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Old May 18th, 2017, 09:12 AM   31
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I don't judge other moms. I just judge the crap out of my cousins. They are a drain on society and my patience. But still family.

I hope the dollar tree stuff does the trick. Especially now that SO's judgemental, racist mom might come. Last thing I need is drama.

I'm probably stressing over nothing but my anxiety disorder has to crop up somewhere =\



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 11:00 AM   32
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Showers aren't really that big over in England, I've probably being to 2/3 in the past 5 years, and they are definitely not done on the same scale, i have to agree with crw, why are they invited if you don't want them there? Especially if you feel that they will ruin it?



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 11:11 AM   33
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No comment on the cousin issue, it sounds like you know best on how to handle it.

But in general, you may want to lower your expectations a bit for the shower. Things can, and will, go wrong (they do at every event) but that's part of the fun.

I am sure that regardless of you cousin, your mom will have a blast because her daughter is having a baby!



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 12:23 PM   34
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Ty ladies. I had very low expectations but I spent the last few weekends planning with my mom. She's really going through a lot of trouble decorating and doing things I never thought I would have. Plus I get to see a bunch of friends I rarely get to see since I moved across the bay.

As for my cousin... she's family. I don't believe in duty/obligation/unconditional love (in case that wasn't super obvious lol) but my mom does though. Idk why. Bleeding heart. Love her.



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 22:32 PM   35
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I have 3 kids aged 5,3 and 1 and I have neve brought any of them to a bridal or baby shower. For me, it largely depends on the age of the children but there's no way I'd bring a 2 year old let alone a 5 month old. I also like to enjoy a nice kid free afternoon with the ladies at these events but that's me. That being said, you can't really say much about it now though. The dollar store idea is a great one! Just set up a little kiddie table for him. For the record you aren't "weird" for not wanting a toddler at your baby shower-- I get it



 
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Old May 19th, 2017, 21:43 PM   36
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Kids have generally gone to baby showers that I've been to, but usually not a lot (like my sils will usually only take theirs if their husbands are working). I don't as it's never been an issue to have dh watch the kids (it's nice to get out without them every so often).

Wedding showers are hit and miss. I think it just really depends on the person. It's usually on the invite if no kids are allowed. If it doesn't say and it's questionable, we ask (but usually we know the person well enough to know if it's ok or not).

In the event that i/we do take the kids (though it's been awhile), if they start getting too restless / bored / whiney / crying, we step out, try to calm them. If that doesn't work, we head out (but that never really happened until we spent sufficient time). That's us, though.

Hopefully the dollar store stuff helps. I'm sorry you're put in the position to have your cousin there. Your history with her sounds awful. I dealt hope tomorrow turns out nice for you



 
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Old May 20th, 2017, 01:12 AM   37
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Well now I'm on to SO's mom is coming and my cousin's mom is a low class headcase. And she gets my mom to act stupid, too. And SO's parents already hate me/this is the first they are meeting my family. Ugvocoxyxtcyofifoycycyo

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Old May 20th, 2017, 03:48 AM   38
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Honestly, you need to stop it all. If your mum cares about you and baby she won't mind people being uninvited, there needs to be a point at which you stop it.

It's going to happen if you don't say anything to anyone. I know if I was having a baby shower and people were coming that I didn't like I'd step in and say 'listen, these aren't nice people and being as it's my shower, I don't want them there'.



 
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Old May 20th, 2017, 09:05 AM   39
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Well I don't have those kinds of cahones. It's not that they aren't nice. My cousin is just two faced and you can't trust her. My auntie acts like a drunk person 24/7 (she doesn't drink just complete lack of filter). Any other day, I really don't mind being around them.

But it's Shower day and I can't wait to see my cake! Everyone and everything can just bugger off cuz cake, cake, I'm gonna get cake! I don't even have the urge to eat cake. I just want cake.



 
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Old May 20th, 2017, 10:50 AM   40
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I don't know, my shower went by in such a blur I didn't even notice who was as there. I understand you don't like these people but I think you probably won't notice much of what's going on once you're there. It really is a very quick party.



 
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