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Old Mar 19th, 2017, 20:46 PM   1
Periwinkle58
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Any other first time moms getting nervous?


I'm starting to freak out. I'm an only child, no nearby cousins, basically no baby contact at all throughout my whole life. I've probably held a baby twice in my life. I have NO idea what i'm doing. Been reading and watching everything possible trying to get ready but i'm terrified. I feel like i'm buying too much stuff trying to over-prepare and my anxiety is getting to me I'm 32 wks now (or 33 according to every scan) and I was born a 34 week preemie so i feel like this baby can come out at any point and i feel like i'm just not ready! and don't even get me started on labor!

Anyone else feel like this or am i just freaking out over nothing? Everyone tells me "oh it'll all come naturally"... but what if it doesn't?!



 
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Old Mar 20th, 2017, 18:07 PM   2
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It will come naturally, don't worry! I was the same before I had #1 I didn't even know how to speak to a child! While pregnant I'd suddenly get these OMG moments when I'd realise that we were about to have our own actual baby human and I had no idea if we'd cope! That was 6 years ago and now #2 is in his way and I'm totally meh about it because I know it will be fine!

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Old Mar 20th, 2017, 18:24 PM   3
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You'll be fine



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2017, 02:33 AM   4
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Just wanted to say, you're not alone. I think these feelings are completely natural for first time mums.

I'm currently pregnant with my first and although for months I've felt excited and been counting down to meeting baby, I've literally just landed in third trimester and realised, WOW. This is happening. And SOON. lol. I get moments of nervous energy or wondering how I will cope, and even get nervous about how hubby will find the experience. But I've been reassured so many times by mothers...that this will come naturally and even the challenging times are worth it. I already love my unborn son, so I'm trying to hold onto that beyond all my anxiety and nerves.

I'm sure we're going to be fine



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Old Mar 21st, 2017, 04:20 AM   5
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I remember feeling that way, and you know what... My first was the easiest birth It is normal to feel daunted by something you have not been through before and have been told all your life hurts like hell. But honestly, if it were so bad and not worth it I wouldn't be on #4! Good luck and you will be fine.

And as for stuff... It won't matter if there is too much, they poop and vomit on everything at first and change many times a day!! I would just make sure there are at least 12/15 onesies and vests in the first size!!



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2017, 14:04 PM   6
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With my first, logically I knew I was having a baby, but somehow I couldn't actually picture it happening so it felt so surreal. Buut I went into labor and had him the day before he was due, and he's 5 now and we are best friends, we have an amazing bond.

I honestly was completely intimidated by kids before I had my own, and I find that I still am not overly into other people's kids even though I like them, they still intimidate me hehh.. but having your own is so different, you will know what to do.

Labor is definitely an unknown before you go through it, but even after you go through it you still don't exactly know how things are going to go the next time. It is really just something that you have to trust your body to do.. I was very afraid the first time and I fought the pain and got an epidural and everything went fine. The second time I went in with more trust and was able to go without the epidural though I hadn't entirely planned on it.. but if you just go with an open mind and handle your labor as it comes it can help your experience.

The fact that you are so concerned shows already what a great mom you're going to be, all it takes is wanting to do it well



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2017, 16:05 PM   7
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I felt like this when I was having my DD- my degree is entirely children focused, I've had experience in nurseries/schools etc and have a little brother/family members that are younger than me- I think it's totally normal

You'll do great xxx



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2017, 17:27 PM   8
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Me! Similarly to above, my whole education centred around education and I'm a qualified primary teacher but I'm still very nervous about becoming a parent! Probably doesn't bode well I made a big career change a couple years ago for a quieter life..!

I like to be organised and I'm find the latter end of pregnancy a bit unsettling as you can't plan anything, baby could come anytime and no knowing how labour will be! I also feel like perhaps I should have read more books on how to look after a baby but I haven't :-/ I have a pile of them, maybe I'll tackle them on maternity leave. I finish at the end of next week!

That said, I know it'll be ok. I know the basics, I know I need to keep baby clean, dry, warm & fed. That I can do! Everything else I'll learn as I go!

Ps. I've bought way too much stuff as well! I have clothes coming out my ears.. and I'm getting far too worried about making the nursery perfect. In the end, it really won't matter!



 
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