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Old Jul 17th, 2012, 20:02 PM   1
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My dad screwed me over :'[ o/t but need advice


So, OH and I have been losing money since I was not working for two weeks ( doctors orders ). My car has been giving me issues and we were going to sell it because, I couldn't smog it meaning it wouldn't be registered. We were going to take out a loan of like $3000 for a new car and pay it off over time which was way cheaper then fixing it right here and now. Since, we are really really low on our spending funds.


Anyway, as a nice gesture my dad offered to help us with my current car to see what was wrong with it. He decided ON HIS OWN that he would put my car in the shop just to be diagnosed. I did say if it was cheap to fix it we might just keep the car.

Anyhow, the diagnoses was $140 and they found two things wrong that would prevent it to pass smog. So, for a price of $350 I agreed to fix the car and keep it.


Well, I go to the shop to pick it up later today and pay my half and my dads card keeps getting declined because, he moved and the area codes were messed up. Its been happening a lot to him. So, I just agreed to pay the whole amount and have him write me a check to me for the $140 I paid for him. Well, I paid and my car is running like a dream and so far the practice tests say it'll pass.


I called my dad to just tell him about my car and that his card got declined so, he could just pay me back by check. He automatically told me he wouldn't and that since I owned him money that I needed to still pay him more etc etc etc. Which is true. A couple months ago I owed him $750 and every month have been paying him back. I was now only $170 short of paying him off completely but, couldn't since I have been broke lately.


So, all in all I paid the whole thing. I couldn't afford to even fix my car for $330 and now am stuck paying a surprise of $475... It really sucks and my OH is going to be pissed. Since, he only agreed with $330.


I am already so stressed and the thought my dad purposely fucked me over hurts me like hell... :[

I cant even be excited my car is fixed...



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2012, 21:07 PM   2
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Wow, that is horrible of him to do to you, seriously. You were paying him back! So its not fair for him to use that money as the rest you owed him and as a father he should not treat you that way. I would be soooo upset! Did you explain to him you really cant afford it and would appreciate if he could give you a check? And you continue to pay him in payments.. he should really understand. And if he doesnt id be really pissed off and possibly not even talk to him for a while if it were me tbh.



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2012, 21:17 PM   3
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This situation happened to me and my fiancÚ in the last few weeks. Only it's his car and his dad. I ended up paying for the car to be fixed and then his mother told me she would pay me back and now she won't... So it seems parents do that. I am unemployed as i was fired when they found out I was pregnant so I can't afford the fixes either.

My heart goes out to you and I hope your OH doesn't get made at you as it isn't your fault.

Everything will work out!



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2012, 21:49 PM   4
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Im sorry you are going through this. I dont really have any advice apart from my father has recently shown his true colours and i understand the hurt.

This is now going to be his loss because nothing is going to ruin this amazing time for us. Try not to let your dad do the same to you. It might be a struggle financially for a while for you, but you will get there.



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Old Jul 17th, 2012, 22:50 PM   5
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My Fiance is taking it well. He's pissed that he would do that without telling me first that he wanted me to pay for it. Though, we have decided that we will only pay him 20-30 after this when we FEEL like it. Also, I'm going to take some time from him.. Ugh parents.



 
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