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Old Aug 3rd, 2017, 09:13 AM   1
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OB brings up my weight at every visit 😫


Seriously. Can I just go the next 4 weeks without being told about my weight gain? I already feel huge the way it is. The baby is healthy, I haven't had many issues....please refrain from telling me I'm a fatass for 4 more weeks, please. I'll lose the weight!!!



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2017, 21:01 PM   2
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Mine did this once near the beginning of my pregnancy. I just told him I wasn't worried because I knew I would lose it after the baby was born, as I always have. He went into some lame explanation about how a lot of women lose all but the last 10-15 pounds and he didn't want to see me be the woman that consistently gains 10 pounds with each pregnancy because I can't lose it afterwards. I think I just looked at him and said, thanks for your concern, but I am not worried. And moved on. Sometimes they can be so rude!!



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2017, 21:33 PM   3
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Mine did this once near the beginning of my pregnancy. I just told him I wasn't worried because I knew I would lose it after the baby was born, as I always have. He went into some lame explanation about how a lot of women lose all but the last 10-15 pounds and he didn't want to see me be the woman that consistently gains 10 pounds with each pregnancy because I can't lose it afterwards. I think I just looked at him and said, thanks for your concern, but I am not worried. And moved on. Sometimes they can be so rude!!


Thank you !! Glad someone empathizes with me, but not glad we had to experience being told those things!

I have another appointment coming up in a few days and if they tell me again, I'm prepared to tell them that my BP has been good, baby has been good, my tests came back normal so please don't bring up my weight to me anymore lol.



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2017, 22:37 PM   4
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I had the polar opposite of this problem , I had gained the highest amount I was meant to have gained by the point I was seen . My consultant said that "I looked like I was purposely starving myself to stay small and that I should see a dietitian " luckily the midwife I had previously was there as her assistant that day and told her that she was being ridiculous and that I was just naturally very small as she had seen me before and during and after baby and although I was very small during I was allot smaller before and after . She also explained that this time my bump was bigger then before and babys weight was on track . Some of them don't think at all . It doesn't matter what side of the scale you are it's insulting when someone thinks your stupid or unaware of how you look , I honestly feel your pain after this appointment I told my mil and she said well you can't blame her you do look like a crack head sometimes . I was like oh thanks confidence boost or what people are mean and if they say anything about your weight threaten to eat them I do



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2017, 01:32 AM   5
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Seriously. Can I just go the next 4 weeks without being told about my weight gain? I already feel huge the way it is. The baby is healthy, I haven't had many issues....please refrain from telling me I'm a fatass for 4 more weeks, please. I'll lose the weight!!!
If you don't mind me asking, what are you weighing at the moment? I was 79kg at the start of this pregnancy and I HATE to think how much weight I have gained in the 14 week because I have such a weakness to sweet and sugary food - not really ideal considering I was treated for GD with DS3.

In all honesty, your weight should NOT be an issue if you are comfortable with your body and some doctors are just straight to the point and down right rude. If it was the reason for health issues before pregnancy, then maybe it's a different story but to be told your a 'fatass' either direct or indirectly is just disrespectful.



 
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Old Aug 6th, 2017, 14:07 PM   6
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Seriously. Can I just go the next 4 weeks without being told about my weight gain? I already feel huge the way it is. The baby is healthy, I haven't had many issues....please refrain from telling me I'm a fatass for 4 more weeks, please. I'll lose the weight!!!
If you don't mind me asking, what are you weighing at the moment? I was 79kg at the start of this pregnancy and I HATE to think how much weight I have gained in the 14 week because I have such a weakness to sweet and sugary food - not really ideal considering I was treated for GD with DS3.

In all honesty, your weight should NOT be an issue if you are comfortable with your body and some doctors are just straight to the point and down right rude. If it was the reason for health issues before pregnancy, then maybe it's a different story but to be told your a 'fatass' either direct or indirectly is just disrespectful.
Hi! Sweets are very hard to resist during pregnancy! Hang in there.

I was a size 2-4 at the start of my pregnancy. Around 134 pounds. I tested negative for GD and my thyroid has been normal for most of my pregnancy. Everyone around me is shocked that my doctors keep mentioning my weight because I look healthy and normal! I don't know. It's frustrating. I don't know how much I have gained because I don't look (I had an eating disorder for many years so I avoid the scale).



 
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Hi! Sweets are very hard to resist during pregnancy! Hang in there.

I was a size 2-4 at the start of my pregnancy. Around 134 pounds. I tested negative for GD and my thyroid has been normal for most of my pregnancy. Everyone around me is shocked that my doctors keep mentioning my weight because I look healthy and normal! I don't know. It's frustrating. I don't know how much I have gained because I don't look (I had an eating disorder for many years so I avoid the scale).
I'm actually expecting to need the Insulin to be honest. I'm so damn weak!

Size 2-4 and around 59-61kg?! And your 'gaining too much weight'?! Bloody Hell. That's what I would call a standard healthy weight if you look at the average person!! I hate to think about what he would say about me being an average size 12-16 and 79kg!! What a rude p***k!! He needs a damn good slap around the head because it sounds like his mother never taught him any manners!



 
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Old Aug 7th, 2017, 08:35 AM   8
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Hi! Sweets are very hard to resist during pregnancy! Hang in there.

I was a size 2-4 at the start of my pregnancy. Around 134 pounds. I tested negative for GD and my thyroid has been normal for most of my pregnancy. Everyone around me is shocked that my doctors keep mentioning my weight because I look healthy and normal! I don't know. It's frustrating. I don't know how much I have gained because I don't look (I had an eating disorder for many years so I avoid the scale).
I'm actually expecting to need the Insulin to be honest. I'm so damn weak!

Size 2-4 and around 59-61kg?! And your 'gaining too much weight'?! Bloody Hell. That's what I would call a standard healthy weight if you look at the average person!! I hate to think about what he would say about me being an average size 12-16 and 79kg!! What a rude p***k!! He needs a damn good slap around the head because it sounds like his mother never taught him any manners!

Oh no!!! Maybe you will surprise yourself. I was worried I would need it because I was eating a lot of sweets around the time I had to be tested for it! Maybe you will not have it.

Thanks!! It's tough because I see so many different doctors and almost all of them at all of my recent visits look at my chart and mention it

I have an appointment tomorrow and if they bring it up again, I'm just going to kindly tell them that unless I have health issues they come up to please just don't mention it anymore and let me have a peaceful last few weeks of being pregnant lol.



 
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