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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 08:48 AM   11
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Ok so our situations aren't exactly the same but I am having my first csection with this baby after having a vaginal delivery of my first baby. While I am in no way looking forward to having a csection simply because it is major surgery and the recovery time is typically longer, I have been trying to come up with some positives of having a csection. This is my own list to try to make myself feel better. I welcome anyone to add to it..especially those who have already had a csection!!

1. We know exactly when the birth will be so we can let family know if we wish to do so and planning for everything is just easier.

2. We do NOT have to go through labor. I do not regret having my daughter vaginally but labor was LONG and strenuous. I do not mind skipping that part!

3. We will generally get more help. People seem to go out of their way to be helpful when they find out it will be a csection. I already have friends and family willing to help with my 3 year old, dog, and household stuff after the baby is born. I didn't have that much willing help the first time around!!

4. An extra day in the hospital. If this was my first baby, I would look at that as a negative but now that this is round two, I welcome all the help I can get especially right at the beginning of my recovery! The nurses are amazing and such a tremendous help while in the hospital. Plus, even though it's hospital food, it is SO nice having someone serve you three meals a day that you don't have to cook or clean up after! Haha.

5. The procedure itself is relatively quick. My doctor aims to have the baby out, my tubes tied, and me sewn back up within 45 minutes. My "repair work" after having my daughter took over an hour, 19 hours of labor, and 1.5 hours of pushing.

6. Our vaginas will remain intact! LOL. Yes, we will be recovering from a major abdominal surgery, but we don't have to deal with the trauma that can happen to your lady bits. I had a 3rd degree episiotomy with over 100 stitches and 6ish months to completely heal from. I don't mind skipping that part!



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 09:28 AM   12
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That's a great list of pros. I agree 100%. For me I chose to have a c section because I suffer from anxiety - with medical stuff. So a planned section alleviated all of that. I also plan to stay in the hospital the extra day (I left early last time - the next day) and get the continued support.

Overall the recovery was long, but not awful. It IS major surgery and painful but if you're planning to get your tubes tied, it kills two birds with one stone lol. I think your pros are great and all of my pros are the same. It's so nice to have the day planned, get your ducks in a row and skip the painful hours of labour.



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 12:35 PM   13
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Thanks ladies. What a wonderful way to make ourselves feel better about getting a csection. I've thought of all those things and more and while I feel better about likely needing a section I can't help but feel like I'm missing out on an integral part of pregnancy/labor/birth and the stigma that goes with it. Silly of me since I intellectually know I can try for a VBAC with kiddo #2 someday.

I'd love to hear more pros if anyone has them!



 
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Old Aug 28th, 2017, 17:26 PM   14
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Pregnancy/labour/birth are what you make it - there's always stigma about something.



 
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Pregnancy/labour/birth are what you make it - there's always stigma about something.
Very wise, thank you! :-)



 
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Old Aug 30th, 2017, 11:10 AM   16
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And don't give up hope! There's still a real possibility that the baby can flip and you can have a vaginal delivery. My sister in law ended up with a csection at the very end because her baby flipped breech during labor! I know it seems squished in there but sometime they do get themselves flipped around.



 
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Old Aug 30th, 2017, 18:05 PM   17
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And don't give up hope! There's still a real possibility that the baby can flip and you can have a vaginal delivery. My sister in law ended up with a csection at the very end because her baby flipped breech during labor! I know it seems squished in there but sometime they do get themselves flipped around.
I keep hearing and reading stories of women whose breech babies flipped head down during labor. Unfortunately, my hospital won't allow me to go into labor on my own. If the baby is breech and an ECV doesn't work they schedule for a c-section at exactly 39 weeks. Not 39+1 or 38+6.... but 39 exactly and won't deviate. I think it's because the hospital is a smaller community hospital and their policies are to protect against liability... or something. The states is suit a lawsuit happy place I wouldn't be surprised....

I feel like she is dropping now at 36 weeks. I just want her to turn, darn it!!



 
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Old Aug 30th, 2017, 19:28 PM   18
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I had my birth plan all worked out by 20 weeks, water birth, gas and air, relaxation techniques, music playlist - the works! It all went out the window when my baby was delivered by emergency c-section at 27 weeks. I have to say that the c-section itself was actually totally fine. I had a great midwife (who I met about hour before baby was born) who told me I was in charge and that this was still MY birthing experience even if it was different to how I'd hoped. Although everything I'd planned went out the window she found a radio station playing songs I liked (it did not think I'd be listening to Bon Jovi - go RockFM), I was terrified of the spinal block so put into practice my relaxation breathing and then we found the one thing in my birth plan that we could still do! I wanted my husband to tell me the baby's sex. Having that one thing I'd planned still be part of our birthing experience was so special.

Recovery for me was super easy. I was told by a very wise woman (my mum) that to recover from a c-section stand tall and pull everything in - don't slouch or hunch over. It seems wrong, but I healed much quicker than the other mums with c-sections in the NICU. It means that everything heals in the correct place, rather than healing slouched over and then trying to stretch everything back out again which prolongs the process. It was uncomfortable but not painful.

I do know what you mean about missing out though. I do sometimes wish that I had at least had some contractions or something just to know what it feels like, but honestly, in the big picture that doesn't matter. I 'plan' a vaginal birth next time - but won't expect my birth to go to plan!

My best advice is focus on the things that you do have control of on the day. Having that one tiny thing on my birth plan (DH telling me if we had a boy or a girl) was so special and felt like my plans were still important.

Good luck whichever way your birth experience goes.



 
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