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Old Aug 26th, 2017, 07:06 AM   1
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Coming to terms with needing a section. Looking for reassurance


At 28 weeks my LO flipped breech and I started Spinning Babies, chiropractor. I was told at next visit she was head down and was happy. My mw didn't do an ultrasound. Fast forward to yesterday (35+1) I saw another mw (same group) who did a scan because she wasn't sure the position and it turns out my LO is breech. I have a theory she never flipped to begin with as I never felt any big movement.

Now we are talking about doing a version which scares me. And then a likely cesarean if it doesn't work. Knowing the odds are not great for a successful version, I have all but resigned myself to a cesarean.

I've been crying since I left the mw office. I really wanted a natural birth. Was looking forward to it. I had these ideas of a water birth and being at home.... and though I kept telling myself I'd be fine with whatever happens and that I shouldn't PLAN.... its hitting me hard. I think harder than it would normally because I spent the last 5 weeks thinking she was head down and I was in the clear. Now she's getting too big to flip on her own.

I haven't given up all hope. Still seeing my chiropractor. But I can't afford to go 4x/week as recommended between work schedule and my insurance not covering any treatment. I am going to try moxibustion this week sometime.


I dunno, I'm looking for some reassurance from women in similar situations. DH is wonderful and full of optimism, but it just isn't the same.



 
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Old Aug 26th, 2017, 15:42 PM   2
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Don't give up hope that baby will flip head down. It can happen. My baby was breech til 32 weeks and the chiropractor got him/her to flip with a pelvic adjustment as well as some round ligament release/massage. I never felt the baby flip either but the dr confirmed with an ultrasound the day after my adjustment that baby was head down.

Also DS flipped breech at 34 weeks but flipped back head down on his own at 35 weeks. That time I did feel a big movement. And a sis-in-law of mine had her baby flip breech at 32 weeks but the dr attempted an aversion at 37 weeks. It worked and baby stayed head down after that.

Not all hope is lost. Just do what you can and hope for the best and FX baby will flip head down in time.

But if you need a c-section, try and look at it as a good thing. Either way, you'll have your baby even if it's not the birth of your dreams.



 
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Old Aug 26th, 2017, 15:51 PM   3
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I had a csection because my second was breech. He flipped breech at 33 weeks and didn't budge. It was fine. Sometimes births don't go how we want and at the end of things it's one day in a whole lifetime of mothering.



 
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Old Aug 26th, 2017, 18:14 PM   4
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I lost it when I was told I'd have to have one, cried for days and was so anxious and upset. I gradually came to accept it and by the end I just couldn't have cared less I wanted the pregnancy over with. Honestly, it was a good experience for me. Recovery was not bad and I am more than happy with my birth experience. I didn't have that mythical natural birth but I like to think I probably wouldn't have been all that thrilled with it because I was so uncomfortable and in so much pain at the end anyways that I couldn't handle any more during labor. Quick and painless was best for me at the time, my morale was seriously low by the end.



 
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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 02:39 AM   5
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My sister in law is a midwife and she's delivered breech babies at home births. I'm not sure of the individual circumstances or your individual circumstances but breeched babies can be born vaginally!



 
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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 08:56 AM   6
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My sister in law is a midwife and she's delivered breech babies at home births. I'm not sure of the individual circumstances or your individual circumstances but breeched babies can be born vaginally!
Sarah sometimes they can but many times providers do not allow for it. Some women are also uncomfortable with the risks and many times it's not recommended for first time moms. It drove me insane when people would ask why I didn't try a breech vaginal birth with my second but the fact is, he even got stuck during the c section. So there's often good reason women have sections instead of trying breech delivery.



 
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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 11:11 AM   7
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The risks for delivering a breech baby are worth mentioning again, and like you mentioned many places will not even attempt it. It can be very risky for both mom and baby.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time coming to terms with possibly needing a c section. I hope that you find some comfort in whatever happens. I'm the opposite - I had an elective c section the first time, and will be having another one with this baby. Every person is different, but it's definitely difficult when you have your mind set on something, and it goes another way. If it helps, I loved my c section (aside from recovery obviously), and can offer many pros should you need to go that route.

I hope you're doing okay...



 
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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 14:20 PM   8
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Thanks ladies.

No midwives in the group I'm seeing deliver breech babies vaginally. TBH, it's not something I'm comfortable with regardless because of the risks. I also don't want to switch midwives at 36 weeks either to find another who does deliver vaginally only to have a c section in the end if something goes wrong. As of now my midwife group works closely with the OB/GYN group across the hall from them. I know a few of the OB's and would feel okay with them performing surgery. I know it'll be okay in the end, but I just don't like the reality of it.

Apparently there is a genetic link. If mom or dad were breech at birth then their offspring are 2x more likely to have a breech baby. I was delivered via csection because I was breech. Go figure.



 
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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 15:30 PM   9
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So sorry you can't have the dream birth you had your heart set on. I can't either because of complications but what's helping me cope is knowing i did and am doing everything that's best for the baby, and in the end all that matters is to hold the lo safely in my arms. I know it sucks when things don't go as planned, I was really devastated at first, and considering how much effort you put in i can only imagine how awful it must feel. But try to think of the result and the wonderful life ahead you will have with this baby. :fx: you still have a positive birth experience



 
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Old Aug 27th, 2017, 15:35 PM   10
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No that's fine, sorry I didn't mean to overstep the mark there. I just wanted to let you know that here it's quite common to try if the women wishes to and there aren't any other complicating factors. I wasn't sure from reading if you were being told you needed a c section when you weren't sure if you did and were trying to find a way of avoiding it at this stage. I wish you all the best and a happy and healthy mum and bub



 
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