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Old May 16th, 2017, 15:54 PM   21
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I dont assume kids are invited to a shower. I think its rude to bring them.



 
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Old May 16th, 2017, 17:46 PM   22
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I just wish she would have asked. But meh. Dead horse ya know?

I'm just gonna keep thinking about my cake.



 
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Old May 16th, 2017, 19:13 PM   23
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Cake wins



 
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Old May 16th, 2017, 19:26 PM   24
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Right?! Cake makes everything better. Especially since my whole life my cake was always chocolate (even if it's my birthday) because I'm in the only one in my family who likes vanilla. But since it is three tiers, I get two tiers of vanilla and one chocolate hehe.



 
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Old May 17th, 2017, 03:28 AM   25
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Maybe it's a CA thing. Lol I would always ask if kids are invited, and understand that some parties are adults only. For my Sprinkle party coming up, I'm specifically telling people that it's kid friendly and I'd love to see my 2 year old have fun playing with their kids. I know my friends would automatically wonder if kids are ok, so I'm putting it out there that, yes, bring them.

Be prepared. Maybe buy some easy baby proofing items for cabinets or doors (you'll need them eventually anyways). Bubbles makes kids happy and keep them amused. I will say that you may not want a 2 year old coloring unattended. They will most likely draw on the walls or furniture (and floor). Balloons that you blow up, so no helium, and no string are a big hit for young kids. They love to kick and hit them (and it's pretty harmless). And as a rule of thumb, no small toys smaller than a golf ball. If you have a spare tv, it wouldn't hurt to set it up and ask the mom if he has a favorite show or movie.

I wouldn't be ashamed at all to tell your cousin to take the 2 y.o. outside if he's misbehaving while you do a game or something that requires attention on you or someone talking. Two year olds are a handful at times, and loud. But it's pretty normal. Some kids are more bratty or spoiled than others which make it more stressful.

Hope you have a great party.



 
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Old May 17th, 2017, 07:51 AM   26
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I just had a cousin in law bring a toddler to my bridal shower. I get it. I didn't think anyone would bring kids, but I guess when my mother in law planned the parter and made invitations, she didn't specify. The cousin, her mother, and her sister were all at a table to themselves with the little one, and didn't interact with me until the end of the evening when people were leaving.



 
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Old May 17th, 2017, 22:36 PM   27
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Do I think she should have just assumed that she can bring her kids? No do I think it's that big of a deal? No. Put yourself in her situation, it's completely normal for small children to have anxiety and cry when they can't see mom. Yours might be just like that. Its clear that this all stems from you not liking your cousin. You're stressing over nothing. They might keep busy with cartoons since he's an "iPad baby", lol. Don't judge before you have your own. With that said, enjoy your day. You're overthinking it, don't let that stress you out. Like others said, get him some cheap activities/toys and he'll be busy.



 
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Old May 17th, 2017, 22:49 PM   28
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I can judge her. You don't know her. You can't defend her. Him being an iPad baby is the least of her offenses as a mother and human being. SO works in tech and I teach, we don't believe in allowing kids on screens under two. All the research is against it. I've babysat for years and helped raise my twin brothers, no tvs or screens involved under two there either. I get sleep deprivation messes with people. She refuses to work so she stays at home. He's on that phone every minute he is awake. When his dad gets home, he watches his dad play video games all day. The funny thing being of all my cousins I think she is the best mom.

I don't like her. Even if I did like her, I'd be annoyed if she assumed. My coworker did the polite thing: asked first. And it does make a huge difference that his 7 year old behaves better than my cousin's mom.

I want a stress free day. Both for my anxiety and for my mom who has poured her heart and soul into this party. She's not going to watch her kid, which means I have to or find someone who will. Which is not my job especially at my baby shower.



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 02:22 AM   29
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Hopefully you're just overthinking it and he'll be entertained. Dollar stores have stickers too btw! My 2 year old is VERY sticker motivated.

I vote if mom doesn't watch her kid, give him extra ice cream before sending him home. That being said, I hate how much tv time my 2 year old gets, so no judgement here - I usually don't have help when DH is away at work and I'm in my last quarter of school full of projects and research papers. The only time school work gets done is if she's watching a movie.



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 07:07 AM   30
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I would just uninvite them all I'm not sure why she's invited in the first place, granted I've only skimread the thread so maybe I've missed something but it doesn't sound like you like her or her kids being present, so why invite her in the first place?



 
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