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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 02:09 AM   1
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So let me start by saying its a massive absurdity that I’m posting in this section, but hear me out. I am now 40 years old, I got pregnant at 37 with a lot of medical help. I am very infertile, my tubes are blocked, and my eggs aren’t good quality. My husband has severe male factor. So because of all of that we don’t protect during sex, but it can hardly be called not trying/not preventing. We don’t want more children, we have 2 year old twins and they are a handful, love them to bits, but they will be our only children. We have a frozen embrio that I’m sad about, because we won’t be putting it back, but we really do have too many reasons not to have more children.

But the reason I’m posting here, is because I haven’t got my period, and I’ve never been late, ever. Even when I lost lots of weight and got very skinny, even when I had panic disorder and extreme stress and anxiety for years, I was always punctual. So now I’m freaked out. I can’t see how I could be pregnant, just thinking about it last night, I was laughing out loud at how silly it was. I fear more the menopause at this stage, it would be early, but it might be normal seeing how infertile I am, I am going to have the ask the doctor that one, but I suppose i need to be later for my period for that. I don’t have the symptoms of the menopause, and strangely enough I’ve had a few symptoms I’ve only had when pregnant. I woke up in the night with extreme nausea, I had the exact same experience when first pregnant, and it was quite unique (except from having again 2 days ago). There have been other symptoms, but I suppose any one of them can be debunked as pms. I really don’t want to be pregnant, as I fear that if there is any chance, I mean, “on the news its so improbable” chance, it would have to be ectopic with the state of my tubes, so I really do want to keep my eye on it. Plus, yesterday I got the most horrendous shoulder pain, that I’ve never had before, which I know can be a symptom of ectopic, so if that small chance in a million could have happened I really want to be on top of it due to the seriousness of this type of pregnancy.

So I discovered that I can get to Spain some cheap tests delivered the next day, so I went for it, and in theory, they are arriving today! I’ve always been a massive POAS freak, so I’ll enjoy that bit, and thought someone could help me out and tweak my evaps The whole situation sucks to be honest, as I really don’t want the menopause, I already have some serious bone issues that can only get worse come that time of life, but if that is what is meant to be I’ll have to embrace it. As soon as the tests come I’ll pee on one and post!

Oh, and I know I’m late, but I stupidly didn’t write my last period down, I find that kind of thing hard nowadays with the stress of looking after my toddlers, and I suppose I didn’t see it as important. But I do know I’m late, which as I said, has never happened.



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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 02:19 AM   2
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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 04:45 AM   3
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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 04:56 AM   4
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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 05:06 AM   5
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Good luck with testing. It might reassure you to let you know I have had an ectopic, the shoulder pain you get with an ectopic isn't regular she's under pain, it is focused on the tip of your shoulder, it doesn't feel muscular, and it only happens when the ectopic ruptures (it is caused by the internal bleeding irritating your diaphragm which transfers to the tip of your shoulder for some odd reason) - if you had a ruptured ectopic, you would know - mines didn't rupture (although it was close!) and I had period type pains only on the right side from before my bfp. Then, at 5+2 I woke up at 5am in pain that I can only describe as like being stabbed - it was far worse than labour or c-section recovery. It came on instantly and I knew straight away that I had to get to hospital immediately.



 
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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 07:27 AM   6
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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 07:43 AM   7
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Thank you everyone, Loeylo, that is good to know. My shoulder pain was very severe and how you described, I was going out with the children and hubby, just in the door, and I had to go back and sit down. But I haven't had it again, so there is no way it could have been anything related, just me getting old and being full of more aches and pains!

Still waiting for the tests. Its past the time they deliver, and I've been here all morning, so very irritated that they haven't come. It says on their webpage that my parcel is still in delivery, but I'm kind of losing hope, Spain is absolutely dreadful at doing anything on a Saturday! Okay, just the second I wrote that the tests arrived. I will try and use one when not with hubby/kids and post! Thank you again for all your support!



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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 08:16 AM   8
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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 08:19 AM   9
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Hey old friend

Hopping on board to wish you luck (when your tests finally arrive )

Ps. I am also fearing early mp, my cycles have been cuckoo since my last mc in September!



 
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Old Mar 11th, 2017, 11:18 AM   10
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