'I won't buy anything for him till after he's born just incase' - Page 2

jmac · Oct 25th, 2009, 07:36 AM

I think she's said it without thinking and as everyone else has said, it's probably a generation thing where everyone was superstitious etc. My Mum has gone on and on and on about us having the pram in the house and putting our cot up a few weeks ago. Don't think they realise how insensitive they are being.

DaisyDuke · Oct 25th, 2009, 07:38 AM

Oh my gosh what a terrible thing to say, im in shock.

purpledahlia · Oct 25th, 2009, 08:04 AM

aww hugs,

Thats bound to be hurtfull, But i do agree its a generational thing, She prob didnt mean it in a bad way, and if she did then she was being very insensitive.

My gran is similar but obv very different circumstances, She thinks im silly to buy anything now aswell, She doesnt understand i need things before the baby gets here, im not talking about buying up a whole shop but neccesitys! Like she thinks i should even look at prams till shes born... she doesnt realise theres a waiting list and u need the carseat which comes with my pram to leave the hospital!!

Dont worry, maybe tell her that it sounded insensitive and it was upsetting for you, you need everyone to be positive x

lyre · Oct 25th, 2009, 08:15 AM

in some twisted logic, she probably thought it was a thoughtful thing to say. the older generation seem to believe that buying stuff can tempt fate which of course is just superstition, but they didn't rely on science in those days. my mum has said similar to me in the past but she didn't mean to cause hurt. please ignore her, it's just ignorance. not long now!

**Vickie** · Oct 25th, 2009, 08:53 AM

That's very insensitive of her

twists183 · Oct 25th, 2009, 08:55 AM

Try not to be too sensitive to things like that, as hard as it may be. I have had people say such things and I've had no earlier loss - it's just the way certain people, or maybe generations think I guess. Put it out your mind and don't dwell on it.

NickyT75 · Oct 25th, 2009, 09:06 AM

sorry she upset you babe

xx

Wombat · Oct 25th, 2009, 09:29 AM

It seems that for nans once they are past the certain age (around 60) their brain seems to exterminate itself.

Don't pay any attention hun

The main thing is that YOU know that everything will be fine

bloodbinds · Oct 25th, 2009, 10:08 AM

My nan said something similar to me :-/

When i was telling her my plans to get a flat and that it will be ok as i'll be allowed housing allowance when baby gets here.
And she told me that maybe i shouldn't get the flat until after the baby is born. She said 'Afterall Philippa, Baby's die.'

I was like WTF?! Who says that to a heavily pregnant woman?!

So big *hugs*

BBonBoard · Oct 25th, 2009, 10:14 AM

sounds like a generation thing to me, also maybe something to do with being superstitious.

Oct 25th, 2009, 07:36 AM	#11
jmac Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Norfolk, UK Posts: 940	I think she's said it without thinking and as everyone else has said, it's probably a generation thing where everyone was superstitious etc. My Mum has gone on and on and on about us having the pram in the house and putting our cot up a few weeks ago. Don't think they realise how insensitive they are being.

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Oct 25th, 2009, 07:38 AM	#12
DaisyDuke Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: U.K Dorset Posts: 8,681	Oh my gosh what a terrible thing to say, im in shock.

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Oct 25th, 2009, 08:04 AM	#13
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,954	aww hugs, Thats bound to be hurtfull, But i do agree its a generational thing, She prob didnt mean it in a bad way, and if she did then she was being very insensitive. My gran is similar but obv very different circumstances, She thinks im silly to buy anything now aswell, She doesnt understand i need things before the baby gets here, im not talking about buying up a whole shop but neccesitys! Like she thinks i should even look at prams till shes born... she doesnt realise theres a waiting list and u need the carseat which comes with my pram to leave the hospital!! Dont worry, maybe tell her that it sounded insensitive and it was upsetting for you, you need everyone to be positive x

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Oct 25th, 2009, 08:15 AM	#14
lyre Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 735	in some twisted logic, she probably thought it was a thoughtful thing to say. the older generation seem to believe that buying stuff can tempt fate which of course is just superstition, but they didn't rely on science in those days. my mum has said similar to me in the past but she didn't mean to cause hurt. please ignore her, it's just ignorance. not long now!

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Oct 25th, 2009, 08:53 AM	#15
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 85,218	That's very insensitive of her

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Oct 25th, 2009, 08:55 AM	#16
twists183 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: UK Posts: 417	Try not to be too sensitive to things like that, as hard as it may be. I have had people say such things and I've had no earlier loss - it's just the way certain people, or maybe generations think I guess. Put it out your mind and don't dwell on it.

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Oct 25th, 2009, 09:06 AM	#17
NickyT75 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cumbria Posts: 17,846	sorry she upset you babe xx

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Oct 25th, 2009, 09:29 AM	#18
Wombat Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: UK Posts: 1,129	It seems that for nans once they are past the certain age (around 60) their brain seems to exterminate itself. Don't pay any attention hun The main thing is that YOU know that everything will be fine

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Oct 25th, 2009, 10:08 AM	#19
bloodbinds Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Birmingham Posts: 6,632	My nan said something similar to me :-/ When i was telling her my plans to get a flat and that it will be ok as i'll be allowed housing allowance when baby gets here. And she told me that maybe i shouldn't get the flat until after the baby is born. She said 'Afterall Philippa, Baby's die.' I was like WTF?! Who says that to a heavily pregnant woman?! So big hugs

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Oct 25th, 2009, 10:14 AM	#20
BBonBoard Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Central California Posts: 3,005	sounds like a generation thing to me, also maybe something to do with being superstitious.

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