I think she's said it without thinking and as everyone else has said, it's probably a generation thing where everyone was superstitious etc. My Mum has gone on and on and on about us having the pram in the house and putting our cot up a few weeks ago. Don't think they realise how insensitive they are being.
Thats bound to be hurtfull, But i do agree its a generational thing, She prob didnt mean it in a bad way, and if she did then she was being very insensitive.
My gran is similar but obv very different circumstances, She thinks im silly to buy anything now aswell, She doesnt understand i need things before the baby gets here, im not talking about buying up a whole shop but neccesitys! Like she thinks i should even look at prams till shes born... she doesnt realise theres a waiting list and u need the carseat which comes with my pram to leave the hospital!!
Dont worry, maybe tell her that it sounded insensitive and it was upsetting for you, you need everyone to be positive x
in some twisted logic, she probably thought it was a thoughtful thing to say. the older generation seem to believe that buying stuff can tempt fate which of course is just superstition, but they didn't rely on science in those days. my mum has said similar to me in the past but she didn't mean to cause hurt. please ignore her, it's just ignorance. not long now!
Try not to be too sensitive to things like that, as hard as it may be. I have had people say such things and I've had no earlier loss - it's just the way certain people, or maybe generations think I guess. Put it out your mind and don't dwell on it.
When i was telling her my plans to get a flat and that it will be ok as i'll be allowed housing allowance when baby gets here.
And she told me that maybe i shouldn't get the flat until after the baby is born. She said 'Afterall Philippa, Baby's die.'
I was like WTF?! Who says that to a heavily pregnant woman?!
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