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Old Aug 8th, 2017, 06:18 AM   11
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I got this 5 minutes ago from a colleague who works remotely (so we don't see much of each other). I'm only 32 weeks...



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Old Aug 8th, 2017, 06:54 AM   12
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http://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

I found this website when I was pregnant last time (I went two weeks overdue....). I never had the guts to send the link to anyone as a response to those annoying messages, but I really wanted to 😂.



 
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Old Aug 8th, 2017, 07:41 AM   13
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http://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

I found this website when I was pregnant last time (I went two weeks overdue....). I never had the guts to send the link to anyone as a response to those annoying messages, but I really wanted to 😂.
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Old Aug 8th, 2017, 08:01 AM   14
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I just put a status on Facebook for my profile photo stating that I would not be accepting any such messages nor would I respond to them. It also said that I will announce the birth of my baby when I am ready and I would appreciate that people be considerate of this and not post on Facebook. Mind you, I don't tend to give out my due date to anyone but close family for that very reason.
I get that it sucks and it's annoying, I do, but I think that's just rude of you. Makes you sound very entitled. They are excited for you. They aren't trying to hurt you, and it just makes you sound really rude and dismissive of those who care.



 
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Oh god, i forgot about that. I went 16 days over so you can imagine. I think people started to loose interest after day 13 haha



 
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Old Aug 8th, 2017, 20:15 PM   16
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I just put a status on Facebook for my profile photo stating that I would not be accepting any such messages nor would I respond to them. It also said that I will announce the birth of my baby when I am ready and I would appreciate that people be considerate of this and not post on Facebook. Mind you, I don't tend to give out my due date to anyone but close family for that very reason.
I have deleted my Facebook for the same reason! After some random "announced" the birth of my cousins baby on her page before she had the chance to! I wish I'd given my due date 2 weeks later than it actually is!



 
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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 03:16 AM   17
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I get that it sucks and it's annoying, I do, but I think that's just rude of you. Makes you sound very entitled. They are excited for you. They aren't trying to hurt you, and it just makes you sound really rude and dismissive of those who care.
A lot of it has to do with what I dealt with when I found out I was pregnant with DS3. I was NOT happy. In fact, I was a mess. I didn't want to be pregnant. I wasn't in the right place mentally or emotionally for a baby. You see, I'd only told hubby, my MIL and a friend I was actually making a considerable purchase from. And I only told her because it meant I could no longer keep my commitment and I felt it important she knew why. The friend was bailed up by a so-called friend because I'd dropped something off to her for her father and I looked like shit. I'd A: just found out I was pregnant and didn't want to talk about it (in fact, hubby didn't even know because I'd dropped in what I had to do before I went home from the doctor) and B: I'd only had a couple of hours sleep as I'd been up babysitting a 2 year old all night. She got her nose out of joint, 'shared' news that was never confirmed and let me wide open and exposed on what was not a happy time at all. Hence why I am the way I am. But I am actually quite polite about it. I know people are excited but they also need to realize it's our news, our baby and it's our news to share - not everyone else's if that makes sense. We seem to have a fair few family members who feel it is up to them to announce which is why we only tell a very small group.
I don't tell anyone when I am in labour except who is watching the kids because me personally, I don't like people knowing I'm in pain or giving birth. It makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't know why. We generally keep the birth to ourselves for a couple of days except for immediate family so we only tell our parents and siblings. No visitors for the first 24 hours - that's for our other children to form a bond and for me to get some rest. Other immediate family after that but we do ask for a phone call first. And friends who are not a large part of our lives we ask to give a couple of weeks to settle into a routine and so I can start getting back to normal. If I can find the image I used I'll share it. It was just a friendly reminder really. But this pregnancy I haven't told a lot of people and I have not (and will not) put it up on Facebook. I want her birth to be a surprise to most. This is #4 for us and I can't be bothered with the 'was 2 not enough', 'don't you know what birth control is' etc. At least if there is a baby already here, I'm not dealing with having to explain our choices because everyone will be asking the complete opposite.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?f...type=3&theater Not too sure if you will be able to see it with my privacy settings but this is what it was. Nice, polite and just reminding others that while it is exciting, to remember not to share our news.



 
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I have deleted my Facebook for the same reason! After some random "announced" the birth of my cousins baby on her page before she had the chance to! I wish I'd given my due date 2 weeks later than it actually is!
That's not fair at all! That is her news. See, I didn't even have to give birth for it to be plastered all over social media. It was a so-called friend who felt that she was 'entitled' to know what was going on and told everyone without any confirmation at all! So as you can imagine, I was bombed with questions of being pregnant when I was never really in any frame of mind to deal with a pregnancy. Needless to say, I have NOTHING to do with her. Hubby and her husband still speak because they are friends from way back - I just refuse to let her have anything to do with my children now due to her actions. He and his boys still visit. I didn't want him and seriously considered termination. ADHD with DS2 took the joy out of parenting for me. But he's here now and I can't believe I didn't want him! And DS2 although still feral, has calmed down a lot because he's got this baby to look out for.



 
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I've been getting this too!!! I snapped at someone the other day and said 'can I at least get to my due date?!'



 
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I have deleted my Facebook for the same reason! After some random "announced" the birth of my cousins baby on her page before she had the chance to! I wish I'd given my due date 2 weeks later than it actually is!
That's not fair at all! That is her news. See, I didn't even have to give birth for it to be plastered all over social media. It was a so-called friend who felt that she was 'entitled' to know what was going on and told everyone without any confirmation at all! So as you can imagine, I was bombed with questions of being pregnant when I was never really in any frame of mind to deal with a pregnancy. Needless to say, I have NOTHING to do with her. Hubby and her husband still speak because they are friends from way back - I just refuse to let her have anything to do with my children now due to her actions. He and his boys still visit. I didn't want him and seriously considered termination. ADHD with DS2 took the joy out of parenting for me. But he's here now and I can't believe I didn't want him! And DS2 although still feral, has calmed down a lot because he's got this baby to look out for.
Aww I feel for you that must have been hard for you. I do get it though as until I had confirmation that this pregnancy didn't have certain abnormalities I wasn't 100% set on going through with it either, for many reasons it's not needed to go into but I know some of what you went through. Hoping you are in a better place now?xxx



 
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