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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 08:36 AM   21
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I just put a status on Facebook for my profile photo stating that I would not be accepting any such messages nor would I respond to them. It also said that I will announce the birth of my baby when I am ready and I would appreciate that people be considerate of this and not post on Facebook. Mind you, I don't tend to give out my due date to anyone but close family for that very reason.
I get that it sucks and it's annoying, I do, but I think that's just rude of you. Makes you sound very entitled. They are excited for you. They aren't trying to hurt you, and it just makes you sound really rude and dismissive of those who care.
Actually I think Wacky is quite entitled! Entitled to her privacy, entitled to share her news with whomever she chooses to or chooses not to, entitled to be the only person announcing the birth of her child. Don't you think?



 
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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 08:40 AM   22
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It is maddening!!!! My fifth baby just came 8 days late, and I am as already being asked at least six times per day if the baby was here yet, when I was only 38 weeks along!!!!!! I was so annoyed. I was enjoying the last of my pregnancy as well as I could. I ended up putting everyone who asked on silent (or do not disturb on my iPhone) and only accepted calls and texts from my immediate family. And believe me, my mom and sister pestered enough about it. Ha



 
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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 10:28 AM   23
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It is maddening!!!! My fifth baby just came 8 days late, and I am as already being asked at least six times per day if the baby was here yet, when I was only 38 weeks along!!!!!! I was so annoyed. I was enjoying the last of my pregnancy as well as I could. I ended up putting everyone who asked on silent (or do not disturb on my iPhone) and only accepted calls and texts from my immediate family. And believe me, my mom and sister pestered enough about it. Ha
Oh now that's an idea, I didn't realise you could do that on iPhone, I'll be doing that tonight!



 
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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 10:42 AM   24
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Tip for people on facebook fearing that someone will spill the beans before you yourself can: in privacy settings you can take away people's ability to tag you AND to be able to post on your timeline!

We did that with DS. After we saw that my cousin had her baby and within two minutes of the birth her mom was all over facebook stating that she had become a grandmother and what the baby's name was and weight etc etc etc.
The mom removed it after a couple of hours, I imagine she got a very very stern talking to from her daughter lol

We are going to do the same with this baby. Just not taking the risk!


With my DS I didn't get the questions since he was born premature, but now people that I never talk to are like: "AREN"T YOU ALMOST READY TO POP??"

And I'm like: Well yeah, since 23 weeks actually and on bedrest for that, thank you.

Eff off



 
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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 11:28 AM   25
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One of the small perks of no one caring about your third child is, that no one cares to ask about your labor.

I have had one or two people ask "how I'm feeling" today, but that is it. No one has asked about labor or the baby, except you know cashiers and stuff asking when I'm due - when they find out it was last week they are all pretty shocked.

But yeah, I guess one way to look at it if you are being asked is at least someone cares, the alternative might not be as pleasant as you think it is.



 
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Old Aug 9th, 2017, 13:14 PM   26
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This is why I don't ever post anything online about being pregnant. My family doesn't ever ask questions, and the few friends I have who actually see me in person don't ever seem to ask aside from maybe once a week.



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One of the small perks of no one caring about your third child is, that no one cares to ask about your labor.

I have had one or two people ask "how I'm feeling" today, but that is it. No one has asked about labor or the baby, except you know cashiers and stuff asking when I'm due - when they find out it was last week they are all pretty shocked.

But yeah, I guess one way to look at it if you are being asked is at least someone cares, the alternative might not be as pleasant as you think it is.
Yeah I do like when someone in a shop etc asks and I say yesterday and the sheer look of panic that goes across their face is priceless! Errr, don't worry he's not about to fall right out! Although it would be great if he did! 🤣🤣🤣



 
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I have deleted my Facebook for the same reason! After some random "announced" the birth of my cousins baby on her page before she had the chance to! I wish I'd given my due date 2 weeks later than it actually is!
That's not fair at all! That is her news. See, I didn't even have to give birth for it to be plastered all over social media. It was a so-called friend who felt that she was 'entitled' to know what was going on and told everyone without any confirmation at all! So as you can imagine, I was bombed with questions of being pregnant when I was never really in any frame of mind to deal with a pregnancy. Needless to say, I have NOTHING to do with her. Hubby and her husband still speak because they are friends from way back - I just refuse to let her have anything to do with my children now due to her actions. He and his boys still visit. I didn't want him and seriously considered termination. ADHD with DS2 took the joy out of parenting for me. But he's here now and I can't believe I didn't want him! And DS2 although still feral, has calmed down a lot because he's got this baby to look out for.
Aww I feel for you that must have been hard for you. I do get it though as until I had confirmation that this pregnancy didn't have certain abnormalities I wasn't 100% set on going through with it either, for many reasons it's not needed to go into but I know some of what you went through. Hoping you are in a better place now?xxx
Thank you. When you don't want something and trying to process it the last thing you need is someone making it public. It was bad enough I had to deal with an unplanned pregnancy but to have my emotions plastered all over the place and being questioned why I 'chose' to have another baby when I didn't want one really affected me. It took me a LONG time to actually WANT him. I wanted a termination at first but felt terrible when I had my first ultrasound. It wasn't until probably the last trimester I started to get really excited. Took a lot to get to that point - sometimes I was excited, other times I was TERRIFIED because we still weren't being taken seriously about DS2's meds for his ADHD. In fact, that got very ugly so pregnancy didn't help because we were concerned about baby's safety. Around 34 weeks we finally got meds sorted, balanced and the nurse who kept causing me issues a formal warning because I'd decided that I was heading over to the office with an un-medicated child (he's at the severe end of the spectrum so he's really, really hard work) and I was NOT going to try and keep him calm until I was seen. Needless to say, that took less than 10 minutes and his Psychiatrist was FUMING because he'd been trying to get hold of me and the nurse in question kept telling him everything was fine. But I had him at 38 weeks and my heart melted. He was meant to be there. I connected with him then and I couldn't change him for the world.

Sarah1980, I am glad that what was hard for you as well became, in time, a happy part of your life. It's always such a weight lifted when you discover that you aren't alone in what feels like an empty abyss. People who can support and understand a situation makes it easier to do what is best for one's needs and mental state of mind.



 
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Old Aug 15th, 2017, 07:55 AM   29
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My family has been doing this to me lately so I finally texted everyone a "if you don't hear from me there is no change!" Ugh. It's so frustrating! Then there are the coworkers. Some are funny and some are just annoying about it.

We are tired and having to face labor. At least leave us alone long enough to do it!!



 
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