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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:06 PM   1
amandaksj
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My Husband doesn't want sex


Hi I am hoping that I am not the only one!! I am 31 weeks pregnant and my husband hasn't been intersted in sex with me at all since I was about 16 wks. Thinking he doesn't find me attractive anymore, I asked him and he said he couldn't think of that at the mo with a baby in there! Is this a common thing with other halves? I am quite interested in sex but happy if that's the way he feels, and it's not too long to go, I remember last time I was pregnant he was abit like this not as bad and everything went back to normal after my Son was born.

Just wondering if anyone else was experiencing this?
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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:11 PM   2
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My OH doesn't seem very interested either. But to be honest I have zero sex drive at the moment so I haven't been pushing it! I'm hoping things will get back to normal after baby is here for a bit.



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:12 PM   3
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sex............ whats that??? My DH thinks that it is "weird" and wont even kiss me in a passionate way now. This has been going on since I told him. I was thinking about it and I dont think that we have DTD since about 8 weeks or before........ I was interested at the start but now I've lost all my confidence that I'm not interested in it myself. I really dont know when I'm going to get that back. We shall see. My DH has set xmas as a date in his head but I dont like the idea of having a date when we are supposed to sounds a bit off.........

As you can see you are not the only one!!



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:13 PM   4
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SNAP! My dh has no interest in my sexually while i'm pregnant, he's just not into the pregnant sex thing at all. It happened last time too, and like you, i didn't think it was as bad as it is this time. We haven't had sex in months, and even if he did try it on now (which i know he wouldn't), i would say no, because i feel too uncomfortable. Hopefully things will get back to normal shortly after your baby is here.



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:13 PM   5
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Yup! I just had a heart to heart with my Hubs this morning about the same thing. His take on the matter is that he feels protective of me, like, and I quote 'The holy cow that you just don't touch' (LOL!!!!!) and that he loves me dearly and still finds me attractive. He says it's nothing to do with my changing shape or the bump or the baby being on board, he can't really describe it, just, he says it's strange for him! I, on the otherhand have been a randy wench from around the second tri and am starting to find this a bit frustrating. Now, we have had sex a good few times but usually on my being a sex pest and asking. I do understand where he's coming from but at the same time...



It's nice to be compared to a holy cow though. Mooooooooooo.

I think it's quite common for men to go off nookie as it is for the girls to go off nookie in pregnancy.

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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:14 PM   6
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My husband has been the same too, the last time we had sex was about 16 weeks too. But I too am not interested in it at the mo. I much rather prefer cuddles and other shows of affection which I am getting amples of.

My husband has said though as soon as I am able to do so after the birth that he will make it special.



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:21 PM   7
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That makes me feel heaps better, to know that I am not the only one, it sounds quite a common thing for men, I can understand and I am too getting abit uncomfy so not sure it would be a good idea now anyhow!

Thank you ladies for your replies, and heres hoping we can make up for all the lost months of passion when the baby arrives-hmm not sure about that one, will probably be far too tired then!!



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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:27 PM   8
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I was just thinking that...it'll be us that will be putting it off then.



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:30 PM   9
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I haven't had a smidgen of sex in months. Its both of us though - it was reallllly painful for me in 2nd tri and tbh who wants to have sex with a face screwed up in agony!!! I'm even scared myself to try again in case its still sore

We both know it'll come again once the baby comes. Besides, OH can feel baby all the time now and I think he'd find it a little wierd to feel things while we were doing things



 
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Old Oct 4th, 2009, 14:39 PM   10
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Its weird...me and hubs have probably done it more since I've been pregnant than before (if you exclude the 2 months of mad trying)... don't get me wrong its not loads or anything, but we never did it loads before.

I'm starting to go off it a bit now though - especially over the last few days I have been feeling like a right bloody barrel...I feel fat now rather than pregnant and I hate it!!



 
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