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Old Apr 11th, 2009, 20:25 PM   41
Dukechick
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Hey girl, I just wanted to see if anything else had happened.

PLEASE don't think that IF anything has happened, it's because of you 'letting yourself go'. You're a beautiful girl, and don't deserve to be treated like that. Have you checked sent messages? I'm really hoping it's nothing. We're all here for you honey!!!



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 01:02 AM   42
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PLEASE don't think that IF anything has happened, it's because of you 'letting yourself go'. You're a beautiful girl, and don't deserve to be treated like that.

Exactly. You're about to bring a new life into the world - you're allowed to not shave your legs!
I think that you need to confront your partner as you really need closure and to know where you stand with him before the birth.
If you don't then you risk not enjoying your new baby, or worse, succumbing to postnatal depression.

You're in a terribly stressful situation and you certainly don't deserve to have your baby with a dark cloud hanging over your head.

Be strong and EAT chocolate!
The great thing about this forum is that everyone is so totally supportive so even if your family is away for easter, make sure you come on here and talk. It'll do you good to air your thoughts.

Sending you a BIG hug to you and you LO

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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 01:23 AM   43
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You prob dont care and its nothing related to pregnancy, but you are guys are the only people I can talk to at the min

I went on my OH laptop today because mine was so slow. I only wanted to check my facebook.

Anyway I went on to the the facebook page and his must of already been logged in.

He had a message from a girl, it said " IT WAS NICE MEETING YOU THE OTHER DAY NEXT TIME I'LL BRING MY FRIEND OR MY SISTER XX"

Anyway he never mentioned that he was meeting her or had met her. I just rang him and he said he hasnt met herr and he dont know why she said that

I think he lieing. He was made reduntant last monday and obvously I was upset but I also thought, this will give us the opportunity to get everything ready for the baby and he can help me abit more now.

But he always seems to have something to do so most of the time I dont see him till about 8 oclock every night.

I dont know if im overacting/emotional/hormonal???
Just feel like this pregancy is a bloody joke now and Im the only one who wants this, even though it was his idea to try for a baby..

anyway he said he is on his way back and I dont know how to react??

Just keep crying!

Sorry for rant

I know things can seem 10 times worse at the min with hormones etc, but I hope you get sorted xx



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 01:42 AM   44
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hope you can get everything sorted



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 02:20 AM   45
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I think he's probably telling the truth. My DH reacts in exactly the same way (walking out) if we have an argument and he is frustrated that he can't make me understand what he's trying to say/prove. I'd look at it like this, if it was true that he met this girl, and something had gone on, how would he react to the accusation? When you told him you saw the message he would probably have said something like "ok so I met her but nothing happened, she's just a friend, blah blah blah", whereas he actually denied the meeting completely - not the most obvious lie to tell, but could well be true. There are loads of messages like that on FB - it's shocking. I get loads all the time from so called blokes as I got signed up to some dating app without actually signing up for it myself. Plus on loads of my FB there are flashing things saying "you have 3 new messages" which are not in my regular inbox or stuff like "X wants to meet you". It's full of crap.

If it he didn't meet her, how is he supposed to prove that to you? He is stuck between a rock and hard place. You need to have some mutual trust hun.

I know what it feels like and it's so easy to jump to conclusions, esp. at the moment. But reacting this way is not gonna help matters at all. Hope you guys manage to sort this out



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 02:58 AM   46
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hey honey, as someone on here said earlier the best thing you can do at the mo is research...
- check whether she's actually on his friends list
- click her profile and see if it looks like a genuine 'normal' person, or as if she's a professional or 'adult' poster (can normally tell by just the profile but her pics would be a giveaway)
- check whether they have mutual friends
- see if you can scroll down his and her profile and see any posts between them or when she and him became friends (if at all)
- definately check his sent messages too

she may have messaged him randomly without even being on his friends list in which case it sounds like spam

i'm so sorry you're having this worry... x x x
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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 04:17 AM   47
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Hope you are okay hun, wishingonastar gave some great advice, I really hope you can work this out, thinking of you, take care XX



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 04:28 AM   48
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just read through this and just wanted to say that my thoughts are with you. its a horrible thing to happen when ur pregnant - even if he's done nothing wrong, the doubt and worry eats away at you. keep calm, tlk to him. hope things work out for the best x



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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 06:07 AM   49
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Kaykay, I hope you are alright and I hope it is just paranoia hormones and that there is nothing in it. I don't think he should have walked out because you were upset. You have every right to be upset - even if it is nothing. You are in quite a vulnerable place and he needs to grow up and understand the support you need. Big hugs chick. XXXX



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2009, 06:18 AM   50
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hey honey, as someone on here said earlier the best thing you can do at the mo is research...
- check whether she's actually on his friends list
- click her profile and see if it looks like a genuine 'normal' person, or as if she's a professional or 'adult' poster (can normally tell by just the profile but her pics would be a giveaway)
- check whether they have mutual friends
- see if you can scroll down his and her profile and see any posts between them or when she and him became friends (if at all)
- definately check his sent messages too

she may have messaged him randomly without even being on his friends list in which case it sounds like spam

i'm so sorry you're having this worry... x x x

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Thats exactly what I was gonna suggest hun...hope he came back and you got this all sorted, you so don't need this right now...I am another person who walks out on an arguement too...I have to get away and give myself space to calm down, then I can go back and talk sensibly! I hope you get this sorted hun. x



 
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