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Old Dec 14th, 2015, 23:52 PM   1
babygirl02201
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Preparing for Labor (Tips/Advice)


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I'm literally obssessing over the fact that I am finally in the third trimester! It's exhausting and very exciting! However, I am wondering if there are any personal TIPS/ADVICE anyone has done to prepare for a smoother labor! I'm only 31 weeks but I would like to know what to do to prepare! I'm a FTM who attends a horrible office and I barely get any of my questions answered at my visits :/



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Old Dec 15th, 2015, 00:59 AM   2
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I think it's best to go into labour and birth with an open mind. You can write and rewrite a birth plan but births rarely ever go to plan. For me the most important thing was to get baby out safely and have a healthy mum and baby afterwards.
My husbands cousin had her heart set on a vaginal birth but she was whisked off for a cesarean before her labour had even begun. She felt so disappointed but baby and mum were healthy.
Perhaps talk about birth wishes instead...like I will try without pain relief but if it becomes too much I will have an epidural, I would like delayed cord clamping/immediate skin to skin as long as everyone is healthy (for example my friend's baby''s heart rate dropped so he had to be whisked off as soon as he arrived).

I'm sure you'll be fine. And once labour is here you'll have that little baby in your arms soon. That thought got me through.



 
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Old Dec 15th, 2015, 01:31 AM   3
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I agree with Spudtastic that just go with the flow of labour. With my DD I had CD's and all that jazz... ended up being blue lighted to an acute hospital as opposed to my midwife led unit, had an epidural and told to push baby out asap because her heart rate was dropping. She was delivered safely and no harm came to us [active pushing was 11 minutes!].

This time round I'm attempting to give birth at the midwife led unit and as I am allergic to a lot of pain relief and they don't offer an epidural I am hoping to just be OK on gas and air.

At the end of the day no matter how much it hurts and how different it goes from any plan you might write know that it can't last forever, that the pain will only be for a short amount of time given the rest of your life if that makes sense.

Just try and stay relaxed as that helps a lot.



 
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Old Dec 15th, 2015, 05:47 AM   4
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As the other ladies have said, be open minded about your labour.

But also, very importantly, research into labour; the hormones involved, the physiology of it, the emotional stages, what you can do to stay in control etc xx



 
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Old Dec 15th, 2015, 19:09 PM   5
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As the other ladies have said, be open minded about your labour.

But also, very importantly, research into labour; the hormones involved, the physiology of it, the emotional stages, what you can do to stay in control etc xx
This is very true. If you want to prepare learning relaxation techniques also help. If you relax and know what's happening it is mentally easier.



 
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Old Dec 15th, 2015, 21:37 PM   6
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Depends on the kind of person you are. Some people do best not knowing a lot, others find anxiety relief in researching a ton. I did the latter last time (pprom 36w-pitocin-epidural-forceps delivery) but had no plan ...yet... This time I will just focus on relaxing and take things as they come. The only thing I wld do different is being more assertive with the nurses. Especially when it comes down to breastfeeding! If one of them pinches me in the nipple to see if colostrum comes out, I'll pinch her right back in hers!!



 
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Old Dec 15th, 2015, 23:32 PM   7
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My tip is, don't feel bad if you decide you want an epidural. I knew from the get-go that I wanted one, but a friend of mine said she was going to go natural, and then ended up asking for the epidural, which was totally fine, except she kept trying to justify her decision to everyone, as if she'd done something wrong, which I thought was sad.

Also, don't let anyone talk you into letting them be present for the labor if you don't want them there. I know moms and MILs can be insistent sometimes, but it's your birth, so do it the way you want.



 
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Old Dec 16th, 2015, 04:15 AM   8
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As other ladies have said defintley do your research on what is phyically happening to your body during labour, also not sure what country you live in but in the UK we have a prgramme called 'One Born Every Minute' which shows hospital births (usually dramatic ones) so I would avoid any programmes like that!



 
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