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Old May 11th, 2017, 03:38 AM   11
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Maybe write out your 'birth plan' and the bring up a discussion of your 'birth plan' with her. 'Hi mum, I've finished my birth plan for the new baby do you want me to run through it with you!' ' Starting out with just me and DH in the room, you got DD in the waiting room on standby incase I need you, no pain releif until 8cm, cord allowed to stop pulsing before cutting, skin to skin etc' That way it shows that the whole event is being carefully planned not just her part



 
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Old May 11th, 2017, 04:15 AM   12
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My mum was in the labour room with DS but never got in to theatre for my emcs.
Having an elcs this time and she was convinced she'd be there either in theatre instead of OH, or before and after.

Her reasoning was "but you're my baby and I worry about you".
I repeatedly told her that she would come to the hospital at visiting, like everyone else, as OH and I want that time to ourselves. She kept pushing and I kept my answer the same.

She eventually stopped mentioning it and seems to have the jist of it now, whether she is happy or not is her issue.



 
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Old May 11th, 2017, 05:28 AM   13
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I think you shouldn't put too much stress on yourself over this, it is your birth and nobody, not even your OH are entitled to be there! Your mum will have already done this and I hope nobody tried to dictate to her. It's a private moment which you should only share with those you feel comfortable, nobody should question your decision.



 
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Old May 11th, 2017, 07:52 AM   14
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I'm going to call her later today and tell her that hubs and I decided it will be just him and me in there. going to need her to be with my DD to keep her calm. If hubs is at work and can't make it I will need her to fill in taking me to the hospital. You guys are right. This is my baby and she'll just have to deal with it. She's used to getting what she wants so she'll still probably try to stay in the room so I'll tell the nurse to kick her out when the time comes.



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Old May 11th, 2017, 10:14 AM   15
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Well I told her and she didn't seem upset. She said she understood and figured that's what we wanted. But she didn't want to stay on the phone long after. So idk if she's upset or not. I told her so it's out of my hair now. I just hope she doesn't hold a grudge.



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Old May 11th, 2017, 12:58 PM   16
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it's hard when you aren't trying to be mean or anything like that. I'm glad she took it okay and hopefully if she is upset she will get over it quickly.



 
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Old May 11th, 2017, 18:14 PM   17
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I'm glad that the talk went well. I wouldn't read to much into her quick hang up. Even if she is upset, she'll get over it. And maybe she just had something she needed to go do. But yay for having it off your chest!



 
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Old May 12th, 2017, 02:18 AM   18
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If she is upset, she will get over it and probably pretty quickly. Things like this are just not worth being upset over. Glad you got it out of the way.

My mum came in for my first 2 deliveries (I wanted her to) but did not come into my last one as it was a section and the baby's dad came in, she will also not be coming in this time as although I am going for vbac I need her to watch my daughter. She doesn't mind



 
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Old May 12th, 2017, 06:15 AM   19
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Glad to hear it's done with now, she can be upset as long as she doesn't take it out on you, it's your decision and it needs to be respected.



 
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Old May 12th, 2017, 09:27 AM   20
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I would just say it straight! I only ever wanted my partner at the hospital we didn't have visitors until we were home and our other kids had met the baby! It's not often you will have time just the 3 of you especially when you have another child so cherish the moments!



 
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