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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:06 PM   1
sue_88
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Quite upset at 'friend'


Me and my friend used to be really close! Lots of dinners after work & had a nice relationship.

I found out I was pregnant in Oct and in early Nov she found our she was pregnant too (both of us were trying so new it could happen) and we were delighted.

Then problems started, she's very very selfish by nature but I've always managed to ignore it. We went away in March and she spent all weekend of our break bossing me about and not caring what I wanted to do as well, I came home really deflated that our friendship had gone so sour.

She always thinks she's better than me. Then she went pram shopping with me (id already chosen and ordered my Mothercare My3) and she just said "Arh yes I like it, glad you've done all the hard work for me" and ordered the same one.

On the same shopping trip I spotted that the Mamas & Papas bedtime hugs range was on a fab offer so I bought it as id always loved it. All my friend could do was call me an idiot for spending 80 on baby bedding.

Cue this Thurs when I made the effort to meet up with her and she just bragged and bragged about her baby's Bedtime Hugs nursery. And when I said oh you chose the same as me, she went into a rant at how she thought I'd chosen a different set and now it's ridiculous that both our daughters have the same stuff.

this really upset me because it's not my doing that we have the same things, it's all hers now she's sending me pictures of her "perfect nursery" (her quote). And I said it was lovely & showed her a picture of mine and all she could say was "looks the same"

It seems so petty this is bothering me so much but I just don't have any friends round here I feel like I'm clinging to her for a bit of friendship when all she manages to do is upset me.

Urgh rant over.



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:11 PM   2
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Uh. Sorry dear! Try not to mind her though, and just enjoy your stuff for your daughter



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:23 PM   3
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Thank you. I adore everything I've got for my baby girl, just wish I could show it off without her saying "looks the same"



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:28 PM   4
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You haven't told her your baby's name have you? (Only joking,kinda)
She sounds really annoying, I would just tell her straight next time she makes you feel bad, sounds like she's used to her own way. Pregnancy really shows friends for what they truly are iv found x



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:33 PM   5
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Thank you.

She knows Millie's name......her comment "my friends dog is called that" you just don't say those things her daughters name is going to be different and when we were on holiday she kept looking at those stands which have named gifts on (mugs/key rings/pens etc) and she said:

"at least my daughters name isn't common enough to appear on any of this tacky stuff....oh look there's Millie"

That really upset me too



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:33 PM   6
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Doesn't sound like a friend to me... do you really want her thoughts and opinions around your daughter? I think you're better off removing her from your life, she doesn't sound nice at all



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:35 PM   7
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Hugs I'm sorry! Some friends are just weird!



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:36 PM   8
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Jeez -ditch the bitch! Sounds like a one sided friendship to me, and that's not good for anyone...

Sorry you're dealing with this

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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:38 PM   9
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I agree! What a bitch!!
Even if friends choice of names aren't to 'my' taste I would never say anything to make them feel bad about it. Iv had people react the same way to both my dds names but IMHO they can just suck it up lol.
She really doesn't sound like a nice friend, true friends are fun to be with and you should be able to really enjoy all this baby planning ESP both being so close in pregnancy.



 
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Old Jun 17th, 2013, 16:51 PM   10
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Sounds like a biotch to me! But then I am kind of feeling the same about me mom at the moment because everything I buy she picks fault with it. Anyway, my mom is sooooo lovely and I know what she's like with her picky behaviour but it doesn't bother me normally - I just seem to be ultra sensitive to at the moment and I'm biting my toungue a lot! I am quite moody this pregnancy.
Maybe your both not quite yourselves due to raging hormones at the moment which is making you clash. Might be worth just sticking it out for a while and see how it goes rather than loose a friendship



 
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