesn't help that we haven't yet heard the HB on the doppler, I have an anterior placenta and for some reason they haven't been able to get it. We end up doing an ultrasound at every appointment. I also don't feel much movement. Good luck to all you ladies, I know soon enough our LO's will be here and everything will be just fine.

honeybee2 · Apr 18th, 2012, 16:21 PM

I feel like that whenever I buy something, I've bought most the stuff I need though to be fair. It must be very hard for you as you've suffered a loss. There is nothing wrong with waiting until your at least 30 weeks to buy anything, although, I would consider a hospital bag from 28 weeks

Apr 17th, 2012, 22:00 PM	#1
huggiez Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Midwest, USA Posts: 295	I don't want to buy baby items. :( I don't know what's wrong with me. I am afraid if I buy something for the baby something is going to happen to him. I don't want to look at baby stuff or anything. I have suffered a loss, and have had a hard time with this pregnancy. I just don't know how to get over this illogical fear. This will be my 3rd baby (4th pregnancy). I know this sounds absolutely crazy. I just needed to lay this out there, if I told anybody besides my husband, they would put me away! My other worry is that my babies are usually born 3-4 weeks early, so I might only have 10 weeks left!

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Apr 17th, 2012, 22:15 PM	#2
hoping4girl Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Wyoming Posts: 1,945	Honestly if you have made it this far you probably have nothing to worry about! I know how you feel, but now that we know we are having a baby girl I have to restrain myself at the store!! It's understandable that you want to wait tho....are you going to have a baby shower? maybe you will get most things from that!

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Apr 17th, 2012, 22:24 PM	#3
BlueEyes24 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: North Carolina Posts: 199	I feel the exact same way! I haven't bought anything and haven't announced on facebook. Terrified of jinxing myself. I had a miscarriage too. In November. And got pregnant 2 weeks later. I think it's normal for us to be worried. I hope we both overcome our fear very soon! You're not alone! And you're not crazy!

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Apr 17th, 2012, 22:25 PM	#4
CarliCareBear Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Colorado Posts: 963	i have a similar fear and haven't bought a single thing yet. some people have given me some things and i tend to look at them and hope i will have the blessing of using them... even as i am registering for things i wonder about the outcome of this incomplete pregnancy. i know i am being illogical and of course this is nuts but know you aren't totally alone in your fears.

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Apr 17th, 2012, 22:31 PM	#5
huggiez Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Midwest, USA Posts: 295	It's terrifying! I am afraid people will think that I am crazy! My friends are having a huge baby shower for me, but going to that even makes me anxious. It's not for another 8 weeks. I keep telling myself that the next milestone will get me over it: seeing he's healthy, feeling his kicks, making it to the 24 week mark, etc....but I am still nowhere with that! Thanks for letting me know that I'm not alone!!

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Apr 17th, 2012, 22:44 PM	#6
BlueEyes24 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: North Carolina Posts: 199	I remember telling myself, "At 12 weeks I'll tell people". Then it was "At my gender scan at 19 weeks I'll tell people". I still haven't. I think we're going to have to just do things that we feel uncomfortable doing and when nothing bad happens we'll slowly get over the jinxing thing. It's just hard to start. I blame this on OCD.

Status: Offline

Apr 18th, 2012, 01:16 AM	#7
ms.hope Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: toronto, Canada Posts: 1,164	I understand how you feel---I have had a 2nd trimester loss and it was the most painful thing to deal with. I am in constant fear and like u. I have not bought anything-my partner got a pack n play on his own. I just feel like I dont have that care free, excited happy feeling like most pregnant women because of this fear I have that things may not work out. I keep praying and to be honest I wont be happy and content until my baby is here healthy and in my arms.

Status: Offline

Apr 18th, 2012, 16:10 PM	#8
huggiez Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Midwest, USA Posts: 295	It's so stressful, I just feel awkward. It doesn't help that we haven't yet heard the HB on the doppler, I have an anterior placenta and for some reason they haven't been able to get it. We end up doing an ultrasound at every appointment. I also don't feel much movement. Good luck to all you ladies, I know soon enough our LO's will be here and everything will be just fine.

Status: Offline

Apr 18th, 2012, 16:21 PM	#9
honeybee2 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: UK Posts: 12,090	I feel like that whenever I buy something, I've bought most the stuff I need though to be fair. It must be very hard for you as you've suffered a loss. There is nothing wrong with waiting until your at least 30 weeks to buy anything, although, I would consider a hospital bag from 28 weeks

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