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Old Jul 4th, 2013, 19:04 PM   31
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I guess I just think on a site like this people should share all the stories. I feel so much more informed now that I'm a part of groups of mommies and I know all kinds of different stories. I tell all kinds of people my horrible delivery story because I'm proud Of it now. I think it's hard to expect women not to talk about their labor. Especially on a site like this. I just think women should hear it all, the good and the bad and realize that everyone's experience is different. You shouldn't have any expectations of labor or once you're home because every story and every baby and every mama is different
I see what you're saying. I think what most people here (at least I am) are talking about are when friends share these stories. I have friends that I swear say things just to freak me out or try to cause stress or prove something by sharing the worst possible thing that could happen. Here in forums I expect to see it all and it doesn't bother me at all. That's how I learn about the different things to expect. Hope that clears up at least my point of view!



 
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I think sometimes women do just try to scare people or sound like they went through more than they did or they are the strongest blah blah. Sort of Kim to the male pissing contest. But I've told all my friends my delivery story because I'm genuinely proud of it. I think they all know my story is not gonna be their story though because I birth giants. Not your normal baby factory here.



 
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I guess I just think on a site like this people should share all the stories. I feel so much more informed now that I'm a part of groups of mommies and I know all kinds of different stories. I tell all kinds of people my horrible delivery story because I'm proud Of it now. I think it's hard to expect women not to talk about their labor. Especially on a site like this. I just think women should hear it all, the good and the bad and realize that everyone's experience is different. You shouldn't have any expectations of labor or once you're home because every story and every baby and every mama is different
I see what you're saying. I think what most people here (at least I am) are talking about are when friends share these stories. I have friends that I swear say things just to freak me out or try to cause stress or prove something by sharing the worst possible thing that could happen. Here in forums I expect to see it all and it doesn't bother me at all. That's how I learn about the different things to expect. Hope that clears up at least my point of view!
I love your signature. I had that scripture on the nursery wall til we moved. Then I didn't replace it because this baby was a total shock and I somehow felt really bad having it on the baby's wall that I had prayed for so hard and not on the oppsies wall. Ha ha



 
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I guess I just think on a site like this people should share all the stories. I feel so much more informed now that I'm a part of groups of mommies and I know all kinds of different stories. I tell all kinds of people my horrible delivery story because I'm proud Of it now. I think it's hard to expect women not to talk about their labor. Especially on a site like this. I just think women should hear it all, the good and the bad and realize that everyone's experience is different. You shouldn't have any expectations of labor or once you're home because every story and every baby and every mama is different
I see what you're saying. I think what most people here (at least I am) are talking about are when friends share these stories. I have friends that I swear say things just to freak me out or try to cause stress or prove something by sharing the worst possible thing that could happen. Here in forums I expect to see it all and it doesn't bother me at all. That's how I learn about the different things to expect. Hope that clears up at least my point of view!
I love your signature. I had that scripture on the nursery wall til we moved. Then I didn't replace it because this baby was a total shock and I somehow felt really bad having it on the baby's wall that I had prayed for so hard and not on the oppsies wall. Ha ha
LOL that's funny!

I have a feeling my baby is gonna be huge too because the women in my family tend to all have big ones!



 
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I guess I just think on a site like this people should share all the stories. I feel so much more informed now that I'm a part of groups of mommies and I know all kinds of different stories. I tell all kinds of people my horrible delivery story because I'm proud Of it now. I think it's hard to expect women not to talk about their labor. Especially on a site like this. I just think women should hear it all, the good and the bad and realize that everyone's experience is different. You shouldn't have any expectations of labor or once you're home because every story and every baby and every mama is different
I see what you're saying. I think what most people here (at least I am) are talking about are when friends share these stories. I have friends that I swear say things just to freak me out or try to cause stress or prove something by sharing the worst possible thing that could happen. Here in forums I expect to see it all and it doesn't bother me at all. That's how I learn about the different things to expect. Hope that clears up at least my point of view!
I love your signature. I had that scripture on the nursery wall til we moved. Then I didn't replace it because this baby was a total shock and I somehow felt really bad having it on the baby's wall that I had prayed for so hard and not on the oppsies wall. Ha ha
LOL that's funny!

I have a feeling my baby is gonna be huge too because the women in my family tend to all have big ones!
The women in my family all have normal size babies. My mom's biggest was 8 lbs and even my husband was only 8lbs 6 Ozs at a week overdue but somehow I've been graced with ten pound babies and that's at a week early (thank good was I had a blood clotting issue that required induction at 39 weeks or he could have been up to 13 pounds). This one is looking even bigger. But big babies are such a blessing really. He slept great and if he had ever gotten sick I wouldn't have had to worry as much about weight loss and stuff.



 
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I guess I just think on a site like this people should share all the stories. I feel so much more informed now that I'm a part of groups of mommies and I know all kinds of different stories. I tell all kinds of people my horrible delivery story because I'm proud Of it now. I think it's hard to expect women not to talk about their labor. Especially on a site like this. I just think women should hear it all, the good and the bad and realize that everyone's experience is different. You shouldn't have any expectations of labor or once you're home because every story and every baby and every mama is different
Yeah we're saying the same thing just in different languages. It's different sharing your experiences on a site like this, and walking up to someone you work with who is expecting their first child and telling them how horrible childbirth is



 
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I suffered from depression and infertility before becoming pregnant after 8 years of trying. My depressions started the year I found out the fertility issue was on my end. I am hoping that I will not have PPD since a lot of what depressed me was my fertility issues in the first place.

For those who have suffered from PPD please can you tell me what did or did not help you? How did you finally get out of it?

Great thread - thank you.
I had PPD - major to me, but minor in the grand scheme of things I'm sure... what helped me the most was talking to, and being open with, my husband. Mine was a mixture of hormones, extreme lack of sleep, difficulties breastfeeding, not seeing DH anymore (when he was home, I slept - so we went from spending most waking hours together to never seeing each other), and the weather (February in Canada - it's depressing in itself).

I was scared to tell anyone how I felt because I thought I'd be seen as a bad mom, but there's no reason to be ashamed if you do feel that way... it's better to be honest and get help if needed than try to go through it yourself.



 
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I suffered from depression and infertility before becoming pregnant after 8 years of trying. My depressions started the year I found out the fertility issue was on my end. I am hoping that I will not have PPD since a lot of what depressed me was my fertility issues in the first place.

For those who have suffered from PPD please can you tell me what did or did not help you? How did you finally get out of it?

Great thread - thank you.
I had PPD - major to me, but minor in the grand scheme of things I'm sure... what helped me the most was talking to, and being open with, my husband. Mine was a mixture of hormones, extreme lack of sleep, difficulties breastfeeding, not seeing DH anymore (when he was home, I slept - so we went from spending most waking hours together to never seeing each other), and the weather (February in Canada - it's depressing in itself).

I was scared to tell anyone how I felt because I thought I'd be seen as a bad mom, but there's no reason to be ashamed if you do feel that way... it's better to be honest and get help if needed than try to go through it yourself.
Can you tell me how you got help and what was helpful to you?

Thank you very much



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2013, 04:43 AM   39
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I avoid horror stories of birth. As mentioned previously - I would like to live in a world of bliss, as opposed to one of fear. I too had (what I would call) a traumatic birth experience, but I would avoid retelling that story to someone who is pregnant. If, in the aftermath of our pregnancies/labors, they want to discuss their experience, then I am happy to discuss theirs as well as mine.



 
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Old Jul 5th, 2013, 05:11 AM   40
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As Forrest Gump Said - Life is like a box of chocolates - well so is being pregnant/birth/the bit afterwards

Its all different from one person to the next and we all to need to share at some point.........good or bad.................that's just real life ...................when a baby is born after you know the sex weight what do us women want to know ..............the labour story

some bits are better than others and I think being prepared for anything and knowing good and bad stuff just helps us

when you are a FTM you perhaps don't want to know the real horror stories but just by watching OBEM you get a grasp of the range of experiences..............



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