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Old May 8th, 2017, 14:28 PM   1
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So at 35 weeks now and my worrying seems to be picking up.

AMA, FTM. Clueless. Took a while with infertility to get here and just worried.

I avoided purchasing anything, getting things ready etc just not to jinx anything. They sorta believe that in my culture. Yesterday was baby shower and it was great. However now that I've been setting up (crib, bassinet, etc) and getting more and more for baby, esp the gifts and all, I think I worry more. Sometimes I worry, what if instead of girl it's a boy. Doc did say early on it was girl but then we never confirmed again (and again for my sake), so you hear the horror stories of everything being setup for one gender and out comes another. All the stuff we have is baby girl friendly pink lol. Some people even knitted baby stuff in pink!!!

Then I worry about baby being ok. As first timer, not knowing when to be concerned when baby isn't doing typical gymnastics in there. I know she has days when she is less active but when you are so close to it all, you worry more about missing something. Do you just say that's typical baby to have a day in between that she's a little less energetic. Don't want to miss anything and regret. I've been to hospital 2x in 2nd tri already due to needless worrying.

Then I worry of course about the delivery part. I generally have anxiety that's been in check but seems to be a bit more active now. I worry about something happening to baby or to me. Hearing how happy hubby is, it makes me feel so emotional to think if anything happened, he'd never be able to cope.

Lots of family drama stuff on my side of family. Lots of emotions due to that. All in all feeling low, bit depressed, and very emotional lately.

And sleeping with a big bowling ball heavy tummy, switching sides, peeing often, being constipated, low energy, worried about finances, maternity leave, etc, not feeling ready....

I can go on....

Just having one of those days. Is it wrong to feel that baby should be outside of me, probably safer than in me, at this stage. Guess I don't trust myself, my body, as a mom to be. Don't wanna fail.



 
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Old May 8th, 2017, 15:11 PM   2
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Awww!
it's perfectly NORMAL to worry about these things. Especially as a FTM.
How early did you find out baby is a girl? Was it via ultrasound or did you have genetic testing done? I can understand the concern in that dept. But, the baby will be what it is, you can't change the outcome. Try not to worry too much. If the baby is a boy, he won't know he's wearing pink.

Babies at that stage - 35 weeks - dont have as much room so you won't feel as much movement as before and they do have days where they rest and are not as active. If you are worried, just try eating or drinking something and do kick counts. They say on average baby should move 10 times within 2 hours.

Worrying about the delivery is also very normal and very common. This is my 3rd and I know what to expect but I am anxious about it - dealing with the pain and wondering if the baby will be born with complications due to my diabetes. Keep an open communication with your provider and let them address any concerns you have!

Hang in there - the last few weeks can be hard. it will be over soon and you'll have a beautiful baby to snuggle and love!



 
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Old May 8th, 2017, 16:57 PM   3
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Oh huh, as someone who suffers from anxiety disorders I can totally relate. I have no words of wisdom, because I worry right there along with you, but just know that you're not the only one.



 
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Old May 9th, 2017, 14:49 PM   4
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Awww!
it's perfectly NORMAL to worry about these things. Especially as a FTM.
How early did you find out baby is a girl? Was it via ultrasound or did you have genetic testing done? I can understand the concern in that dept. But, the baby will be what it is, you can't change the outcome. Try not to worry too much. If the baby is a boy, he won't know he's wearing pink.

Babies at that stage - 35 weeks - dont have as much room so you won't feel as much movement as before and they do have days where they rest and are not as active. If you are worried, just try eating or drinking something and do kick counts. They say on average baby should move 10 times within 2 hours.

Worrying about the delivery is also very normal and very common. This is my 3rd and I know what to expect but I am anxious about it - dealing with the pain and wondering if the baby will be born with complications due to my diabetes. Keep an open communication with your provider and let them address any concerns you have!

Hang in there - the last few weeks can be hard. it will be over soon and you'll have a beautiful baby to snuggle and love!
Thank you for the reassurance JaJuly. I forget what week we found out. Was through ultrasound. Not genetic. They could never get that genetic blood thing to work for me. Baby is still kicking around for most part but there are times/days when she's less active. Today is a fairly decent day. Have doc on Friday so can't wait to get reassurance again. My OB is very laid back. All he pretty much says is all is on track. But if I do have any concerns like last time where i passed some weird greyish tissue plug thingy at his office, he did an ultrasound to reassure me even though he didn't think much of it. He's always taken concerns seriously. I hope your diabetes does not get in way in any way. Yes it will be over soon though as first timer lol I worry can I do it.

Symphony, thank you. Having anxiety definitely does not help. I'm glad you understand. Your due date is just a few days ahead of me. We can do this.... Gotta cheer each other on.



 
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Old May 9th, 2017, 15:26 PM   5
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So normal. I have anxiety, too, and I worry throughout every second of all of my pregnancies. It's gonna be just fine, though a few last minute freak-outs when baby is almost due are to be expected!



 
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Old May 9th, 2017, 16:39 PM   6
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Pregnancy is a worrying 9 months. I'm not an anxious person at all in normal life but pregnancy has made me worry on and off all the way through! Particularly the latter end for me. I've suddenly felt this huge responsibility that only I can feel the kicks/movements and only I know if they seem different. And I've found that hard! It's been worse on maternity leave, as I'm sat around thinking about it a lot more than when I was distracted at work! Don't worry about going to the hospital. I've been three times during one of babies annoyingly quiet days and every time I've been told they'd rather see me everyday than me not want to waste their time and something actually be wrong! But do try to get baby moving first, a drink of coke works a treat or something super sugary (can be fruit rather than sweets if you want to be healthier)! If that doesn't produce 10 movements in a couple hours, go get checked! My little one was having a really quiet morning today but after a massive cookie with my lunch, she's been bopping around all afternoon!

I'm pretty apprehensive about labour.. no idea what to expect, I just know I'm terrible with pain! Just trying to keep calm and take it and the need for pain relief as it comes!

Don't wish baby out too soon, it won't be long! they need to cook a little bit longer! You aren't and won't fail, you've already made it so far and grown an almost fully grow human!



 
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